Quote from Noryn
There are no gay boomers in our nursing homes or assisted living. We do not have this phenomenon....When I go to the doctor I dont make it a point to let everyone know I am straight.
Are you sure there are no queer folks living in your facility? I think this is the point of the the NY Times article. When you say "We do not have this phenomenon" I suspect you meant that you do not have out gay residents that are isolated by other residents. But perhaps you have queer residents that are afraid to be out.
You do not make it point of letting your healthcare provider know that you are straight because it is expected that you are. Gays and lesbians, however, sometimes have different health needs from straight people. And in a LTC environment they most definately have different needs.While I very much agree with you that people should not be discriminated against because of their sexuality I disagree when you suggest that sexual orientation does not matter - it very much does.
The thing that stuck in my craw about this story is the fact that these people were the first generation to stick their necks out and say "we are gonna live the way we want to and we refuse to be treated like second class citizens. Their efforts - the risks they took, the suffering they endured - made life easier for the queer generations that followed. To allow them to suffer the indigneties outlined in the article is a travesty. The thought of a gay homebound senior having his caregiver lecture to him on the evils of homosexuality makes my blood boil with anger. The thought that a woman's wife of 30+ years is marginalized at the hour of her beloved's death horrifies me.
Nurses must advocate for the clients. I would also suggest that gay and lesbian nurses have a special obligation to look after their elders and advocate for them when they cannot advocate for themselves. It's the right thing to do.