Ever lost a job offer because of your reference? - page 3

by lily1289

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After having been out of the workforce for awhile, i was surprised to find out that most employers nowadays require 3, 4 or sometimes 5 references! So my questions are: do employers really have the time to check all of your... Read More


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    Quote from CBsMommy
    A long time ago, before nursing even entered my mind, I had listed a past manager as a reference. There was nothing wrong with our relationship either during work or when I left. I worked my behind off for him, even on the weekends, gave him 3 weeks notice, never called in, was a great employee who earned bonuses regularly, etc. I move forward, have two great interviews, neither of which hire me at a time I should have easily been able to find a job. So I decide to have my father call my references to check and this manager spoke so ill of me, it makes me mad to this day!

    So, yes, I've not been hired because of my reference. If you suspect this is an issue I wouldn't list that person and find someone else instead. Good luck to you!!!
    This happened to me and I've posted about it here before. My manager told me I could use him as a reference. A potential employer that did not hire me informed me that this person was slandering me. My attorney contacted the employer with a cease and desist letter. Who would think that a person that you thought you had done an excellent job for, would stoop so low?
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    Here is a thing to think about: when I asked my manager for a reference (left on good terms) she told me the facility would not allow her to give any references. I thought this was bogus, but checked it out and no, the manager could get in trouble for doing so. I have co-workers who are willing to help, but a recent application demanded references be from previous managers (did not get called in for interview). So what do you do - ask a prospective employer if they can give references if, after you get the job, you chose to move on 5 years from now?
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    Quote from awheat
    when I asked my manager for a reference (left on good terms) she told me the facility would not allow her to give any references. So what do you do - ask a prospective employer if they can give references if, after you get the job, you chose to move on 5 years from now?
    When your manager said that she can't serve as a reference, she may have been referring to the fact that she, by law or company policy, can't say much about you when they call. This practice is becoming increasingly common because, in many cases, employers are afraid of being sued, so they can only say: "yes, XX worked here from XX date to XX date. and yes she is eligible for rehire or no she is not". I'd list my former employer as a reference anyway, if this is the case. And come with a list of references from people who are willing to speak about you.

    This is just general job hunting advice and my
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    I think they do have time to check because I have gone thru a similar experience
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    They have websites dedicated to reference checking. You may have to pay a small fee but it gives you a peace of mind. I had friend use a service like this and found out that one of her employers was saying negative things about her. She missed out on two very great job offers. I think the company even helped her file a cease or desist letter(not really sure) but I do know she was very happy that she hired the company.
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    They have websites dedicated to reference checking. You may have to pay a small fee but it gives you a peace of mind. I had friend use a service like this and found out that one of her employers was saying negative things about her. She missed out on two very great job offers. I think the company even helped her file a cease or desist letter(not really sure) but I do know she was very happy that she hired the company.
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    Quote from motivatedlilly
    They have websites dedicated to reference checking. You may have to pay a small fee but it gives you a peace of mind. I had friend use a service like this and found out that one of her employers was saying negative things about her. She missed out on two very great job offers. I think the company even helped her file a cease or desist letter(not really sure) but I do know she was very happy that she hired the company.
    Do you have a name or link of such a site? About how much do they charge?

    Thanks!


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