Deathbed visions - page 2

Have you taken care of any patients who've had any? The first time I had a patient who was apparently having one was a lady who kept looking straight ahead at the wall & having conversations with... Read More

  1. by   txspadequeenRN
    I have had several patients that have talked to various people while passing but the one that really creeped me out was...I had a elderly lady that had been totally comatose for days and she woke up ( like some patients do right before death) but she reached her arms up to the ceiling and said Jesus is here to get me , then she died....I had a overwhelming feeling come over me and had to leave the room... It was a powerful moment..
  2. by   Simplepleasures
    While checking on a frail elderly lady in the dying proces, I leaned over her bed to get a better look and she opened her eyes ,looking very puzzeled,said" Where was I just now?" she did not seem upset, but merely confused as to where she had been. Whoa that really took me aback and all I could answer was "youv'e been here, with me".She was adamant that she had been "somewhere", I asked her to describe it, all she answered was " I dont know but it was nice".That was the only time I experienced this sort of thing with dying patients.It was especially odd because she had been unresponsive all shift.She lapsed back into unconsciesness and died several hours later.
  3. by   Selke
    I was dying from complications from a spinal fusion when I was 14 and for 3 days and nights saw my dead grandparents and various other dead people, most of them not benign -- everything that had terrorized me to that point in my life manifested in a demonic form to me, which nobody else could see. I also saw a few other things of great beauty, such as a white horse that I wanted to ride away on, that gave me hope. When I thought I was actually dying, after leaving my body several times, I "woke up" from immersion in this other world, and started to turn the corner and heal. I believe people do see things when they are between two worlds, invisible to us in our ordinary mental states. Many other cultural and religious traditions than the empiric western worldview acknowledge this.
  4. by   txspadequeenRN
    wow!!!

    Quote from Selke
    I was dying from complications from a spinal fusion when I was 14 and for 3 days and nights saw my dead grandparents and various other dead people, most of them not benign -- everything that had terrorized me to that point in my life manifested in a demonic form to me, which nobody else could see. I also saw a few other things of great beauty, such as a white horse that I wanted to ride away on, that gave me hope. When I thought I was actually dying, after leaving my body several times, I "woke up" from immersion in this other world, and started to turn the corner and heal. I believe people do see things when they are between two worlds, invisible to us in our ordinary mental states. Many other cultural and religious traditions than the empiric western worldview acknowledge this.
  5. by   annmariern
    my brother in his final hours saw my uncle. A person he wasnt close to, but had died in the same hospital a year earlier. He was surprised but happy about it. If he had seen my/our mother I would think hallucination. But this was just out of the blue. When he finally died, I was there and told him he better be there for me; quite sure he will.
  6. by   ShayRN
    Too tired to print up all I have seen in my very short time as a Hospice nurse. Will say this, our medical director just posted a note reminding us "be very careful what you say when the dying are talking to angels, they may be listening to you too.":angel2:
  7. by   mommy2boys
    When my grandmother was dying from cancer, she would talk to family members that had already passed in her sleep.

    Erin
  8. by   moongirl
    My husband's grandpa was sitting in a rocking chairon the front porch tapping his foot and smiling, said ' isnt that the most beautiful fiddle music you have ever heard" no one else heard or saw anything and he insisted there was a couple of men playing the fiddle right there in the front yard. WHen it ended, he was smiling happy and went to bed and died that night in his sleep.
  9. by   DutchgirlRN
    Quote from clemmm78
    Frequently. In our palliative care, we see many patients who see relatives or visions before they pass. I can't say I've ever seen a patient upset about it other than if they were trying to reach the person and couldn't.
    I witnessed several that were very comforting to the patient. But...I have experienced one that was very upsetting to everyone.

    An elderly lady who was comatose, terminal CA, she was so frightened. She said there were babies everywhere and they were trying to kill her. Turns out she had been a backwoods abortionist in her young years in Georgia. We didn't know if she was having hallucinations or if she was getting a sample of what was to come but it was creepy. She died within 24 hours.
  10. by   nurse kitkat
    Quote from ShayRN
    Too tired to print up all I have seen in my very short time as a Hospice nurse. Will say this, our medical director just posted a note reminding us "be very careful what you say when the dying are talking to angels, they may be listening to you too.":angel2:

    I worked for five years in a high care aged care facility that use to be an old country hospital - the building would have been close to 90 years old. One evening a lady who was in the early stages of dementia refused to eat all of her dinner, telling me that she had to keep some food aside to feed the two children that had come into her room the night before. I didn't think too much of this thinking that it must have been the dementia setting in. The next night she did the same thing again and left half of her meal for the kids, except this time she was really cranky complaining that the 'children' had been naughty ad kept her awake for half of the night.
    Two rooms down a frail resident who didn't have dementia was in a real state and scared to have the light off because the night before 2 kids who were covered in bandages had come into her room during the night and stood staring at her while she lay in bed. By this time I was getting goose bumps and mentioned something to one of the other nurses who'd worked their alot longer than me and wasn't at all suprised at what I'd told her. The nurse I was talking to said that apparently back in the early 70's a family had crashed their car, the parents had died instantly and their 2 children had been badly burned and brought to the nursing home when it was still a hospital. The kids ended up dying and over the years different residents with and without dementia had reported seeing them.

    I've nursed resident's in pallative care who have had intense conversations with their deceased loved ones - mother's, siblings, children (confirmed by visting living relatives) just hours before passing.

    The most amazing thing I've experienced is when a lady I'd been nursing in pallative care passed over on my day off. The next day I went into her room feeling sad that i hadn't been there when she'd gone. The only thing left of her in the room was a book that she'd been reading before she'd become too ill laying on the middle of her bedspread. I put my hand on the book and said quietly 'I'm sorry i wasn't here when you passed, i'll miss you' . As soon as the words were out i felt this bolt of electricity ( the only way i can describe the feeling) hit the top of my head run through my body and exit through my feet. I'd never experienced that feeling before, I wasn't scared and I knew instantly that this dear lady was saying goodbye to me.

    Also worked with older nurses who insisted on opening the windows to a patients room when they died so that the soul could leave.

    I'm not a religious person, but i have no doubt that there is much more out there than just this life. I've read a couple of great books dealing with these subjects; Life after Life by Raymond A. Moody and Transformed by the Light by Melvin Morse, M.D., and Paul Perry

    Sorry if this post has gone off track a bit just find the whole life after death subject fascinating!

    Kat
  11. by   Jo Dirt
    Quote from DutchgirlRN
    I witnessed several that were very comforting to the patient. But...I have experienced one that was very upsetting to everyone.

    An elderly lady who was comatose, terminal CA, she was so frightened. She said there were babies everywhere and they were trying to kill her. Turns out she had been a backwoods abortionist in her young years in Georgia. We didn't know if she was having hallucinations or if she was getting a sample of what was to come but it was creepy. She died within 24 hours.
    Maybe hallucinations stemming from a guilty conscience? I read a book about an Afro-American Alabama midwife called, "Listen to me Good." She was describing being at her dying mother-in-law's side, who used to practice backwoods abortions. The old lady was agonizing and crying, I can see heaven but they won't let me in, I see all those babies...all those babies... really left an impression on me and still does even though it has been many years since I read that book. Excellent book, by the way.
  12. by   all4schwa
    i've known of many in the nursing home to see or hear children before they pass.
  13. by   indigo girl
    Our own beliefs and experiences color what see happening to our patients before death. When I worked in ICU years ago, we received a young man with end stage lung CA, and as part of our report from the floor, we were told that he had had a near death experience. Every nurse reported this to the oncoming nurse. Our patient was very fearful as was his wife. All the nurses believed that he was going to die, and it was no surprise when he developed aspergillosis. Suctioning him was traumatic for all of us because of s/s of this secondary infection. He did not die well. I was an inexperienced nurse then and would have done more to support both of them if I had known more then.

    I have seen many patients in almost 25 years at the bedside, who have appeared to be conversing with invisible beings, and were at peace with this. Some, who had initially been fearful, were comforted by these visions. Our acceptance of what our patients may be experiencing can help family members to be relieved of the worry about their loved ones. Being open to the experience, being present for the family and allowing ourselves to be witnesses to the great passage from life into the realm of death is a privilege, and I would consider it to be a rite of passage for those who want to be caretakers to the dying. I always feel a great calm when someone is dying. I know that I am looking into the eyes of someone who is seeing the eternal oneness of all beings.
    Last edit by indigo girl on Dec 27, '06

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