emotional presence.........

suzannasue · Jun 1, 2002

micro,

You gave ALL with your emotional and physical presence. You met the need she presented at that very moment. No matter how many technical facts take up space in our heads (the space in mine is extremely limited!!!!!!!) the heart shines through. We feel we have detached, but we are there. We bend and kiss and hold more than we tell.

I am sure she was comforted by your presence, my friend. I am sure she knew you were giving all that you had !!!!!!! If I am ever the face on the other side of the tubes and lines and monitors, I can only hope a nurses like micro blots my tears with her cheek as she bends to kiss me and holds my hands with the touch that tells me she is THERE.

:kiss

have a great day micro !!!! you deserve it !!!!!!!

micro, RN · Jun 1, 2002

Originally posted by semstr
Mikro, you are a Mensch!!

hey,

tell me more, semstr.....

maybe....i am a mensch.....

the answer..........

hey, suzannesue.......

thanks for kind words and the understanding.....

hey all thanks for sentence fragment micro puttin' up with.......

micro and out

live4today, RN · Jun 1, 2002

Ditto, Suzannasue! :)

Micro, you gave what you had to give. That was enough for that patient. She understood through your presence, your smile, your tender look into her eyes, the warmth of your hands holding her hands, and the kiss you planted on her cheek. She understood your caring every time you re-entered her hospital room to simply be there for her, to care for her as a nurse, and as a warm sensitive caring human being. You are never emotion-less when you can give that much of yourself to your patients or anyone else for that matter. I love you, my dear friend Micro. Stay as you are for it is WHO you are that makes the difference in so many people's lives. :kiss and ((((hugs)))) :nurse:

donmurray · Jun 1, 2002

Ditto.

don

micro, RN · Jun 4, 2002

and as i wrote to DM in a PM .........

simply all thanks for listening and giving me the support that i needed upon sharing these thoughts from my head.........

as much as i b and m about this field called nursing that i do........

i would not trade it..................

so, simply as stated before, DM..............

to you and to all, simply thanks

and back at you with all my heart...........

cause we are allnurses.............xoxoxoxoxoxxoxoxoxoxoxox

CATHYW · Jun 4, 2002

Micro, you gave the little lady on the vent everything you could. She knew that your entire being was focused on her. Short of having God speak to you, what could be more wonderful than to have the entire focus of one very caring person? The reassuring sight and sound and smell and feel of you kept this lady connected to the world, even though everything else around her seemed to be going awry. She knew you cared about her. Skill and technology are vastly important, but it is hard to improve upon a caring heart!

Ted · Jun 5, 2002

You're cool, Micro :)

Big Hug to the Care Giver. . .

Ted

mario_ragucci · Jun 5, 2002

Aww Micro, my dear. You don't have to worry, because you are doing eveything you can to help. Remember: part of any organisms job is to die. You know all about them laws of themodynamics. Your code, and yes, even my (genetic) code will become weary.

The presence part; now that I can relate to. We all have a presence. Even if you are sick, or angry, or just a run of the mill female nurse who is a natural born killer...you have a presence.

I am under sniper attack lately where I have been floating because of my presence. I figured out nurses always want the bigger presence with a patient. Me, the lowly, worthless CNA who sits is just supposed to "be there." I try to help the patient feel better by talking to them and being their friend, but that upsets the nurses.

Just remember that, although you may feel sad now about something, there are other people just like you who are good and they too are suffering.

Today, Mario, suffered the worst day of his life after a pack/mob of angry female nurses out gunned and out ranked me by writing me up for stuff I never even heard of. I have told people to be strong and to not let others bother them, yet, for the last 24 hours, I stew trying to figure out how someone could be upset with me in a care providing environment.

Adding too my anxiety is the factthat I am days away from my 2 month mark, so, if someone tries to writeme up, it really upsets me. Sometimes my mere presence can upset nurses, and that shocks me after all, because I am studying to be a nurse.

rdhdnrs · Jun 5, 2002

Micro,

Maybe you are the nurse who took care of my mother after her 3way bypass CABG Saturday night. I am depending on you to love her during your shift. I can't be her nurse; I'm her daughter. Please continue to love her the way you love others. I am dependng on you.

Lisa

micro, RN · Jun 5, 2002

rdhdnrs Lisa,

thank you for your kind words.....

hope that all is well with your mother and all your family.....

when i nurse, i cannot help but care and give all i have...

i learned this far before nursing school...

"i love red hair"

Mario,

Am so sad to hear about your "worst day".....

This 'arena' of health care that we find ourselves in.....

I just don't get, why people go out of their way to use

their energy against another fellow worker, than for

the total good....

but Mario, you just keep on keepin on

the positive shines through.....and the negatives out there may just be repelled by so much positiveness

to all here that have responded with such kind words about emotional presence.....

for our patients

and as has also been stated so eloquently....

we all have a presence..........

thank goodness that the majority of nurses and all have such powerful, positive presences

let us remember to use ourselves for the benefit of all that we come into contact with

micro and out.....love to all:kiss