Have you ever been accused of stealing? How did you deal with it? - page 2

I've been working with this company doing either home health or private duty for three years. In all that time I have had only one complaint; one time a woman didn't like how I dressed. Well, the... Read More

  1. by   MrChicagoRN
    Quote from motorcycle mama

    Last night the oncoming nurse walked me out to my car and said she just wanted me to be aware the family was questioning everyone.


    In fact, it was brought up to one of the sons that maybe his brother took the money and he said if he did he would have told them he took it.....also, this patient is a chatterbox, and the nurse said she told the patient that the nurses and her son needed to take a lie detector test and whoever failed it would have to go to jail and as soon as she said that you could have heard a pin drop.


    And it really hurts my feelings. I'm struggling as it is, but I would have never taken that money. But how do you prove it? I

    While you need to protect yourself, there's no need for your feelings to be hurt.

    The family chose to leave cash around. Always a risk. For all we know, the demented person moved it, tossed it out, etc. They can make a police report if they wish, the police will question all involved, and that's it. Polygraphs aren't admissable in many/most states BTW.

    A doctor's widow on my unit once had a valuable engagement/wedding ring stolen. I was starightforward in what I saw...questioning by the head of security took about 2 minutes as the night nurse did a good job of implicating herself by trying too hard to cast blame on the PM shift.

    Your honesty is it's own defense. Be sure your agency knows whats going on, and have them set groundrules with the family:
    "Your mom has dementia, and gets confused. My staff is honest, but the family needs to take responsibility for removing/safeguarding valuables. Cash, jewelry etc. The family should pool the money, then write a check, or have a designated person hand deliver the rent to the landlord every month."
  2. by   Jo Dirt
    Quote from MrChicagoRN
    While you need to protect yourself, there's no need for your feelings to be hurt.

    The family chose to leave cash around. Always a risk. For all we know, the demented person moved it, tossed it out, etc. They can make a police report if they wish, the police will question all involved, and that's it. Polygraphs aren't admissable in many/most states BTW."
    Yea, know all about polygraphs (true crime buff, here). Not only are they not admissible in court but it's hard to get them done in even much more serious circumstances for interrogation purposes. The night nurse told me she mentioned the lie detector test to shut mom up about "poor misunderstood Andy" and it worked just like she thought, mom clammed up right away.

    I really don't want to lose this job, because in spite of the annoyances it is one of the better cases to work.
    Also, I got turned down for food stamps (even though I didn't apply for them when I applied for Medicaid they automatically ran my application through for that). Said I had too many assets and made a little too much money each month to qualify. Maybe I'm whining too much about finances because I'm not behind in my bills, not in any danger of being thrown out of my house (even though it's a dump it's bought and paid for), we won't be losing electric or water or necessities, the kids aren't going hungry, but at the same time there is nothing left over and I'll just say I can't afford to take maternity leave, which is why I'm hoping to have baby during the week so I can get back to work on the weekends.
    Sorry I got into a speech, everyone has problems and you all don't need to read about all the drama of mine. Just was going to say I don't qualify for public assistance because I'm considered "land and asset wealthy" even if I'm "cash poor." I know a woman who has panhandled before, though, said she made a couple of hundred dollars in one morning... I can hear the comments now though if I was standing by the freeway with a will work for food sign: sorry big fatty I don't think there's enough work in the day to feed you!!!

    Geez...

    But I can't help but have my feelings hurt, I'm not a saint but I absolutely would never have taken any money. In fact, the nurses (including myself) have brought food to the patient from our own houses and on Sundays her family will bring dinner and the nurse on duty will eat with them. They seem like very nice people and I was looking forward to working there awhile.
    I don't want to be moved to another case, but I will call the supervisor tomorrow and tell her what is going on. I don't know, I'm paranoid now, seems if I didn't say anything to anyone it would only make me look more suspicious. Then again I know a lot of guilty people will harp on it. I wish there was a way I could prove I wouldn't do something like that.
  3. by   NRSKarenRN
    Your best defense is reporting it to your agency and letting them be responsible for follow-up. There should be a case manger that can discuss issue with family too.

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