Re: Is DNR (do not resuscitate) a good idea?
I think discussing one's wishes in regards to end of life measures is a thing to be done AT ONCE!!
I cannot think of anything worse, watching someone get the "whole nine yards", intubation, CPR, vent, etc, who did NOT want it, but did not make his/her wishes known and the family can not get together and make the decision "We don't want to kill Grandma."
I agree physicians do a ****-poor job of making the point of DNR and explaining end of life extreme measures to people.
My family knows my wishes, my last surgery I had a witnessed Living Will drawn up and given to all my doctors and the hospital. I have told my husband and my kids that if they are given a prognosis of "no hope" and that I believe in my heart that is correct, I will let them go.
We had a "shirt-tail relative" (one that is so remotely related that they aren't really a relative anymore) whose husband had her coded nine times in eight months. She never left the hospital. The day she finally died, he was standing at the door yelling at the staff to get back in there and bring her back. I couldn't decide whether to be so angry with him for selfishly holding her here when she was too sick and miserable to know anything, or feel sorry for him for loving her too much to let her go. I finally decided that it was possible to have both emotions. But when he died a few years later, he made sure everyone knew he was a DNR -- and that kind of made me mad all over again!!!!
Kinda got OT there, but in the end, YES DNR is always a good choice for those who know there is no recovery, that prolonging existence is NOT the same as prolonging life.
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