i think what you're feeling is a natural phenomena amongst nurses.
afterall, we are allegedly the compassionate, gentle, merciful souls (
) and to feel agitated towards a patient goes against the whole image of nursing.
it doesn't matter if the patient is a med seeker, demanding, obnoxious, needy- we have all cared for these types and it's natural to feel irritation from time to time.
specific to the med seekers you speak of, i have learned to distance myself and just give them what is ordered. there is little else you can do in terms of what the doctors order for their patients.
but there are interventions for other acting out behaviors so we're not completely helpless, thank goodness.
but once you acknowledge there is little you can do re: ongoing requests or complaints of ineffective pain mgmt., just give them what the doctor ordered.
works for me.