Help! Need advise! I just resigned!

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HI everyone! I need everyone's advise and/or opinion.

I just gave in my 2 weeks notice, I am in my last week and decided to just call out on my last few days. The reason being is that some of the nurses on the floor are not even speaking to me anymore and I am hearing so many things behind my back. Many negative things. I thought I was leaving in a positive note. When they asked why I was leaving I just say as much I love the unit(which is not the truth and really Major cause to my leaving), I just couldn't pass up this opportunity being offered to work in a Step down ICU. I worked in a Med-Surge fl this was my first nursing job after grad., I am forever thankful to what I've gained during my time there but honestly I was miserable from the start not only their orientation to new grads was not good but the management was really horrible and the staff not very receptive to new grads, there's no team work everyone is pretty much doing their own thing. I cried almost eveyday in my first 3 weeks there. :crying2: So when this offer came up and met the nurse manager who I seriously feel very sincere when she told me how supportive the staff in her floor are and team work is a big thing in her unit that is why there is unity. Also she was explaining to me how she was willing to help me reach my potential as a nurse as long as I work hard so it was hard not to take it.

Now my question is should I still talk to my ex Nurse Manager and explain to her why I couldn't finish my last week was because of the many negative things I was hearing from some of the nurses about me and how they are pretty much just ignoring me on the floor?

Thank you all!

Wow - as an ancient nurse, I feel obligated to raise issues that the OP may not have thought of.

First of all, there is a very good possiblity that you will not be paid for those "sick days" taken after you turned in your notice. This is the policy with many organizations. Read the fine print in the policy.. don't be taken by surprise if this is the case. Second, this behavior will undoubtedly result in a "not eligible for rehire" on the OP's employment record. This is not a good thing & it will remain pertinent to future employers for at least 10 years.

Lastly, this behavior will certainly justify the attitudes of all those mean nurses who don't like working with new grads, won't it? It may have lasting effects on the chances of any other new grads being hired in the future.

I realize that there are times when we all "gotta do what we gotta do" for health and sanity, but there are times in life when we realy need to examine the impact of those decisions on those around us.

This is what I was going to say, also. A few more days in a bad situation won't kill you. Leaving after just six months is bad enough without also failing to complete your two weeks' notice. You will definitely be tagged "do not rehire" (if you aren't already), and will always get a bad reference from this organization. You never know how that's going to come back to bite you in the future (and these things often do).

Do the right thing, take the high road, don't burn your bridges, etc., etc., etc. You can never go wrong doing that. :)

Best wishes!

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Wow - as an ancient nurse, I feel obligated to raise issues that the OP may not have thought of.

First of all, there is a very good possiblity that you will not be paid for those "sick days" taken after you turned in your notice. This is the policy with many organizations. Read the fine print in the policy.. don't be taken by surprise if this is the case. Second, this behavior will undoubtedly result in a "not eligible for rehire" on the OP's employment record. This is not a good thing & it will remain pertinent to future employers for at least 10 years.

Lastly, this behavior will certainly justify the attitudes of all those mean nurses who don't like working with new grads, won't it? It may have lasting effects on the chances of any other new grads being hired in the future.

I realize that there are times when we all "gotta do what we gotta do" for health and sanity, but there are times in life when we realy need to examine the impact of those decisions on those around us.

I don't get sick days. I was hired as a per diem

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Specializes in Pulmonary/MedicalICU.

I had a similar experience at my first job and then moved up to an ICU job.

What I would recommend is keeping that to yourself unless your time and experience is brought up in an exit interview or something similar. Also, don't talk too much about it at your new job. These things always have a way of working themselves out (about 6 months after I left the NM was fired, several of the charge nurses had stepped down or left, and about half of the staff was different).

Be positive and excited about the new experiences coming your way.

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Specializes in LTC, Memory loss, PDN.

It's not fair, it's not right and it's not comfortable, but that's reality and you don't always have an escape. Besides benefiting you on a professional level, sticking it out will benefit you on a personal level as well. Nobody likes to face uncomfortable situations, but it's better to know that you can handle it than trying to find escape routes which could reflect negatively on you.

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Specializes in ED, ICU, MS/MT, PCU, CM, House Sup, Frontline mgr.

now my question is should i still talk to my ex nurse manager and explain to her why i couldn't finish my last week was because of the many negative things i was hearing from some of the nurses about me and how they are pretty much just ignoring me on the floor?

thank you all!

do not call out. i am in the last few days left of my two weeks too. we can make it through together!!! besides, you made it this far, went through many more shifts then the few you have left, so take one shift at a time and be done!!! and yes, these people are talking about you negatively.

your floor is negative and toxic is it not? did you think that your co-workers would be happy for you??? how could they be happy for you when they are not happy people? by the way, my co-workers are the same way.

similar to you, if i were to remain, i will have no opportunities to grow as an er trauma nurse due to the dynamics of my floor. so, i am leaving. i too am grateful for the opportunity i was given as a new nurse so that i could gain the work experience to propel my nursing career. however, i wish my experience could have been a better. i wish i could have experienced teamwork, training, and the support from my colleagues that a new nurse in an er deserves! sadly, the other nurses disliked me so much that i was never given a chance to show what i am capable of doing in this er and i had to teach myself just about everything under the sun. of course in the process i was disrespected and talked about like i was stupid to my face and behind my back! i had no one i could ask question of without being looked down upon or talked negatively about afterwards (i asked questions anyway because my patient outcomes came before my ego).

like you, i found another job that insists on teamwork, providing support, and insists on training all nurses to be able to care for all the patients that walk through the doors. in other words, no nurse is given all of the prime nursing assignments and learning opportunities while the others (the less popular ones) are relegated to the undesirable or mundane. in fact, like you i have gotten major support from my new nm and i am excited to go.

in addition, i too have lied to my current co-workers about liking this er to appease them and it did not work. unlike you i was hoping that they would see through my lie. :p i have an opportunity to work in a level-2 trauma center in an urban area (i am currently working a rural level 4), and this will help to propel my career in one year that remaining here would not do in 5 years! therefore, they are not happy for me and never will be.

they have spent over a year talking trash about my nursing skills and abilities so they honestly believe that i do not deserve this opportunity. your co-workers probably think the same of you. i suppose they thought you would stay there forever being the "stupid" nurse? i suppose they thought you knew your place? never mind the fact that you may have some of the best patient outcomes on your floor (as do i), your evaluations are spectacular because you are hard working, self motivated, able to critically think well, dedicated to your growth, and your patients love you... nope, we are suppose to agree with their poor assessment of our nursing abilities and potential and rot with them on that floor!

finish your shifts.... your poor excuse for co-workers are not worth soiling your reputation as an employee with that facility. gl!

-level 2 er trauma nurse after two more shifts!!!

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Specializes in NICU, Post-partum.
I don't get sick days. I was hired as a per diem

Well, in the end, does it matter?

Anytime you call in for shifts, at any job, regardless if it is a hospital, LTC, a bank or McDonald's, after you give you notice, multiple times, as the other poster said, you can be on a do-no-rehire list.

Employers CAN disclose your attendance record to future employers if they ask for it, because it is objective, not subjective, information.

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Specializes in ED, ICU, MS/MT, PCU, CM, House Sup, Frontline mgr.

what i would recommend is keeping that to yourself unless your time and experience is brought up in an exit interview or something similar. also, don't talk too much about it at your new job....be positive and excited about the new experiences coming your way.

thank you!!! this is very nice to know!!! :D i honestly think i feel what a lottery winner must feel because of my new job. i will not be surprised if i breakdown and cry from joy after finishing my first shift at my new facility.

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do not call out. i am in the last few days left of my two weeks too. we can make it through together!!! besides, you made it this far, went through many more shifts then the few you have left, so take one shift at a time and be done!!! and yes, these people are talking about you negatively.

like you, i found another job that insists on teamwork, providing support, and insists on training all nurses to be able to care for all the patients that walk through the doors. in other words, no nurse is given all of the prime nursing assignments and learning opportunities while the others (the less popular ones) are relegated to the undesirable or mundane. in fact, like you i have gotten major support from my new nm and i am excited to go.

finish your shifts.... your poor excuse for co-workers are not worth soiling your reputation as an employee with that facility. gl!

-level 2 er trauma nurse after two more shifts!!!

thank you so much!! thank u for the encouraging words! sometimes people forget how words can be the most greatest motivating factor and how it can also be the most hurtful thing. i seriously was on the verge of breaking down when i heard the stuff about me when in my face they say how good i am considering i am a new nurse.

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I had a similar experience at my first job and then moved up to an ICU job.

What I would recommend is keeping that to yourself unless your time and experience is brought up in an exit interview or something similar. Also, don't talk too much about it at your new job. These things always have a way of working themselves out (about 6 months after I left the NM was fired, several of the charge nurses had stepped down or left, and about half of the staff was different).

Be positive and excited about the new experiences coming your way.

Thank you, this is really bring me up :nurse: I almost forgot this new thing happening to me juz coz Im being consumed by my anger

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Specializes in Trauma Surgery, Nursing Management.

OP, you should absolutely finish your shifts. As MANY posters have stated, you will be put on the "not for rehire" list. You don't want to do that to yourself.

Dude, you can't let miserable people affect you so much! If I told you here what you should say to them, I would be kicked off of this forum, so just use your imagination. Miserable people thrive on misery and will do anything to make happy people miserable too. I know that it hurts to hear negative things about yourself, but remember that YOU ARE THE WINNER in this scenario. They probably don't have the guts to pick up and move on, because it takes a strong and brave person to bring about change for themselves in order to become successful. YOU DID IT!!! Just keep that in your mind when you are finishing your shifts. Only a few more shifts until you are out of the snake pit!

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By not completing your notice as expected, you are asking the soon to be ex-employer to list you as a "do not rehire" ex-employee, so do not be surprised when this happens.

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Specializes in Home health was tops, 2nd was L&D.

If I read all of this correctly.. this is your first job.....Work the NOTICE,, every day of it.. If you called in call NM and HR and offer to work additional days. Do Not get a NO Rehire on your first job. Bite your tongue, count the minutes but show up.. if you have to offer to do additional days if you have actually called off and they decline, make sure to document that in a letter to HR for your file..keep your own copy.

I know you already have another job,, that's great but don't burn this bridge.

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