Deathbed visions - page 3

Have you taken care of any patients who've had any? The first time I had a patient who was apparently having one was a lady who kept looking straight ahead at the wall & having conversations with... Read More

  1. by   kukukajoo
    Quote from nurse kitkat
    The most amazing thing I've experienced is when a lady I'd been nursing in pallative care passed over on my day off. The next day I went into her room feeling sad that i hadn't been there when she'd gone. The only thing left of her in the room was a book that she'd been reading before she'd become too ill laying on the middle of her bedspread. I put my hand on the book and said quietly 'I'm sorry i wasn't here when you passed, i'll miss you' . As soon as the words were out i felt this bolt of electricity ( the only way i can describe the feeling) hit the top of my head run through my body and exit through my feet. I'd never experienced that feeling before, I wasn't scared and I knew instantly that this dear lady was saying goodbye to me.

    Kat
    I too have felt this bolt of electricity when I was present when a close friend died of liver cancer. It was amazing and I will never forget it.
  2. by   indigo girl
    Quote from moongirl
    My husband's grandpa was sitting in a rocking chairon the front porch tapping his foot and smiling, said ' isnt that the most beautiful fiddle music you have ever heard" no one else heard or saw anything and he insisted there was a couple of men playing the fiddle right there in the front yard. WHen it ended, he was smiling happy and went to bed and died that night in his sleep.
    This a very lovely vision. Thank you for sharing this. I can not imagine anything so wonderful as to be hearing "the most beautiful fiddle music you have ever heard". Wow.
  3. by   Chaya
    A few weeks before my Mom died I was with her in her hospital room when she looked up , frowned and said " I just saw my mother on the wall". Then she said "But I couldn't have- she's gone". She didn't seemed scared or upset, just mystified.
  4. by   nurse_elyse
    Two weeks before my Great Grandma passed, she said she would be seeing my Aunt, who had passed away several years before, on my Aunts Birthday. Every time we would go see her she would tell us this in the following days. On my Aunts birthday, she told us she had talked to her and they were going to meet a 4:00 that day. She passed away at 3:50 that afternoon. I'll never forget that.

    Nurse KitKat, I also know several nurses and aides that will crack open a window when they think someone is going to pass on their shift to let the spirit out. I've also seen some tie a knot in the bed sheet so the patient wont pass on their shift....don't know if it works, but they seem to think it does.
  5. by   jill48
    I've seen this too many times to count. I find it comforting for myself and my patients. The only one that scared me was a man who told me I was sitting on his mother. I was just sitting in a chair at the foot of his bed. I just said sorry and got up.
  6. by   blueiwahine
    I've experienced it a few times...being a new nurse I didn't really think anything about it... until I read Crossing the Creek by Michael Holmes...it tells about things people may do before they die. I had a pt that would pick at the air...I just thought it was from the morphine she was getting...
  7. by   leslie :-D
    Quote from blueiwahine
    I've experienced it a few times...being a new nurse I didn't really think anything about it... until I read Crossing the Creek by Michael Holmes...it tells about things people may do before they die. I had a pt that would pick at the air...I just thought it was from the morphine she was getting...
    gosh, i've noticed 'picking at the air' hundreds of times and to date, i'm still not sure what it means. i assume (even though we're not supposed to ) they have been visual hallucinations of some sort....it's an odd phenomena, for sure.

    i'm thinking of an eldery woman who was actively dying. she was seeing all sorts of people who had passed and truthfully, i wasn't thinking much of it (i see this all the time) but still, encouraging 'their' conversations.
    my pt was very perplexed about one female spirit who kept on coming and this woman didn't know who this spirit was.
    through a couple of family members, it was discovered the spirit was the pt's husband's first wife, who was awaiting this pt on the other side.
    i'm not sure why she was there but i sure hope it wasn't payback!

    leslie
  8. by   AngelCNA
    Awhile back I was in with a resident who had CHF. Her 40yo son had died earlier that year. She had put her call light on and I went into her room and she sat straight up in bed and said to me, "Can you contact my sister to make sure that my son is alright?" I said to her that I would ask the nurse to contact her sister but then reminded her that her son had passed. She looked me right in the eye and said, "I know he died, so has my sister, but YOU'RE the one who can communicate with the dead." She laid back down and continued to beg for me to have contact with her sister. A bit shocked I said, "I can't talk to dead people." And she said, "I KNOW you can, you just don't know it yet." I didn't know what to say so I just excused myself and left the room.
    What makes it freakier is that a week later my s-i-l passed away. I had dreamt that someone was drowning but I couldn't see their face. I woke up and shrugged it off as a nightmare. My s-i-l drowned that morning. And when I found out, the first person I thought of was that resident at work who had passed a few days before.

    No, I can't communicate with the dead. Just coincidence.

    Another woman passed away the day after this happened: I was in with her and she perked up in bed and stared right passed me over my shoulder. She looked all scared and reached up and grabbed my head in her hands and pulled me closer and proceeded to hug me. I thanked her and told her that I had to go take care of others and that I'd be back... she grabbed my hand as if she didn't want me to go and her eyes opened wide then she stared at me and then started looking over my shoulder again. It makes me wonder now reading these, if she was seeing someone behind me.
  9. by   tbonejam
    Death Ded Visions,
    For those of you who doubt the validity of death bed visions, just continue nursing and sooner or later you will "see" them too! Or at least, you will have the opportunity to see your dying patients ( or family members, or loved ones) transitioning toward Death with the help of their loved ones who have died before them.

    As a Nurse with nearly 40 years experience, ( and 8 years as a Hospice Nurse) I can tell you, I have seen it, and continue to "see" it happen all the time. If you have not, just be open to the possibility and you will have the honor to help them and their families demystify the experience.
  10. by   tbonejam
    Quote from tbonejam
    Death Ded Visions,

    For those of you who doubt the validity of death bed visions, just continue nursing and sooner or later you will "see" them too! Or at least, you will have the opportunity to see your dying patients ( or family members, or loved ones) transitioning toward Death with the help of their loved ones who have died before them.

    As a Nurse with nearly 40 years experience, ( and 8 years as a Hospice Nurse) I can tell you, I have seen it, and continue to "see" it happen all the time. If you have not, just be open to the possibility and you will have the honor to help them and their families demystify the experience.
  11. by   emmycRN
    My great-grandmother saw her already deceased husband and daughter the day she died. Those that were there say she smiled and reached for them. During these visions she was more lucid than she had been for months.

    I have never seen this in any of my patients but I have seen many who know they are going to die before there are any clinical indications that death might be imminent. Just a few weeks ago I took care of a lady who said to me, "I won't make it out of here." She died just a day and a half later. Also, I have noticed patients becoming increasingly anxious and fearful in the days prior to thier passing, even if their physical condition is unchanged.
  12. by   Guardian
    Dear ones,
    I myself have experienced visions etc. of the sort already described here and they are quite common and helpful to the dying as well as the living. I wish to correct "CuriousMe", however. The quote that is often attributed to Nelson Mandela was created and written first by Marianne Williamson and used by Pres. Mandela in his 1994 inaugural speech.
  13. by   storm06
    I have heard of several patients who have dreamt of black crows, who then passed very quickly and quietly. From what I understand it's an old Eastern European superstition (can anyone confirm this?)
    If someone tells me they have dreamt of black crows I call the family ASAP.
    It is comforting to see a patient who is dying draw comfort from their dreams/visions. I have seen and heard of it often enough to believe that it is real.
    Last edit by storm06 on Jan 10, '07 : Reason: hey its 0245 and i cant spell anyway! still dont think i got it right,,,

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