Quote from sjoe
If a blood family relative decides to intervene (and the patient has not previously filled out the appropriate paperwork--read: Durable Power of Attorney for Healthcare, etc.) that blood relative can often forbid the hospital from permitting any particular person from visiting, and certainly from having a say in the treatment. Ditto for funeral arrangements, etc. Some families HATE their relative's gay/lesbian partners and/or friends and don't hesitate to have them kept away. In fact, they glory in it.
Some healthcare providers refuse to respect and provide adequate care for gay patients, particularly if they have AIDS, since "it is God's will that they suffer and die, and unpleasantly at that, for their sins." There is no shortage of self-righteousness in nursing, as there is none elsewhere.
That may be true sjoe but it is a very small percentage. I live in a small rural community with a small rural hospital and we have never encountered the type of behavior you describe.
I too do not like the characterization made by people who do not take the time to research their statements that nurses would try to keep gay partners out of hospital rooms. Like someone said, someone's third cousin or the neighbor down the street or their mailman can come in to visit. And, I have snuck in a patient's dog . . . . usually on the weekends when the big bosses are gone. It helps them so much and have never had a dog "void".
I've had deliveries where mom, dad, mom-in-law, dad-in-law, brother, 3 year old daughter and 3 year old niece have all been in the room.
I just don't think this is such a big issue . . it may happen in isolated cases but isn't the norm.