Did you ever say something you wish you hadn't


  1. Hey there everyone. Did you ever say something you wish you hadn't to the wrong person.
    My cousin and I have been friends forever. Everything changed when I moved out of state. I hardly ever hear form her now and she does not come around when I visit home. (That is whole other story a visit home is exhausting trying to see everyone, so I decieded to stay at one person's house and let people come to me afterall I do drive about 800 miles to visit home)
    Anyhow I recently had a problem with her parents at my brothers wedding. My problem is I told her about the problem after she emailed me to ask about it, and exactly how I felt about the situation. That was wrong.
    I did apoligize but now I know things will never be the same.
    :stone
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  2. 21 Comments

  3. by   OBNURSEHEATHER
    Originally posted by beckymcrn
    My problem is I told her about the problem after she emailed me to ask about it, and exactly how I felt about the situation.
    Huh?

    You mean, you told her why you're not visiting home anymore?
  4. by   renerian
    Sometimes the physical distance makes it harder to solve problems. Maybe she will come around in time.

    renerian
  5. by   hapeewendy
    well ur post confused me but to answer your question
    yes I have said something I wish I had'nt
    and so has everyone else on the planet...
    dont beat yourself up over it
    but if you really regret saying what you said then you should apologize..sure maybe things wont be the same as they were but surely an apology would help
  6. by   howie122832
    I say stuff I wished I hadn't.... EVERYDAY!! (sometimes several times a day!)

    My husband is convinced that the filter between my brain and my mouth is non-existent!
  7. by   delirium
    I always say what is on my mind, sometimes diplomatically, sometimes not. I am rarely sorry that I did so.

    This is probably a good thing for both of you. Air out the problem. If you can fix it and go back to a great relationship, awesome. If not, well, you said yourself that you hardly ever hear from her or see her.

    Respect yourself enough to tell the truth.
  8. by   baseline
    I have recently have suffered from foot in mouth disease, mostly out of stress .... took some time, but it resolved.
  9. by   beckymcrn
    Thank you for your replys.

    To those of you who are confused what I did was tell her just exactly what I thought of the way her parents treated me.


    I've known her parents all my life and it is no surprize to anyone that they were rude. I guess it is just they way I said it.
  10. by   moonchild20002000
    Is being honest a bad thing?
  11. by   OBNURSEHEATHER
    Originally posted by beckymcrn
    To those of you who are confused what I did was tell her just exactly what I thought of the way her parents treated me.
    WHOA! Total brain fart. I reread the first post, and of course now that sentence stands out like a sore thumb!

    Gotta do what you gotta do. Never feel bad for speaking your mind, I don't.

    Heather
  12. by   rdhdnrs
    I had this prob yesterday at work. I was pretty stressed with two "nonprecious" pts and came out of the OR. My charge nurse said " Are you going to come out and take care of you other patient?" She was just kidding but it went all over me!! and I said in a very snotty tone of voice " I know how to take care of my patient". So we went in the med room and I apologized and cried a little and we hugged and still love each other. Everyone says things they shouldn't and that's how we know we're human, and this keeps us humble!!
  13. by   P_RN
    I've said things that hurt people's feelings because it just jumped out of my mouth without the brain filter.

    I've said things innocently that hurt someone else......hard to apologise when you had no idea how they took it to mean.

    I have gossiped about coworkers and looked back and they had heard it all......can you feel more foolish.

    The last time we visited my Florida friend...she has a nice guest house that she lets us stay in. My hubby got sick and really wanted to get home, he had n&v and everything else. He also refused to be seen by Florida docs.....Turned out he had a kidney stone and nothing at home was any better than Fla. All he could see was at the time BC/BS didn't cover you out of state. And we were POOOOOOR.

    I had to go wake my friends up and tell them I had to leave right then. I sure could have handled it better.....I could see immediately how hurt she was......Anyway while we still e-mail etc......it changed our 40 year friendship for ever.

    Lately as I am getting older and greyer I seem to have more of a handle on my motormouth. My dear father in law used to say "my tongue was in front of my eye tooth and I couldn't see what I was saying..".......
  14. by   emily_mom
    At least your honest....which is a lot more than some others can say!!

    Kristy

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