I took a "mental health" day Friday (well, actually just phoned in and booked off ill).
My daughter was (note the operative word) engaged to someone that she'd known since grade 3 (she's 32) and was expecting to move to NYC in September. They went to school together until high school, then he moved and they lost track. He married in his early 20s but had no kids and was now divorced.
Since March, "Rob" has been in London, Ontario, "cleaning up" his company's office there (he is the manager for the Vancouver office). He's emailed her every other day, yakking about the weather, etc, how much he's missed her, etc.
"Rob" told her that he'd been headhunted by a NYC company, had been hired and had negotiated the company moving her belongings, flying her there and putting her on his medical. He started work on July 1st in NYC, emailed her and told her that he had to be in SE Asia on company business, was leaving on 5th, probably gone 6 weeks. Then he'd be back in Vancouver, they could ship their belongings and move. "Rob" sent her an email on the 4th, yakking about how hot it was in NYC and that he was going to do some touristy things and watch the fireworks.
My daughter gave notice at work and has been systematically selling off some of her furniture in prep for this move.
Wednesday afternoon, my daughter gets an email from his girlfriend, informing her that "Rob" never left town, has been sleeping with this girl, moved from his apartment in Surrey to one in Vancouver itself and that he is STILL married (his second) and has children. His wife and son live in the Interior, he isn't divorced yet. My daughter phoned the NYC information operator and found that his "company" doesn't exist. She phoned the office back east (haven't seen him since last year) and out here ("why do you think that he's been away?")
Eventually, she tracked him down via his email, and he replied back "yup, it's all true". No remorse, no sorry. Just that he'd cared about her when they'd been together, but then he "found" a new girlfriend, his heart "belongs to her now, and I have to follow my heart". When my daughter asked just when he was planning on telling her, he wrote "I don't know, sometime I guess".
This is what I came home to Wednesday night. Thursday was my day off and I "bagged it in" on Friday. His girlfriend has continued to email perfectly filthy painful messages. When my daughter phoned "Rob", asking Angela to lay-off, he told her that "whatever Angie does is okay".
Fortunately, through all of her pain and tears, my daughter announced Friday night that she "deserved better, to be loved, to be honored and to be respected", not to be dissed. She has added their email addresses to her filter list.
Thanks for letting me get this off my chest. Anyone know anyone who wants to buy a size 8 wedding dress?