Hovering (a tiny vent)

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    My instructor stresses to us (CNA students) the importance of being assertive and confident when dealing with residents, co-workers, and family members. Last night during clinical, I was paired with a young lady who was very passive and she hovered. I cannot deal with hovering. She was clinging on to me for dear life.

    Now, I am not one to complain about a problem and not be part of the solution. I tried to coach her and help her start a rapport with the residents and the staff at the facility. Unfortunately, that yielded no positive result. To make matters worse, she was a bump on a log until our instructor came into a room to observe. :smackingf

    I know an important part of nursing is being a team player but it was just frustrating.

    That is all.
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    Go ahead and vent away.
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    Thanks!
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    I agree, vent away!

    In such situations, it's difficult to confront the elephant in the room, isn't it? Maybe that's what needs to happen though. If she's hovering and it bothers you, tell her. If she's being a bump and it bothers you, tell her. Neither behavior will help her become a better caregiver. You could be doing her a great favor by letting her know you notice how she's behaving and it's not appropriate. Sometimes the leaders have to do that for the followers.
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    Quote from Whispera
    I agree, vent away!

    In such situations, it's difficult to confront the elephant in the room, isn't it? Maybe that's what needs to happen though. If she's hovering and it bothers you, tell her. If she's being a bump and it bothers you, tell her. Neither behavior will help her become a better caregiver. You could be doing her a great favor by letting her know you notice how she's behaving and it's not appropriate. Sometimes the leaders have to do that for the followers.

    I tried and tried again. I made suggestions and offered to help but every single time we entered a residents room, she would freeze up and would not leave my side.

    I really want her to find her comfort zone but it's wearing me out!
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    What I meant was that you might need to just point-blank tell her how she comes across...away from other people of course. Helpful suggestions aren't helping so more directness might be necessary. "Matilda, you're hovering and in my personal space. When you do that I feel ____." "Matilda, you're just sitting there. Do _____ or you'll never learn anything!" "Matilda, I'm not going to cover for you in this. You have to do your share."

    If you already did this, never mind.

    I do wish you luck and lots of assertiveness. Know that you are learning while she isn't. That could be the treasure in all of this. You're also getting experience with teaching and delegating to a difficult peer....
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    Where I work (in NICU), I often find that our babies' family members tend to hover. I love teaching and I'm all for explaining what I'm doing and answering questions, but sometimes people really do invade my personal space.

    What I try to do is to give them a simple task that involves them positioning themselves on the other side of the patient. "I'm going to put the blood pressure cuff on this arm. If you don't mind, I'm going to have you stand on that side so that you can take the temperature in just a second." Or something like that.

    Good luck to you! It sounds like an exhausting problem if it goes on for an entire shift. Will you be paired with this student a lot?
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    You're right. I haven't flat out told her that she's in my space and it makes me uncomfortable. I'm sure it will come up again tomorrow night. I will be direct and see if that helps. Thanks for the advice. I'll keep you posted.
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    @EricJRN

    It kind of depends on how the chips fall. We are a small group, so we pair up frequently.
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    is it possible to takes turns entering rooms? that would solve the problem pretty quickly. you could even talk to your instructor about it being a little awkward (without throwing said person under the bus) when both of you walk in, and you were wondering if you could take turns at least a few times just to get comfortable going in alone. that may not be an option.

    let's assume it's not. some people have dominant personalities. use that and say, "hey, when we go into this resident's room, i'm going to let you talk. i'll walk in behind you and you can introduce us. i'll let you lead." that may be what your partner WANTS. if she declines and gives a "no, you do it" then talk to your instructor if you think that's necessary. if it were me, i'd probably just be thankful that i was getting the experience/practice and realize it's going to be her loss in the end.


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