I really worry about when I become a nurse because I get attached to people VERY easily. I'm so afraid that I won't be able to control my emotions if I see something horrible or if one of my patients dies. Even my hubby has mentioned that he doesn't know if I'll be able to handle it. I WANT to be a nurse because I love helping people. How do you keep your emotions under control? Is it something you can get in trouble for?
My mom had the most wonderful nurse that was preparing her for an emergency heart bypass. She cried and cried with our family and I kept saying to myself "This nurse really cares. She's got a heart of gold", but I don't know if that kind of reaction is "acceptable".
Jun 26, '05
by llg, BSN, MSN, PhD
Perhaps it would help you to think in terms of controling your "actions" instead of controling your "emotions."
We feel what we feel. Acknowledge those feelings and then focus on how you can best help the patient. As long as you are focusing on helping the patient, your actions will probably be just fine.
I have seen a few nurses get so focused on their emotions that they stop being a help to the patient. That's not good. In those cases, the nurse's actions become more about what feels good for her instead of being what is best for the patient. But the answer to that potential problem is NOT to try to not have the emotions. Those emotions keep us human and keep us compassionate. The trick is to acknowledge those emotions openly and then find a productive way to put those emotions to work -- fueling your efforts to help the patient.
Last edit by llg on Jun 26, '05
I am a patient. If something were to go wrong with me after one of my surgeries I would want a nurse who was emotionally there for me and my family. Empathy and Sympathy are both extreamly good emotions for a nurse to have.
Also Cute CNA I disagree with you. You SHOULD treat your patients like your friends. You may be the one person who truely understands what they are going through since you probably will have seen it before. Quite often that is presicly what a patient needs, a friend who understands what they are going through.
Last edit by lpnstudentin2010 on Jun 26, '05