Feeling totally worthless... - page 3
Well, I just found out that I do not have a job to return to after I have recuperated from my surgery. I really do not know what I am going to do; it's almost like there has been too much to deal... Read More
Mar 5, '03Sorry for your dilema. Isn't it interesting that the compassion we are supposed to give our clients never is shown to us?
Anyway, if it's any consolation, changes I have seen people go through in this profession have always been for the better.
Will keep you in thoughts and prayers.
Looks like you have got lots of good references right here at ALLNURSES!!
Mar 5, '03Sorry to hear about your job. I was off for 61/2 months and was fortunate enough to have a job to go back to. I kept in contact with my director and she told me to call her when I was ready to go back. I'm shocked, with the nursing shortage I can't believe they wouldn't take you back. Lots of luck
Mar 5, '03Another thing I might ad, I know its a little late now, but I highly recommend disability insurance for those of you who don't have it. I had 2 policies and actually made more money while I was off than I did when I was working. Its worth the money because one never knows when they will be off work for an extended period of time. If anyone has any questions about disability policies, you can pm me
Mar 5, '03I'd add my advice but it may involve you being unfortunately incarcerated.
I'm sorry this happened to you. A similar thing happened to me while I was in cancer treatment. It sucked.
But you'll find a job, a better one. Farg 'em.
Mar 5, '03a-hem.. to paraphrase a chorus....tap,tap,tap
one day, they'll look...to see you've gone
but tomorrow may rain, so you'll follow the sun
one day, they'll know...you were the one
but tomorrow may rain so... you'll follow the sun
Fab4, all i can say is, I've seen your situation happen before and don't worry, a few months from now the same people will be begging you to come back--- with a nice raise. By then you'll be able to smugly tell them to pi** off.
Mar 5, '03i had the same thing happen to me years ago..my job was held only 3 months, and i was out for four for surgery (btw, a complete shoulder repair-injured lifting a heavy patient) and i did not receive any salary or funds during the time i was off.
fmla only protects your job for the time allowed by law..does not protect any pto during that time, or vacation..under the law, the facility does not have to provide you with any of your time earned..its their decision.
on the plus time, with the shortage, facilities are screaming for nurses...you will find another one, andprobably quicker than you wanted!
Mar 5, '03My understanding is you will get well and that is all that matters. I wish that I could come over and pat you on the back. How are you with taking care of things like cooking and cleaning? Can you manage those things or is someone helping you?
Mar 5, '03You aren't worthless but the idiot that decided to fire you is!!! I would go to the unemployment office today and enjoy the time off. You will easily get another job probably with better pay.
Mar 5, '03It just gives you a great opportunity to get a new better job.
(Also, to tell the former to kiss your behiney)
Mar 5, '03Fab, this is terrible news, but you will rise above it. Another much better job has your name on it.....you just need to find it.
Mar 5, '03Sorry Fab4fan. It really stinks that your employer kicked you when you were down. I am praying for God to expand your territories. I hope your next job brings you greater happiness and opportunities.
Mar 5, '03You are worth MUCH TOO MUCH to feel worthless. But I do understand where your feelings are coming from. I am so sorry to see you "kicked when already down". It stinks. I hope you find a situation and people who appreciate for the valuable nurse and person you are, very soon! My heart goes out to you. Take care!
Mar 5, '03I believe that it's nothing to do with your skills or time off; it must be related to that early 60s Beatle haircut you are still wearing. Now a beautician might be a better adviser here than all of us caring RNs . . .
Seriously, though I have a good story. My own. Three years ago I had a year off work culminating in back surgery. Was terminated from my job (nothing personal, they said, just the employment rules at the time!). On the day I received their letter, I couldn't even walk to the mailbox to check the mail.
Three years later, I'm an independent again, loving my work, able to walk to the park and back most days without pain. Where I used to work was taken over and everything has changed - most of my former colleagues have moved on voluntarily.
One anecdote does not make a new life for you, I know that. But so often the previous posts about new doors opening will turn out OK. Remember, you're not here to enjoy it, just have the experience! Of life, that is. LOL.