Dear preceptor - page 5

Dear preceptor.. I came to you smiling, full of energy and ready to tackle the last leg of my orientation journey, with your guidance of course. I haven't really gotten any inclination on where that... Read More

  1. Visit  bunnies123 profile page
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    Sorry you had to deal with that...but it could be worse, my preceptor was not nice and deaf..and I was constantly having to ask questions very loudly and clarify infomation very loudly. If I tried to use my "inside voice" there was a lot of WHAT?? WHAT DID YOU SAY?? NO THAT'S NOT RIGHT! oh well, you just have to laugh and go on.
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  2. Visit  CoffeeGeekRN profile page
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    Quote from Ivanna_Nurse
    When I ask you about something, especially when its a policy and the rationale for not following it... I just love when you get mean and flash those *knowing* looks to all your friends at the desk.
    Love, your preceptee

    Yeah, this I have experience a lot!
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  3. Visit  hiddencatRN profile page
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    Quote from Blackheartednurse
    Shrugging**** Wow I got chills while reading your post..god why nurses have to eat their young so much!
    Maybe we're just really tasty?
  4. Visit  Sewbusy~RN profile page
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    Yuck! Glad you're free now! Thats the problem with nursing attracting type As so much. So many just can't let go of the control.
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  5. Visit  EnkeliRN profile page
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    Originally Posted by Ivanna_Nurse
    When I ask you about something, especially when its a policy and the rationale for not following it... I just love when you get mean and flash those *knowing* looks to all your friends at the desk.
    Love, your preceptee


    I must say that I came home tiered and exhausted having some heavy loads of pts. However, after reading the last part of your post, I thought about my own experience and decided to share few things! :behindpc:A month ago while I was in my med/surg orientation, I felt the same way. Is it really necessary to tell every damn CA/Tech/RN/Dr, that I was new to the floor or make some spiky comments. I wish sometimes, these veteran nurses remember how they felt as a new grad
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  6. Visit  Ivanna_Nurse profile page
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    Quote from rahelina


    I must say that I came home tiered and exhausted having some heavy loads of pts. However, after reading the last part of your post, I thought about my own experience and decided to share few things! :behindpc:A month ago while I was in my med/surg orientation, I felt the same way. Is it really necessary to tell every damn CA/Tech/RN/Dr, that I was new to the floor or make some spiky comments. I wish sometimes, these veteran nurses remember how they felt as a new grad
    Aayyyy-mennnn. Sleep well! Ivanna
  7. Visit  oldiebutgoodie profile page
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    Every once in a while, what goes around, comes around. I had a preceptor (although I had been a nurse for about a year) who yelled at me in front of the whole floor that I was uncooperative and was driving her crazy (because I kept forgetting to log out of the computer). She stomped off in a snit. This was my preceptor!

    Fast forward several years, and I am now a specialty nurse. Great hours, somewhat respected. We have a job opening. Ex-preceptor applies for the job, and starts kissing up to me. Sorry, I can't possibly recommend someone for the job who can't control their temper with a preceptee.

    Payback's a *****!


    Oldiebutgoodie
    Last edit by Silverdragon102 on Dec 2, '09 : Reason: changed to all **
  8. Visit  goltzilocks profile page
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    Wow! This post has really generated some excellent conversation and thoughts. Tabitha, I so agree with you. The issues you mentioned seem to have become an epidemic in the healthcare industry and the reasons for it are multiple. I'm even more weary when I hear about this new Healthplan that is going to come out with the new administration. I think it's going to get more demanding and the shortages of nurses and Dr's will only increase.

    Many things are out of our control but the one thing we can control is our attitude. It is difficult when faced with daily obstacles to providing the optimal care to our patients. I try to approach my nursing with a positive attitude and do the very best I personally can to make a difference daily. It is not always easy but all we can do collectively is try.

    Nursing can be a double edged sword. There are so many rewards but the frustrations of doing our jobs the way they "should" be done can tear us down. There was recently a journal article that stated many nurses are going back to school to seek another career after just a year or two of being in the nursing field because of the stress. I'm glad that we all have each other on this board. When I have a bad day I can come here to a "safe" place to vent or just read someone else's post and know that I'm not all alone out there feeling this way.

    Thanks everyone who wrote on this post, Lydia Phoenix, AZ
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  9. Visit  dalilama profile page
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    I really hope that when I start mine i will have a good expereince........!
  10. Visit  cheesecurls profile page
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    Quote from Ivanna_Nurse
    Ok, so this is a vent. I apologize for the length of this post. Please note that this is not meant to be a general statement of my opinion on a whole group of people. Dont flame me. Im mad and tired and dont have anyone else to tell.

    Dear preceptor.. I came to you smiling, full of energy and ready to tackle the last leg of my orientation journey, with your guidance of course. I haven't really gotten any inclination on where that guidance is at. You tell me what patients to take, and I take them. Then when I am at the bedside, communicating with the family (you know that rapport thing?), you decide that it is a great time to tell me *not to touch the patient*, or the machines for that matter unless you are there. What? I did not fall off of the nursing school wagon yesterday. I am new to your facility, but not a new grad. I did get a smug sense of satisfaction when the family told you it was fine and I was handling things.

    I see that you do not have any intention of assessing my skill level or evaluating areas in which I need assistance. In your eyes, I have no skill level or even brain stem function because every action on my part is met by you with some sort of resistance or interrogation. You cant wait for me to come out of the bathroom before you call the doc... making me look like some sort of fool that cant call the doctor. Lo and behold the toilet flushes and I am greeted with 75 orders, all of which you *write* but make me *do*. Although I am a critical care nurse, and am comfortable with bedside procedures, it is *imperative * on your part to ensure that I am educated on sterile fields and how to open packages. That makes me feel so great, especially with the doc at the bedside.

    Precepting with you has given me a great opportunity to practice dealing with "the cold shoulder, being aloof and unapproachable." I *know* that you aren't any of those things, just preparing me for when I run into someone who is. Thanks! I am now well versed in forced conversation, fake enthusiasm, and being lonely but not alone.

    I have been practicing my mental, telepathic and psychic abilities... seeing as how there isn't any verbal interaction between us, its time to take it up a notch. *places fingertips to temples* Can you hear me now?

    Here is an interesting thought. You breeze in, tell me how the lights have to be like this, and these lines need to be like this and so on. I am respectful of those requests. I like things a certain way too.. try to be mindful of that. The road goes both ways here. The same goes for documentation. Maybe you could ask me why I wrote a cetain thing before you scratch it out and write error... although all the extra embellishments make my flow sheet look freakin fantastic, right?

    When I ask you about something, especially when its a policy and the rationale for not following it... I just love when you get mean and flash those *knowing* looks to all your friends at the desk.

    Precepting with you has been quite the experience, and as life goes, all things must come to an end. Now that our journey is finished, know that I will *never* forget you.

    Love, your preceptee
    i experienced the same thing,, i'm a new nurse then in a special area.. too bad, i quitted because of her.. now i'm back to square one, looking for a job. by the way, i'm a Filipino nurse
  11. Visit  naturallyred profile page
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    OMG! Did you have the same preceptor as myself. AMEN, AMEN, AMEN! I actually hate to make someone feel stupid in front of someone else..........I think it makes ME look stupid for doing it. Thanks for pointing out that nurses DO eat their young.......I have seen so many nurses on here state that it is NOT true.....but believe me they are out there slashing throats every single day.
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  12. Visit  naturallyred profile page
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    The phone call to the Dr. is the least of the problem. Making condescending remarks in front of the patient and family only make you look crude and uncaring. You don't have to make people feel ignorant in a patient room to "justify" the fact that YOU are the smart one and the preceptee is stupid, or do you?
    shoegalRN likes this.
  13. Visit  respectall profile page
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    WHY was this conduct permitted or even tolerated. There's NO place in my unit that this SORT of narcissistic and condescending behavior is endulge. I am a preceptor and it broke my heart TO SEE how tretous and painful your orientation was. This preceptor should have been given a discipllinary action and sent to remidial class. As a preceptor in our facility, we are required to take a class geard specifically to accomodate the need of the preceptee and NOT to place punitive criticism. Did you REPORT this preceptor's behavior to your DIRECTOR? this preceptor has a case of CONDUCT UNBECOMING! I advice you to report this event and so NO other new NUrse has to go thru this MALTREATMENT. nURSING IS A WONDERFUL AND FULFILING JOB, YOU DONT HAVE TO HATE IT BECAUSE SOMEONE ELSE DOES.
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