Giving up... - page 2
I am about to give up. I feel very let down by this career. i left a job after 10 years., thinking I could go back into the hosp. learn something new. I got fired. Too slow. My last employer of 10... Read More
Feb 4, '03Flora, you have received excellent advice here. Please keep us posted on how you are doing.
Feb 4, '03Flora. there is a place for every experienced, empathetic nurse in this profession. Like what was referenced earlier, take a deep breath, make lists...anything that will clear your mind and get you focused at the job ahead. Separate and tackle one difficulty at a time. Don't be overwhelmed by everything as a whole.
Slowness ,if indeed you are, doesn't necessarily mean inefficient.You just need to find an establishment that recognizes your qualities.There are some out there.
Things have to work out if you keep the faith and never give up!
Best of luck to you and your family.
" Group hug?"
Feb 4, '03Agency is always a good idea when you're in this kind of situation, and a lot of them now offer insurance benefits. If you are an RN, there is contract agency work for you in Chicago. You sound like you feel very defeated right now, but with this nursing shortage, your job opportunities should be the least of your worries. And if you have 2 grown children living at home, I hope you're making them work and help with the bills. Hang in there!
Feb 4, '03Flora, my hospital will hire you, I guarantee it. So don't give up, you will find your dream job, hopefully you won't need a snow plow to get to it.
Changing jobs, homes, partners, anything...the paperwork involved will drive you to drink. YOU are fine, it's the system that is making things hard. If you need help coping until you find your spot, we are all here, as is your MD, friends, family, whatever you need.
Hugs to you.
Feb 4, '03Flora,
You are not at the end, just going into some new territory, and its about time. 51 years is still young, you have to work for another 25 years! Pace yourself. Do private duty homecare, start slowly, begin part-time, picking up one new patient at a time. Work that case until you feel real comfortable. Then, get oriented to case number 2, etc. Within a few months, you will have several cases (I like to have at least 3-5 active cases that I'm oriented to) that you are familiar with and able to help out on.
I began doing private duty home care 15 years ago, having left the hospital after 9 incredibly long years and I've never looked back. The nurse-patient ratio is just right, the only "politics" involved on a daily basis are the patient's siblings and pets (kids are easily bribed with coloring books, dogs with biscuits). The staffers at any agency would love to have you help out cover their cases (weekend shifts are especially hard to cover). The parents and patients are really grateful to have an experienced, caring nurse to come at least a few days a week to help out for 8 to 12 hours. It's good to be slow, especially in home care. There is nothing more undignified than than being 51 years old and running up and down those terrazzo hospital floors. Also, when you end your shift doing private duty at home, you can really feel good about the job you did that day and not feel like you've been beaten with a stick! Good luck!
Feb 5, '03I want to thank everyone for their kindness. When I wrote the post, I was feeling extremely low. It was late, and I was tired too.
I am going to try to take my time to find out what I want to do.
I don't want to rush in to another bad job. It has been a very hard couple of years. Not the end. But hard.
Edward,Il, I like your advice. Sounds like you have found you niche. I am feeling better today, mostly because of all the support you all have given me...from all over the world!! Canoehead, are you really from Nova Scotia? Wow. BRIAN, THANKS FOR THIS WEB SITE. It has been of tremendous help and support. Thanks to all.
Feb 5, '03Nothing more to add. Here in Florida, it's no big deal to have a reference, if you are body and have an active license you are hired.
Companies get sued by former employees for not giving good references which is why a lot of them don't. This hospital will say whether an employee is available for rehire, but that is all. Ask some friends or coworkers to give you a reference.
During this time also examine the validity of the claims of "slowness". Are you being overly thorough, disorganized, is your depression or meds slowing you down, or were they completely unjustified.
During a depression I had prenursing, I was told by an employer that I was slow and moved slow and I didn't realize it. I was on meds. (Not on meds now.)
Look at this time as a challenge, an opportunity for growth. There is still a nursing shortage and you should have no trouble finding a job.
Feb 5, '03Can you try home health? While it is not stress free, as no job in nursing is, it has much less stress than other jobs.
Feb 5, '03Go agency. No hassles. No politics. No "reviews". The agency works 'FOR YOU !" Agencies want you 'cause you make $ for them. Simple.
No one ever fails the tests at agencies. Go get an agency job to pay your cobra for the next 18 months...
Feb 8, '03Flora
wondering how you are now - Hope life is looking a little brighter and that you have made a decision and know what direction you will take - remeber at 51 you have a huge amount to offer people