having trouble with deciding on what I should do

Gerry1888RN · Dec 20, 2009, 02:07 PM

I would think it would be hard to to go to NP school and look for a partner. If you really want to have children, I would move to the city and postpone NP school for several years. I wouldn't wait till after NP school to get married and have children, as you will be hitting 40.

Blackheartednurse · Dec 20, 2009, 03:11 PM

Originally Posted by raindrop

Why than you very much ladies. I know that I have some soul searching to do.
I think I am afraid of this:

I will be almost 33 when I enter the NP program. If I stay in this town, I will probably finish when I am 35-36. Yes, I could move back to the city when I am done with NP school at age 35-36, but I"m sure I'll be a lil lonely. I'm sure mnost of my friends in this major city will be married by then. All of them are in serious relationships now. Theyare begging me to come up so they can hook me up with their SO's friends.

I am OK with staying here until age 36, but that is getting old!! I've heard it'ss hard for women 35+ to date?? I don't mean to put so much emphasis on dating, but settling down is important to me. I also understand that if I move to the major city now, that I will not finish NP school in 2 years. I won't be able to start until this time next year....and it will only be very part time. I think I will be done when I am 38ish if I move to the city to finish. I'd like to get out of bedside nursing, so this doesn't appeal to me either.

I also understand that I won't have much time for dating while in NP school, but it's something that I will make time for. Actually, I plan on making time for myself no matter where I live. I just think it will be more fun and easy to make friends in the major city. But maybe this is just a delusion.

Where has time gone? Seems like yesterday I was a young girl in my early 20's.

Dont rush into getting married. People who set deadlines for their marriage plans are the one who dont have good marriages.

*elkpark* · Dec 20, 2009, 04:40 PM

Originally Posted by raindrop

Why than you very much ladies. I know that I have some soul searching to do.
I think I am afraid of this:

I will be almost 33 when I enter the NP program. If I stay in this town, I will probably finish when I am 35-36. Yes, I could move back to the city when I am done with NP school at age 35-36, but I"m sure I'll be a lil lonely. I'm sure mnost of my friends in this major city will be married by then. All of them are in serious relationships now. Theyare begging me to come up so they can hook me up with their SO's friends.

I am OK with staying here until age 36, but that is getting old!! I've heard it'ss hard for women 35+ to date?? I don't mean to put so much emphasis on dating, but settling down is important to me. I also understand that if I move to the major city now, that I will not finish NP school in 2 years. I won't be able to start until this time next year....and it will only be very part time. I think I will be done when I am 38ish if I move to the city to finish. I'd like to get out of bedside nursing, so this doesn't appeal to me either.

I also understand that I won't have much time for dating while in NP school, but it's something that I will make time for. Actually, I plan on making time for myself no matter where I live. I just think it will be more fun and easy to make friends in the major city. But maybe this is just a delusion.

Where has time gone? Seems like yesterday I was a young girl in my early 20's.

Sounds like you're a lot more focused on getting the ol' "MRS" than the MSN, and that you've already made your decision. If that's what you want to do, you don't need "permission" from anyone here ...

LoveMyBugs · Dec 20, 2009, 05:16 PM

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Originally Posted by elkpark

Sounds like you're a lot more focused on getting the ol' "MRS" than the MSN, and that you've already made your decision. If that's what you want to do, you don't need "permission" from anyone here ...

:yeahthat:

wendysu_SPN · Dec 20, 2009, 10:34 PM

Option number 2 sounds best as far as having more fun & excitement in your life. And as you pointed out, if you want to find a man and hopefully settle down in the next few years, it would be best to go where there are more to chose from.

As long as you go to NP school, you will eventually get it, whether you do it FT or PT, but don't sacrifice your personal life and enjoyment, just to get thru school quicker.
Having a husband and a family has been the most furfilling aspect of my life and as it is for most women, and if those are important things to you, don't put that on the back burner for too long. Plus, it may take a while to find someone you mesh well with.
Good luck with whatever you chose.

mfrancisco · Dec 20, 2009, 11:42 PM

What if you put off NP school and don't find a husband? If you want to move to the city for yourself, do so. If you want to go to NP school right now, go and get it done with. Do not put it off in the hopes of finding a husband. You will find one when the time is right, whether you are in school or not, and whether you live in a small town or not. Believe me, I found my husband at the oddest place, time, and I was not even looking at all. Continue your life for yourself. You may regret it if you don't. There is nothing wrong with moving to the city and working there, but if you are putting off your goals for an unknown, don't do it. Life is too short.