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No. 10
from oramar
Old Sep 23, 2007, 06:38 AM

Default Re: Rired from longtime job, too much LOA r/t cancer, deaths in family. Nursing sucks
Originally Posted by Kymmi View Post
Do you think something like that only happens in the nursing profession? I will bet that if your friend was a teacher, secretary or any other profession and had the same things happen she'd still end up losing her job.
Sorry to hear about your friend though....sounds like she's had more than her share to deal with.
I disagree, I know people in other profession like teaching that suffered terrible health problems and were treated very well. Matter of fact, most the time they are treated very well. Occasionally I have heard horror stories of a school board that mistreated a teacher with a health problem but it is rare. In nursing the opposite is true, you are much more likely in nursing to be shafted than in any other job that calls itself a profession. There is a deep well of nastiness in healthcare administration that may pop out anytime. I truely would not recommend the profession to anyone. I have offered encouragement to people that felt they had a calling and were determined to become a nurse because I don't like raining on anyones parade. But I refuse to beat the drum and try to recruit anyone into the profession.
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No. 11
from imenid37
Old Sep 23, 2007, 07:40 AM

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Originally Posted by TheCommuter View Post
It would be amazing if we were viewed by administration as the valuable contributors to healthcare that we are. After all, healthcare facilities cannot possibly run without the blood, sweat, and tears of the nurse. We are the backbone of healthcare.

However, stories like the above mentioned one only serve to reaffirm my solid belief that management views nurses merely as warm bodies who fill shifts.
You've got that right. I wish I had been smart like you when I was younger. Nursing is just a cost center to many in admin. and they often are downright annoyed that we make so much $ (at least in their eyes). I think of my relationship w/ my former employer as akin to having an abusive spouse. Always criticizing and cutting you down when you called out sick or had a problem, ready to take advantage of you to the fullest, and very stingy and mean w/ any sort of praise, recognition, or $. You've got to take care of yourself. Use your decent salary to get some supplemental unemployment insurance and learn how to say no. I hate sometimes how we individuals buy into the nasty mentality and are not nice to one another.
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No. 12
Old Sep 23, 2007, 07:51 AM

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After 6 years at my last job, being voted "nurse of the month" in my unit two months prior, having the respect of the physicians I worked with and also most of the nurses and aides, a new DON came into town. Her target? Any nurse there before her, or at the top of the pay scale. I was in both categories, and had so many things done to me to make me quit. I hesitate to post them here in case there are colleagues (former) on here.

However, I needed LOTS of time off for surgery and treatment for my back and after I asked for modifications to my schedule and to my environment due to my disability under the Americans with Disabilities Act, and also due to physician restriction, I was denied all of them. I was harassed continuously. My co-workers on my shift knew and helped me out so I did "meet" my restrictions.

Then I was diagnosed with cancer at Christmas-time last year. I started treatment, had surgery, and when I called my boss to tell her I would need some time off. She asked why, and I started to cry, saying "I have cancer". Her response? "There's no reason for you to return. You're fired". Click. I can't tell you how upset her careless response made me feel.

I gave 110% to that employer, worked extra, came in when they were short, helped institute a new type of "rapid response" team with the physicians, tried to help everyone despite the toxic environment caused by other shift nurses who refused to do their work. Refused to do admits that came in 4 hours before shift change!!! Refused to do orders after doctor's rounds...left them for next shift. Ridiculous. When this new DON came strolling in...I was targeted. I worked harder with a painful disability than some of the nurses there (I don't want to sound like a snob, but hey, we all know when other's aren't pulling their weight). I wasn't the only one let go either.

A nurse in her late 60's had a MI at work, was sent to ER and admitted. She was written up for attendance!!!! "Leaving work before end of shift". I'm not kidding. A few weeks later, her very ill husband on hospice passed away. She came back to work really fast, but it wasn't until later that I found out it was because the DON told her she'd be fired if she took more than three days off, and to bring in a copy of the death certificate as proof of death!!!! She was so ill sometimes at work, but needed the insurance desperately. She was a very kind nurse, and was a good worker before she got sick. She was let go not long after me. Fired for "excessive absenteeism".

There are no more "old timers" there. It's all new grads now. Many mistakes were being made, state in to investigate complaints, etc. The new management ruined that place. It used to be a great place to work, very flexible, caring managers (not easy to find!!!), good co-workers (even harder to find!!), and decent staffing. Until the witches flew in on their broomsticks and cast their spell.

I am pretty disgusted by nursing right now, too. Fired for CANCER??? Where is the CARING and COMPASSION for the nurses who do all the CARING for the patients??? We are supposed to care for everybody, except ourselves. Oh, don't ever get sick, or need surgery, because you're not allowed to CARE for yourself, unless you want to get thrown to the wolves. Especially all nurses out there with long-term disabilities like mine (back injury, chronic intractable pain), who could still contribute to nursing with our minds, are turned away simply because our bodies are worn out.
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No. 13
from imenid37
Old Sep 23, 2007, 08:08 AM

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Rehab Nurse, That is just plain horrible. Don't these people realize that if it ever is them w/ an illness, they will suffer the same fate? To hang up on someone who found out they have Ca., is just unbelievably cruel. What the heck kind of person can do something like that? Imagine saying to a pt. who tells you my mother just found out she has Ca. "Too bad. I need to go pass meds in the next room, now. You can cry all you want. I can't help you." Why doesn't that compassion so many facilities use in their advertising extend to employees, in many cases?
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No. 14
from OhioRN05
Old Sep 23, 2007, 09:32 AM

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Hi jls-sorry to hear about your friend. The situation just breaks my heart. Did the facility she work at not have FMLA she could have taken?
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No. 15
Old Sep 23, 2007, 09:46 AM

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I don't know the details of the situation, but I do know the character of this woman and that she was held in high regard by all of her co-workers. Before she became an RN she had nursed her handicapped son at home for years, he had severe CP and was total care. He died in his early 20s. During that period, her ex-husband kidnapped her other two children, but when the son who recently died became a behavior problem, the ex-husband put him on a bus and sent him back to her. That was when he was 12, I think he was 40 when he died. He had become a longshoreman and gotten married and had a son.

Her daughter is her best friend now, and has three children and lives near by. So this lady has some comforts, but I just can't believe that anyone could be so heartless as to fire someone after their son was killed.
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No. 16
Old Sep 23, 2007, 10:10 AM
Updated Sep 23, 2007 at 10:23 AM by Patient_Care_Asst

Default Re: Rired from longtime job, too much LOA r/t cancer, deaths in family. Nursing sucks
If you think employers are somehow a shining example of a democratic society then your living in the wrong country.

Employers only care about 1 thing. The bottom line.

When you don't perform up to that expectation and make them money, then you are ejected and replaced with someone else who can meet that criteria. Basically, it's a cold and unemotional process that takes very little consideration for any previous employee loyalty in mind.

However, I do feel bad for her personal situation and I do sincerely hope things change for the better. However, just don't expect any building operated by a group of investors to express any thought on the matter. It's unfortunate, but that's not just limited to nursing in scope, It's just the cold hard reality of the matter in any operated business. Yes, nursing is actually a business just like any other and therefore is subjected to a similar set of operating rules.

My Best
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No. 17
from kiwi77
Old Sep 23, 2007, 11:11 AM

Default Re: Rired from longtime job, too much LOA r/t cancer, deaths in family. Nursing sucks
Reading these examples of heartlessness from healthcare employers who advertise themselves as caring and compassionate (at least if you're a patient) reminds me of my own nightmare. As said before, this is unfortunately not an isolated incident. It also seems that once a nurse is seen as "damaged goods" by management, no matter how good the nurse's previous record of employment is, it's just a matter of time before TPTB come up with a "reason" to terminate him or her. Get targeted and there's absolutely nothing you can do that's good enough. In some cases it seems to come out of nowhere, but other times, you see it coming a mile away.
In my own case, I learned early on how the system works. An honor roll nursing student, I was forced to file a grievance against my nursing school to return after an MVA (drunk driver hit me) and surgery which caused me to miss an entire semester. After the school board ruled in my favor, I was back in class and graduated without incident.

While in school, my employer promised me a job after graduation on the unit where I worked as a nurse tech----gave me the shift I wanted too instead of going straight to 11-7. Six months later, newly pregnant with twins, my HN called me into the office and told me they didn't have a spot for me and to "come back when your life settles down a bit". I hadn't thought to get her verbal agreement in writing and I was devastated. To prevent the loss of my health insurance, I had to scramble quickly and find another job in the same hospital on a unit where the news of my high risk pregnancy had not yet become common knowledge. I stuck it out until having to go on bedrest and then resigned to work at another hospital when my maternity leave was over.
12 years later, at another hospital, I applied for FMLA at the advice of my boss because of debilitating migraines. I wasn't calling in any more than the rest of the staff but I was told to do it or I might be fired. I began seeing patterns of discrimination, and brought the proof in writing to the ethics officer who opened an investigation and was in agreement that my suspicions were true. The end result was altho I was being targeted, written up for bogus reasons, got the lowest yearly evaluation in the department after previously getting the second highest, I knew nothing was going to change. With such a low evaluation, it now affected my yearly raise and when money and security are involved, the time was right to leave.
It's sad to hear so many similar stories of nurses who gave their all for their jobs and in return, get the shaft. I am sure it happens in other industries but it seems especially cruel because of how much of ourselves we give as caregivers.
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No. 18
Old Sep 23, 2007, 11:21 AM

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Thanks for the thread title revision, that's much better...
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No. 19
from Mulan
Old Sep 23, 2007, 01:50 PM

Default Re: Rired from longtime job, too much LOA r/t cancer, deaths in family. Nursing sucks
Originally Posted by sharpshooter View Post
That is just the thanks we get from corporate America, I actually have found a way out, will be leaving my nursing job in about a month. I am now doing something fun, and am securing my financial future.
There are other options out there!!

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