My Lord...My heart goes out to you..
. Your surgeon explanations are very reasonable, but I understand your desire to have done with it all at once. Whew...you have a lot on your shoulders, and I will be praying that everything goes well, and that before you know it, all this will be behind you.
I think the best way to look at this is one step and one day at a time. Easy for someone who isn't facing all of this to say, but it's the only way to not be overwhelmed.
I had fibroids also, and had a STAH done. I felt great afterwards, and healed very well. I was back to work within 4 weeks. But wouldn't reccomend it. I should have stayed out longer.
So take care of yourself, and give yourself time to heal fully. I will keep you in my thoughts. So please let us know how things are going with you.