Female Nursing Students Dont like me ! - page 2

Female Nursing Students Dont like me ! I am male nursing student . I am very lonely in my class . Nobody in my nursing class support me . It seems like they hate me or somethings . I feel like... Read More

  1. by   Sheri257
    Quote from jeepgirl
    There's nothing wrong with a male nurse. Give me one (even in OB!) any day!
    Agreed.

  2. by   snowfreeze
    Give me a good nurse anytime, we will check the sex later at a more appropriate time.
  3. by   Email4KH
    Quote from earthlover123
    Female Nursing Students Dont like me !
    I am male nursing student . I am very lonely in my class . Nobody in my nursing class support me . It seems like they hate me or somethings .
    I feel like ..I am in wrong place .
    I am start wondering that ...will it be like this when I start working .
    They are so competitive and I feel so minority .
    Please share your feelings
    I would appreciate that ...
    Hang in there. One day, they'll need you to lift something heavy.
  4. by   Sheri257
    Quote from Email4KH
    Hang in there. One day, they'll need you to lift something heavy.
    Yep. They'll really love you then.

  5. by   Suninmyheart
    Call it a "cultural" thing but I just can't deal with men in nursing. It just seems very wierd to me and I am not comfortable with it at all. I hope I don't offend anyone but that is how I feel.
    -AS

    Angel Spirit
    Don't Believe Everything You Think!

    suninmyeyes
  6. by   SmilingBluEyes
    I wonder about this. There is probably more the story. The three male nursing students in my class were treated like kings by the instructors and other female students alike. They could do no wrong and they got away with murder. Maybe there is jealousy on their parts. Maybe you are being treated differently by instructors. I don't know. But it did chap my behind to see the males in my class get away with sleeping, being late, eating in class and not turning all their work on time like the rest of us. That was the huge drawback to my program. They did anything they could to keep their token males in the class til graduation. They did much less for the rest of us and we were held to a different standard.

    I hope this is not a problem where you are. If not, good. Maybe you can approach these females who you think dislike you so and ask what their problem is (in a polite manner). maybe they do NOT dislike you, but just don't know you. Hard to say from where we all sit. We can speculate all day on it.

    I am sorry you are going through all of this. You need to look objectively at your situation and maybe try and figure out fact from opinion. Like maybe they dont' KNOW you , not dislike you. Like maybe they perceive you are getting favored treatment. Maybe a lot of things. Maybe nothing at all. Try and get to know them, if you can. Don't cowtow to any of them, however. You don't have to be their "friend" to succeed and graduate and achieve your dream of being an RN. You owe them NOTHING but common courtesy. If they dont' come around, grow a thick skin and try not to care so much. People sometimes won't like you...that is life. You don't have to worry what they all think. Just be your best and worry about your own studies.

    I wish you the best. Hang in there. I personally believe men have a real place in nursing and they deserve equal consideration and treatment as their female counterparts are getting.
  7. by   Fiona59
    When I was in school there were four males students in a class of 72. Two graduated. One failed and went back a semester (he was a very young 19yo, whose family wanted him to get a start in a medical career), he later graduated. Another was just not suited, lots of personality issues. The 2 who graduated were in their late 20s, married with kids, and just great guys. The older students just treated them like people and the younger ones hit on them until they realized the rings on the left hand meant wife.

    My son is currently in nursing school. He's known for years thats where he wanted to go. But he said he had to play it cold for the first few weeks. He felt that approaching any female might be seen as sexual harrassment and when the females did approach him he seemed to think they were too flirtatious in their manner. (guess he's too used to a straight talking mother).

    Just remember meeting new people in any job is difficult. Step back, look at who you think would make a good buddy and work from there. Son says its much easier to approach people after they are sitting down in the cafeteria or in the library. "Mum they don't think they're being hit on, like if you ask to buy them coffee".

    Be yourself love, you don't have two heads, you are intelligent. Take your time.
  8. by   cn2007rn
    My brother was hospitalized last year and his nurse was great. The nurse was male, he was so caring and he had the best sense of humor! My mom to this day still talks about him and how nice he was to my brother and our whole family!!

    Nurses truly make a difference in people's lives and that is what MATTERS, not gender!!!!

    I am starting nursing school in the Fall and will make sure I include all of the male nurses!!

  9. by   James Huffman
    Quote from AngelSpirit
    Okay. I will suppose your post is an honest one so I will give an honest answer. I still don't like the idea of "male" nurses but that is just me. I will also say even though I don't like working with men I try not to let that prejudice my behavior. If I have a choice I will choose not to work with men.If I have a choice I will choose not to work with me I don't have a choice I try to make the best of the situation.n. If I don't hate men - I just don't like working with them in certain situations. Call it a "cultural" thing but I just can't deal with men in nursing. It just seems very wierd to me and I am not comfortable with it at all. I hope I don't offend anyone but that is how I feel.

    -AS
    You know, I appreciate your honesty, but this is almost breath-taking.

    Please try to appreciate how you sound by saying these things. You've said:

    1. "I still don't like the idea of "male" nurses"

    2. "I don't like working with men"

    3. "If I have a choice I will choose not to work with men"

    4. "I don't hate men - I just don't like working with them in certain situations"

    5. "I just can't deal with men in nursing. It just seems very wierd to me"

    I can only imagine the furor if a man said the same things about a woman in any professional field.

    Again, while I appreciate your being honest, I can't tell you how degrading this sounds.

    Jim Huffman, RN
  10. by   estrogen
    Quote from earthlover123
    Female Nursing Students Dont like me !
    I am male nursing student . I am very lonely in my class . Nobody in my nursing class support me . It seems like they hate me or somethings .
    I feel like ..I am in wrong place .
    I am start wondering that ...will it be like this when I start working .
    They are so competitive and I feel so minority .
    Please share your feelings
    I would appreciate that ...
    I don't think it will be this way once you enter the nursing profession. We for once LOVE our male nurses. They play a very needed and important role in our community of nurses. We need more of them!

    ...So more power to you and don't let any competitive nursing students (male of female) discourage you. Once the competition of nursing school (I remember it well) is gone, and you are in the same boat with your colleagues at work, you WILL be appreciated and supported. :Melody: :hatparty:
    Last edit by estrogen on Apr 21, '05
  11. by   estrogen
    Quote from AngelSpirit
    Okay. I will suppose your post is an honest one so I will give an honest answer. I still don't like the idea of "male" nurses but that is just me. I will also say even though I don't like working with men I try not to let that prejudice my behavior. If I have a choice I will choose not to work with men. If I don't have a choice I try to make the best of the situation. I don't hate men - I just don't like working with them in certain situations. Call it a "cultural" thing but I just can't deal with men in nursing. It just seems very wierd to me and I am not comfortable with it at all. I hope I don't offend anyone but that is how I feel.

    -AS

    Well, you did offend me and I'm a female... :angryfire
  12. by   Fiona59
    Forgive my rudeness/bluntness, but where were you raised? Saudi Arabia?


    I had a classmate from the Sudan, who made it very clear that her hijab had to be worn to clinicals and her arms covered. She also stated that she wasn't comfortable working with male patients. The school just told her to get through clinicals she would have to work with who she was assigned, if her classmates would swop patients, fine, if not its time to rethink your career choice.

    Would you turn down a male patient?
    Last edit by Fiona59 on Apr 21, '05
  13. by   MryRose
    Quote from James Huffman
    You know, I appreciate your honesty, but this is almost breath-taking.

    Please try to appreciate how you sound by saying these things. You've said:

    1. "I still don't like the idea of "male" nurses"

    2. "I don't like working with men"

    3. "If I have a choice I will choose not to work with men"

    4. "I don't hate men - I just don't like working with them in certain situations"

    5. "I just can't deal with men in nursing. It just seems very wierd to me"

    I can only imagine the furor if a man said the same things about a woman in any professional field.

    Again, while I appreciate your being honest, I can't tell you how degrading this sounds.

    Jim Huffman, RN
    I agree.... my gasp was actually audible.

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