Dear preceptor - page 15

by Ivanna_Nurse 60,958 Views | 175 Comments

Dear preceptor.. I came to you smiling, full of energy and ready to tackle the last leg of my orientation journey, with your guidance of course. I haven't really gotten any inclination on where that guidance is at. You tell me... Read More


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    SweetdreamsRN, so very well said, and so encouraging. Thanks for the positive message!
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    It is too bad that you had such a poor preceptor. It really dose make one feel alienated when one is so hungry to learn and gets the equivilent of diet jello for a preceptor. I had 11 preceptors some good and some bad. One things for sure, I was aware of many of the inconsistencies in following protocol between all of my precpeptors. From the good ones I took what I liked and from the bad ones I learned what not to do!
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    That stinks, sorry you went thru that. The closest I ever came to a "bad" preceptor was when I was led to believe by others that she would be a "bad" preceptor. She actually wasn't bad at all.

    I'm glad it's over, hope you did get to learn what you DID need to learn! Good article!
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    I completely understand how you feel! I'm a recent new grad and my first preceptor at my new job was horrible. In the beginning, he left me to figure things out by myself while he went out for a smoke or flirted with the other new grads starting on my floor. Then a few weeks into it my supervisor found out that he was abandoning me most of the time and apparently talked to him about it so he started hovering over every little thing I did! Not sure which was worse... Thankfully they gave me an entirely different preceptor towards the end of my orientation. Oh well, I'm just glad it's over and I'm working on my own now! If anything, I learned how not to be a preceptor
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    Ivanna, I had same experience once in my life time . I took it with grace and with funny look into this. I did not forgot her totally .. Especially now when I come with my students and "nicely" steer them from her knowing that she might cut off some of the new wings that just are starting to learn how to fly. You came out as an eagle and just FLY and SMILE , who can resist to freedom?
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    I know where your coming from. My preceptor went as far as telling me that she "had to do it" and that precepting was the last thing in her to do list.

    Further more she told me never to speak to her, unless it was related to nursing, and would respond to my questions only if she felt my questions where worthy of an answer. Get this, on my break I decided to step outside for a breath of fresh air and this preceptor told me to go away because I was invading her space. So you see, I can relate to your experience.

    These types of experiences will always make you stronger. I believe if our self-worth is fragile this kind of person can destroy you.
    I have been nursing for 17 years, and I have encountered some fantastic nurses and others who are really bitter and mean.

    The difference between the bitter and the fantastic nurse is the bitter nurse may not know how to forgive and perhaps her self esteem is so low that in order to feel good about herself, she must tear someone down in order to feel superior and in control. The operative word is control. The good natured nurse normally can feel good about herself and her job. She has no need to tear anyone down or a need to be in control.

    After 17 years of nursing, I can pick out the people who are actually called to nursing and those who are just there for the money. Thank You for your post
    Last edit by PherbRN on Feb 18, '10 : Reason: To say thank you.
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    Boy did your posts bring back memories of when I started out in NICU. I started with after working 6 months in skilled nursing facility and my experience with my first born preemie lead my heart back to the Nursery. My preceptor would have me come to her before doing anything which of course "is the point" and after drawing my own labs and spinning my own crits I wouldn't receive much feedback she would just say ok. Looking back (1997) she never gave me any indication that she wanted me to retain anything that she showed me.It seems that it was her turn to precept and she really did not want to be bothered she'd show up/off just for the sake of appearances (docs parents& peers). Long story short when offered two more weeks with her (my ability wasn't under question, I'm a quick study and have always been praised for thinking on my feet but the politics in nursing critical care especially... it's a weeding out process to see how bad you want to stay) I declined and decided to go to GENERAL PEDS where it was less stuffy and just a few less egos(I've got mine now u gotta earn yours...no stuff sherlock at least make the environment condusive to learning). At my current job I have the privelege
    of ORIENTATING NEW HIRES and I make a point of being WARM,THOROUGH,and ADDRESSING ANY CONCERNS they might have. MY SUPERVISOR always calls to ask if I think the NEW HIRE likes the CLIENT and HOW THEY DID,I have gotten ACCOLADES for ORIENTATING NURSESSO NO WORRIES IN NO TIME THAT EXPERIENCE WILL BE A MERE MEMORY,THE WORLD HAS A WAY OF BALANCING ITSELF OUT,IT'S HOW YOU TAKE THOSE NEGATIVE EXPERIENCES AND DO THE EXACT OPPOSITE !!! BE SWEET,TOODLES!!!
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    Quote from PherbRN
    I know where your coming from. My preceptor went as far as telling me that she "had to do it" and that precepting was the last thing in her to do list.etc ....
    How long ago was that? That is HORRENDOUS! wow... Glad you survived it!

    Quote from my2bitz
    Boy did your posts bring back memories of when I started out in NICU... At my current job I have the privelege
    of ORIENTATING NEW HIRES and I make a point of being WARM,THOROUGH,and ADDRESSING ANY CONCERNS they might have. MY SUPERVISOR always calls to ask if I think the NEW HIRE likes the CLIENT and HOW THEY DID,I have gotten ACCOLADES for ORIENTATING NURSESSO NO WORRIES IN NO TIME THAT EXPERIENCE WILL BE A MERE MEMORY,THE WORLD HAS A WAY OF BALANCING ITSELF OUT,IT'S HOW YOU TAKE THOSE NEGATIVE EXPERIENCES AND DO THE EXACT OPPOSITE !!! BE SWEET,TOODLES!!!

    Sometimes people teach us how NOT to be! That's great It's too bad it took you from your first love though, any regrets?
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    Beautiful statement. That is so true. Its too bad we all can not get along. Our job would be so much easier if we trusted each other as nurses. You give new and old nurses something to think about...and maybe next time the next person will have a good expereince.:bowingpur
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    What has happened to the nurses of yesterday? When we cared for our "patients" (now referred to as clients) with sincere compassion. I know that our working environment has changed drastically. We work longer hours, job cuts, and increased responsibilities, over tired and so on. We must understand that our Co-Workers are not responsible for what is happening in healthcare. So why do we often treat each other with disrespect? Why is the anger channeled toward new employees? Why do we tear each other down instead of helping and supporting one another? We are all in this together.

    I have had the opportunity to teach nursing students. The first thing I teach them is to never turn on one another.
    If something has to be reported, do it! Even so, never put down a colleague.

    Let's take our frustrations out on the guilty parties.
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