i don't think that it gets easier either. as a lpn, we don't notify the family an rn has to. but, since i am in school for rn, i know that i will have to do this. i only hope that i will handle it with compassion and dignity. just 2 nights ago, one of our residents died in her sleep. walked in and she was gone. it was not unexpected as she came back from the hospital under "comfort measures only", but still it's very sad. anyways, our supervisor called the son at 2:30am, to tell him that his mom passed away. i was at the nsg and this is how it went, "mr. so and and, this is ---from -----, you're mother expired at 2:20am, where do you want her body sent? we don't have a funeral home listed"......maybe because i never had to do this before, but i was in shock!!!!! i mean, come on, you're mother expired??!!! when i give report,/chart, i might say patient so and so expired at such a time etc....but i find it uncompassionate to tell a family member in that way. and then, to say, almost in the same breath, "where do you want the body sent?"...come on.... what would i have said? something like, "hi, mr.---, i'm sorry, your mother passed away at 2:20am". do you want to come in?" and then i'd take it from there depending on his response. if i needed to ask about a funeral home, well why not just ask, "do you have a funeral home selected?" in this case, he did have one, it just wasn't in her chart. i know that it's only a few diff. words, but to me, it is a better way of telling a loved one. when my dad died, i remember how i was told vividly. thank god, that the nurse who told me was kind and compassionate. i hope to give the same kind to others. oh well, just my opinion.