Before I became a nurse, another nurse told me that I needed to learn how to remove the emotional side of myself when caring for patients because it wasn't good to get attached that way. I never took her advice. I am emotional in a good way just as I am emotional in ways that are not good for me. This is not one of them. It is OKAY to show emotion with your patients, especially the long term patients that you can't help but become attached too emotionally.
If I lose a patient that was close to me, and the family was very dear to me, I cry along with them, hug them, and am there for them if they need me.
A lot of what we feel inside comes with the package. Take it or leave it. I say NEVER be afraid to show healthy emotions in critical situations such as losing a patient, embracing family and patients you have come to know and truly care for. I'm not talking about sobbing every time something happens with a patient. I'm talking about being real with your patients and their family members. No one wants a phony taking care of them.