Dear preceptor - page 7

by Ivanna_Nurse

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Dear preceptor.. I came to you smiling, full of energy and ready to tackle the last leg of my orientation journey, with your guidance of course. I haven't really gotten any inclination on where that guidance is at. You tell me... Read More


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    I really hope that when I start mine i will have a good expereince........!
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    Quote from Ivanna_Nurse
    Ok, so this is a vent. I apologize for the length of this post. Please note that this is not meant to be a general statement of my opinion on a whole group of people. Dont flame me. Im mad and tired and dont have anyone else to tell.

    Dear preceptor.. I came to you smiling, full of energy and ready to tackle the last leg of my orientation journey, with your guidance of course. I haven't really gotten any inclination on where that guidance is at. You tell me what patients to take, and I take them. Then when I am at the bedside, communicating with the family (you know that rapport thing?), you decide that it is a great time to tell me *not to touch the patient*, or the machines for that matter unless you are there. What? I did not fall off of the nursing school wagon yesterday. I am new to your facility, but not a new grad. I did get a smug sense of satisfaction when the family told you it was fine and I was handling things.

    I see that you do not have any intention of assessing my skill level or evaluating areas in which I need assistance. In your eyes, I have no skill level or even brain stem function because every action on my part is met by you with some sort of resistance or interrogation. You cant wait for me to come out of the bathroom before you call the doc... making me look like some sort of fool that cant call the doctor. Lo and behold the toilet flushes and I am greeted with 75 orders, all of which you *write* but make me *do*. Although I am a critical care nurse, and am comfortable with bedside procedures, it is *imperative * on your part to ensure that I am educated on sterile fields and how to open packages. That makes me feel so great, especially with the doc at the bedside.

    Precepting with you has given me a great opportunity to practice dealing with "the cold shoulder, being aloof and unapproachable." I *know* that you aren't any of those things, just preparing me for when I run into someone who is. Thanks! I am now well versed in forced conversation, fake enthusiasm, and being lonely but not alone.

    I have been practicing my mental, telepathic and psychic abilities... seeing as how there isn't any verbal interaction between us, its time to take it up a notch. *places fingertips to temples* Can you hear me now?

    Here is an interesting thought. You breeze in, tell me how the lights have to be like this, and these lines need to be like this and so on. I am respectful of those requests. I like things a certain way too.. try to be mindful of that. The road goes both ways here. The same goes for documentation. Maybe you could ask me why I wrote a cetain thing before you scratch it out and write error... although all the extra embellishments make my flow sheet look freakin fantastic, right?

    When I ask you about something, especially when its a policy and the rationale for not following it... I just love when you get mean and flash those *knowing* looks to all your friends at the desk.

    Precepting with you has been quite the experience, and as life goes, all things must come to an end. Now that our journey is finished, know that I will *never* forget you.

    Love, your preceptee
    i experienced the same thing,, i'm a new nurse then in a special area.. too bad, i quitted because of her.. now i'm back to square one, looking for a job. by the way, i'm a Filipino nurse
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    OMG! Did you have the same preceptor as myself. AMEN, AMEN, AMEN! I actually hate to make someone feel stupid in front of someone else..........I think it makes ME look stupid for doing it. Thanks for pointing out that nurses DO eat their young.......I have seen so many nurses on here state that it is NOT true.....but believe me they are out there slashing throats every single day.
    Ivanna_Nurse likes this.
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    The phone call to the Dr. is the least of the problem. Making condescending remarks in front of the patient and family only make you look crude and uncaring. You don't have to make people feel ignorant in a patient room to "justify" the fact that YOU are the smart one and the preceptee is stupid, or do you?
    shoegalRN likes this.
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    WHY was this conduct permitted or even tolerated. There's NO place in my unit that this SORT of narcissistic and condescending behavior is endulge. I am a preceptor and it broke my heart TO SEE how tretous and painful your orientation was. This preceptor should have been given a discipllinary action and sent to remidial class. As a preceptor in our facility, we are required to take a class geard specifically to accomodate the need of the preceptee and NOT to place punitive criticism. Did you REPORT this preceptor's behavior to your DIRECTOR? this preceptor has a case of CONDUCT UNBECOMING! I advice you to report this event and so NO other new NUrse has to go thru this MALTREATMENT. nURSING IS A WONDERFUL AND FULFILING JOB, YOU DONT HAVE TO HATE IT BECAUSE SOMEONE ELSE DOES.
    RN_that_was_bullied likes this.
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    Once again....amen, amen, amen!!!
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    Quote from respectall
    WHY was this conduct permitted or even tolerated. There's NO place in my unit that this SORT of narcissistic and condescending behavior is endulge. I am a preceptor and it broke my heart TO SEE how tretous and painful your orientation was. This preceptor should have been given a discipllinary action and sent to remidial class. As a preceptor in our facility, we are required to take a class geard specifically to accomodate the need of the preceptee and NOT to place punitive criticism. Did you REPORT this preceptor's behavior to your DIRECTOR? this preceptor has a case of CONDUCT UNBECOMING! I advice you to report this event and so NO other new NUrse has to go thru this MALTREATMENT. nURSING IS A WONDERFUL AND FULFILING JOB, YOU DONT HAVE TO HATE IT BECAUSE SOMEONE ELSE DOES.
    I went into the boss's office and laid it out... I know what happened on my end, on the preceptor side, I haven't a clue. ~Ivanna
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    Quote from naturallyred
    OMG! Did you have the same preceptor as myself. AMEN, AMEN, AMEN! I actually hate to make someone feel stupid in front of someone else..........I think it makes ME look stupid for doing it. Thanks for pointing out that nurses DO eat their young.......I have seen so many nurses on here state that it is NOT true.....but believe me they are out there slashing throats every single day.
    Amen Amen Amen that I am on my own!!!! SO glad! :spin: Ivanna
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    Quote from cheesecurls
    i experienced the same thing,, i'm a new nurse then in a special area.. too bad, i quitted because of her.. now i'm back to square one, looking for a job. by the way, i'm a Filipino nurse
    You can always find your specialty just remember, don't let anyone make you quit! Dig in your heels and STAY.... they want you to run for the hills! Good luck, just know you aren't alone :redpinkhe ~Ivanna
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    I am a new LPN and have also had a bad experience. I am so discouraged that I am considering going back to Accounting/Finance rather than go on and be an RN. Not only is it disappointing that nurses have to be treated like this from other nurses, but also from patient's families (or the patient), doctors, etc. After being on the "inside" of healthcare, it scares me to death to think that I (or my family) could get sick. No way would I want to be the patient...rude doctors, nurses, nurses who don't know what they are doing because someone didn't want to help them learn. I am quickly losing my compassion and desire to make a difference!


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