How do I explain to hubby

  1. Here's the deal - I'm am - ok WAS - a pretty shy individual especially when it came to, um, certain things.

    As a future nurse, I have had patients that are men....with, um, parts

    HAHAHAHAH seriously I have had absolutely NO problems with these patients - my husband, however, cannot understand how his "shy wife" is capable of d/c ing a foley on a male patient without batting an eyelash! I've tried to explain that it's "clinical" but he doesn't get it and I think it may bug him that I have taken care of a several men, a couple who were bedbound and required full bed baths, etc.

    Any advice, suggestions you guys can supply will be greatly appreciated!!!

    Thanks everyone!!!
    Shelly
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  2. 43 Comments

  3. by   researchrabbit
    It's just another body part on a sick person.

    Show him a film or actual pics of how to put a foley in a male and I think he'll see it's nothing sexual. And after that, he'll probably wish he'd never said anything.
  4. by   cindyln
    It's the same for male ob/gyn's. It's just a part of the body,nothing sexual about it and you get pretty tired of looking at it all day also.
  5. by   NurseShell
    Originally posted by researchrabbit
    It's just another body part on a sick person.

    Show him a film or actual pics of how to put a foley in a male and I think he'll see it's nothing sexual. And after that, he'll probably wish he'd never said anything.
    HEE HEE HEE - what an excellent idea! I wonder if they'd let me check out the video we watched in class - all the guys groaned and slid under their desks!!

    Thanks!
  6. by   OBNURSEHEATHER
    My hubby is pretty happy that I don't see any male parts, except, well, baby ones.

    Heather
  7. by   jemb
    So he thinks you're going to molest the unconscious ones or what?

    Seriously, has he ever been a patient --even in a doctor's office? The patient is a client, or customer, and you as a nurse are performing a task, nothing more. Maybe it would help if he can relate it to his own experiences of being the client.
  8. by   Emery
    I don't have a hubby!!
  9. by   NurseShell
    Originally posted by jemb


    Seriously, has he ever been a patient --even in a doctor's office?
    He HATES the doctor's office, and no, he hasn't been an inpatient before. He freaks out for days after any sort of "exam" - took me three years to convince him to get "fixed" - so, basically, he's a bit warped in this department. Drives me nuts!!
  10. by   kimtab
    How about bringing a Foley kit home and demonstarting just how sexy it is--on him. That oughta learn 'em.
  11. by   hapeewendy
    its very simple , you explain to him that after looking at shrivled sick penii all day , it makes his uhhhh parts look EVEN better to you...
    there is nothing sexay about sick ppl.... period.
    I'm surprised that this issue even comes up (NO PUN INTENDED)
    I mean really , when you see penii all day you get pretty blase about it .... but when ur not working , at home with the man you love and are attracted to , its a different story alltogether
    he probably just needs some affirmation and reassurance or something ....
    personally I'd copy tons of pictures from my textbooks of shrivled sick lookin penii and make them into an educational poster for him
  12. by   dianthe1013
    ...I'd copy tons of pictures from my textbooks of shrivled sick lookin penii and make them into an educational poster for him...

    Hee! Good idea, Wendy...though he'd be scarred for life, I fear...

    My fiance has never had a qualm about me facing naked men. Why? Before I got into nursing school, I was a forensic science major. That's right - just a bunch of stiffs. NO pun intended...

    Donna
  13. by   SKM-NURSIEPOOH
    originally posted by kimtab
    how about bringing a foley kit home and demonstarting just how sexy it is--on him. that oughta learn 'em.
  14. by   mother/babyRN
    Think about this.....In the past, I have become close to patients and families to the point that tears were shed when bad things happened in their lives. While on the cardiac unit some years ago, I wondered how I would ever cope if something such as a code happened to one of my beloved patients. Then, it happened, the first time I had to code someone.....As the monitor whined, I remember something in my mind separated me from the patient, who I truly cared about, and he became just his arm. In that way, I was able to start an iv...Even his name plate on the door was not visable in my minds eye..AFTERWARDS, everything settles in but usually, during something, you just let your training and your mind take over to help you cope...A penis is just a penis...I have to laugh when I see husbands or significant others worried about things such as this...My husband has actually made the mistake of imagining that I must love my job because I get to deal with and even touch vaginas and breasts all day! Men...
    A body part is just that, a part...You are caring for the individual and there aint no getting around that we all come with body parts...Well, you know what I mean......

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