Dying by sheer will alone?

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Last night a patient died by what I can only describe as sheer will alone. She did have cancer, and a tumor debulking, but was otherwise *medically* stable at that point. After surgery, all she would say is that she wanted to die, to anyone that would listen.

A day later, she did.

We had another patient that was morbidly obese. He was in for intense management of leg ulcers - again, not unstable in the least. He also one day up and decided that he'd had enough and died a day or so later.

This fascinates me, it really does. Anyone else have similar stories?

I understand about people refusing to eat, etc, and end up going that way. What really surprised me about the 2 cases that I wrote about was that neither of them lasted more than a day or so after deciding to go. Starving isn't going to work that quickly. I guess in the case of the obese guy, I believe he was diabetic, so if we stopped treating his sugars, I'm positive now that that's what did him in. But the CA lady... it took her a mere 24 hours to die after she first stated it. We didn't withdraw any medications or oxygen. She was NOT malnourished, nor dehydrated. She was on dialysis and still being treated.

It was just weird. Thanks for the stories... fascinating.

i haven't seen it since my first job in nursing (though i've heard similar stories- guess it's not all that uncommon). i was a CNA in an LTC and one evening at bedtime one of the ladies was doing her bedtime routine. she started her prayers as usual, then threw her arms up in the air and said "lord, please take me home now". i thought maybe she was just bluffing or something, but i got the nurse and sure enough- no more pulse, no more breathing, confirmed by both the nurses on duty. this lady wasn't really ill. she was still w/c mobile. i recall her being one of the most independent and oriented residents in the facility. she was just ready to go, and i guess her lord agreed that time. that's probably the most interesting thing i've seen to this day- and i work ED now- that's really saying something.

this is a cool thread.

We had a LOL not too long ago- COPD but it was not worsening. This lady was so incredibly anxious all the time (the usual for COPDers). The night she died she was her usual fiesty self, yelling out (but A&O) if you didn't get in room 30 seconds after she pushed her call light and demanding her ativan. She was not my patient that night but I guess she told the nurse who had her that she was going to die that night and she called her son and told him she was dying and died about 15 min. later. She was supposed to go to a nursing home because she could no longer take care of herself (or just didn't want to) and she was very upset about that. They were going to try to commit her. I think she willed herself to die- the committment hearing was supposed to be the next day. Weird...

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