Got fired today - page 5
Well, tomorrow will be the first day in almost a decade that I will wake up and have nowhere that I need to be. I got kicked out to the curb today. Fired. Canned. Terminated. I've been busting my... Read More
Dec 11, '02Addendum:
If you choose one of the jobs you're interested in and they say they can't wait until after the holidays, don't take the job. If they can't wait a few weeks now, they don't want you that much.
Dec 12, '02(((HUGS)))) Marla ...can't add to the excellent posts already here...but I am thinking of you and wishing you all the best!
Dec 12, '02(((MJ))) As the old saying goes, don't let the b------- get you down. And, their lack of management and staffing doesn't constitute your emergency. If I were you right now, I'd be singing "Happy Trails" all the way to the Unemployment Office, for their loss is your gain. Kick back for a few weeks, enjoy Christmas and your family, then start off the New Year RIGHT with a new prospect...say Case Management? After having my body and soul burnt to a crisp after 30 years of clinical, I rolled the dice and started working for an insurance company two years ago as a nurse case manager. NO weekends, NO holidays and NO impossible shifts. Try it...I GUARANTEE you'll LIKE it!
Dec 13, '02Anytime you work for someone you know they are ungrateful, thankless and uncaring. Look at it as a blessing in disguise!!!! It really is a positive thing because now you can move on and do what you want. I sware these employers think they are doing us a favor when they employ us to work for them. They think by firing you they take something away which is so far from the truth it is giving you back the power to do what you want not feeling obligated.
You take care of yourself things will work in your favor in the long run.
Dec 14, '02I agree with jt,I think you should talk to an attorney.
Fired for medical problems?? That is discrimination!!!!!!
Dec 14, '02Thanks, you guys, but maybe I need to clarify something. I wasn't fired, exactly, for having medical problems; these people are smarter than that. What they said was, I would be rehireable if and when I got my medical (and the implication included psychological) problems under control. I've been run-down for a long time because of GYN issues, stress, burnout, etc. and my depression has gotten increasingly worse despite medication. So they were right when they said I was unable to perform the requirements of the job. (It obviously did not matter that the requirements of the job were constantly expanding along with the case load, or that it would've taken 80-hour work weeks to accomplish everything they wanted.)
If I were in a better position emotionally and financially, I probably would talk to our family lawyer about this, but I figure I'll just cut my losses and count myself lucky to be out of there. I've already got one agency that's very interested in talking to me, and there are several other prospects out there that sound good as well. So don't worry, I'm going to be OK.
(((((HUGS))))) to all of you!
Dec 14, '02Marla,
I am happy for you that you are able to see the positve side of this, and are able to move forward, and trying to affect positive change in your life. That job was contributing to your stress and depression, and you likely will recover more quickly now that you are out of there! When I was fired from my job several years ago, it was also because of my depression......I was so severely depressed that I had several absences, and even though my manager was aware of my situation, he fired me anyway (did not even recomend EAP, and I was too down to stand up for myself). I was fired based on the missed days which made me fired for "incompetence" (which is true, I wasn't competent to work) but also made it so I could not get unemployment. It may not seem "right" to have been fired, but by making you "rehireable" thay have done you a favor. I understand why you aren't going to pursue a lawyer, I didn't either. But unlke you, in my case, despite the fact that I had become miserable and anxious about my job, I was still devastated, and my depression just went downhill to where I never left the home, and attempted suicide, leaving me as a pt in the psych ward. I don't see that happening to you. You are a strong woman. You've been given a blessing, however ego-bruising a package it may have come in. And you are smart enough to see it as what it is.
As for the hysterectomy, I imagine that will help too, as pain contributes greatly to depression. The short time I was feeling "myself" was the few months after my own hysterectomy this year. It was so wonderful to be without the severe pain and heavy bleeding, I felt like a new person, and my mood went accordingly.
I hope the adjustment in antisepressant helps too. I can't remember what you take? But with the changes in your life, and your positive outlook, maybe the tweak is just what you need!
Dec 14, '02<I wasn't fired, exactly, for having medical problems; these people are smarter than that. What they said was, I would be rehireable if and when I got my medical (and the implication included psychological) problems under control..>>
Same difference - and its illegal to fire someone for that. They could have used Family medical leave and EAP to give you time to heal. But you have to do for yourself what you feel most comfortable with. It just kills me to see yet another RN have to go thru something like this when there are laws to protect from this kind of thing. It keeps happening to us because we have to cut our losses & move on in order to keep our sanity & build our strength back up. Maybe when youre feeling better you can have someone go get what is owed to you. In the meantime, take care of yourself. Good luck & good health.Last edit by -jt on Dec 14, '02
Dec 15, '02I feel you...I got fired a few months ago from my job. I was so depressed when it happened. It was the only job I had ever known. Well it turns out it was the best thing that has ever happened to me. Now that I am out of that job I have moved on to bigger and better things. I hope that you can take my experience and do the same. You will be in my prayers...and good luck
Dec 15, '02The reality of the workplace: the employer cares little for the worker even if the worker is good hearted and giving , as in nurses. This is hard for us to hear because we try so hard in nearly impossible situations today.
In 'employment at will' states they can and do fire ya for anything.
If you try to invoke the ADA or Family Leave Act they will find another way to get you out..even if it is to drive you out...I've seen it happen. Then it becomes difficult to prove anything...employers fabricate lies about employees all the time. or maybe I just work in a particularly ugly area...I don't know...but I'm amazed to see and hear what goes on.
I was fired once...(it was actually a mutual thing) but it never happened again cuz I had my radar activated after that and always made good decisions for myself...don't give your power away to your employer. Make the first move yourself. We don't have to stay somewhere we aren't appreciated.
Often good nurses are fired because they : offend a manager in some way or don't dance to their tune. Getting sick means we're not dancing to their tune because we can't be as easily manipulated or work endless OT for them if we're sick, can we? Sad truth from my many years of talking honestly with good nurses in my area....who work tirelessly for 15-20 years for a hospital, then they get sick or are injured OJT, and they are run off.
We gotta take care of ourselves...nobody else will. (((HUGS))))to all here. When we are fired we move on to something better, and we learn something about ourselves.