HELP Resident calling baby "stupid" What to do!!!??

cop2bnurse41 · Oct 30, 2009, 03:58 PM

Re: HELP Resident calling baby "stupid" What to do!!!??

Please talk to the resident first! There is no sense in going straight up the chain of command! Give her the chance to correct the behavior. If this does not work tell your supervisor not hers. If you still dont get a satisfactory results goto your Sups. Boss. and so on. As far as talking to a baby the way some of you claim to I can tell you this. I may not be able to stop myself from doing something very bad to you! At the least I would make it my goal to end your career! Think about someone talking to your kid like that! or better yet imagine its your kid you are talking to! Its OK to joke around when in the presence of co-workes but not in front of the pts. or families. There is a time and place for jokes Just remember we are professional's!

belgarion · Oct 30, 2009, 05:41 PM

Re: HELP Resident calling baby "stupid" What to do!!!??

Saying something to the resident could work one of two ways. She might just be venting a little and not realize how her language sounded. She might even appreciate your bringing it to her attention. Problem solved.

On the other hand, she might run off to YOUR manager in a preemptive move and file a complaint against you, very conveniently forgetting to mention her own behavior. Then things will get really messy with "who said what".

I agree with the poster who said supervisors exist for a reason. Take it up the line and let the bosses earn the big bucks.

Riley3 · Oct 30, 2009, 06:01 PM

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Originally Posted by liloncrn

Ok. So we had a super sick baby and the blonde tomboy female resident called the baby "stupid"!!! OMG I was shocked!!!!!!!!
The other night she said "F-ing(F-word) baby"!
OMG I just cant believe it!!!!!!!!
How would you guys handle this. I need to say something but I new in the dept. Apparently, she does it all the time. AND I am not going to let her get away with this!

Did the resident say this in the room with the baby?

Schmoo1022 · Oct 30, 2009, 07:22 PM

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Originally Posted by rhymeswithlibrarian

Re: "It makes me sad that some of you take care of our most vulnerable patients"

In that case, let me urge you never to walk through a NICU in the middle of night when all the parents are gone, or you'll hear plenty of horrifying discussions of which babies are annoying, or ugly, or are probably going to die, or have funny-looking penises.

And while babies may be vulnerable to infection or hypothermia or dehydration, they're not vulnerable to being called stupid, because it doesn't mean anything to them.

Really?!? I don't ever say things like this about my elderly resident. No, I do not love them all..but I certainly wouldn't be calling them ugly or speaking about their penis' . Yes, we do vent, but it is more along the lines.."OMG that man yelled all night, or so and so was at the desk every 2 minutes. I do think the best way would be to up front with her and say that it is kind of harsh.

hopesgramcracker · Oct 30, 2009, 07:43 PM

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It makes me wonder if this resident should even be in the medical field period. If she can act like this toward a sick baby who is the most vulnerable of all, she should find a new career. I thought as health care workers we are to have compassion for people including babies. Apparently not all of us do. Would any of us feel that this behavior is excusable if the resident acted this way toward your child? I think not. Just because someone may be stressed out, hungry or tired does not warrant this type of behavior. That baby is in the hospital because he or she is very ill not for fun, or because mom and dad want a night out. What a shame.

DeLana_RN · Oct 30, 2009, 08:45 PM

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I'm amazed at how many people are willing to excuse this resident's behavior; never mind that a nurse would probably be fired (or at least severely disciplined) if others (especially doctors) overheard him/her saying something similar about pts.

DeLana

yetanotheramanda · Oct 30, 2009, 10:57 PM

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I am usually very quick to get annoyed with people who flame posters who want to vent. I am ALL FOR VENTING. Nursing is a very hard, often just straight up brutal, job. We all deserve to vent!
But....
If you can't get it together and be professional enough not to curse in front of BABIES, call BABIES names, or make fun of a BABY'S penis (seriously?) then that is just sad.
Like I said, we all deserve to vent. That's what allnurses.com is for. Or the break room. Or our diary. Whatever. In the middle of the unit (no matter the time of day) is not the place. In front of the patient (no matter the patient's level of understanding) is for sure not the place.

Miss_Chybil · Oct 31, 2009, 12:00 AM

Re: HELP Resident calling baby "stupid" What to do!!!??

Originally Posted by rhymeswithlibrarian

Re: "It makes me sad that some of you take care of our most vulnerable patients"

In that case, let me urge you never to walk through a NICU in the middle of night when all the parents are gone, or you'll hear plenty of horrifying discussions of which babies are annoying, or ugly, or are probably going to die, or have funny-looking penises.

And while babies may be vulnerable to infection or hypothermia or dehydration, they're not vulnerable to being called stupid, because it doesn't mean anything to them.

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*Diane-RN in Michigan* · Oct 31, 2009, 12:08 AM

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Originally Posted by Jules A

Just curious why this needed to be included?

My sentiments exactly...

*Diane-RN in Michigan* · Oct 31, 2009, 12:15 AM

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Originally Posted by Otessa

I won't tolerate behaviour of my co-workers defaming others(patients, visitors, co-workers, etc.) no matter if they are young or old-just seems crude and uncalled for.

So it's NOT ok to vent about the pts and/or family members we are taking care of?

I work on a very busy med/surg unit. I cannot think of an hour that goes by that none of us vent. What is the alternative, to explode?? Meh!

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