hmmmm, there are many things about this story that sounds fishy to me. first off, i've never worked anywhere where is was protocol to have a male nurse present during my assessment of a male pt. i've not worked with that many male nurses at the places that i have worked at. that being the case, it would make my job very difficult, if not impossible, to treat my pt in a timely manner. but, if it is protocol at your facility, it is what it is.
secondly, he had no right to ask you to leave the room, especially considering it was your pt. i wouldn't have left the room. if the idea is that he has to be there to be your witness, then it only makes sense that you should be there to be his witness as well. the fact that your pt "deflected the question 3 times," in regards to his comfort level with the male nurse seems odd to me. in addition, he certainly shouldn't have been doing such a personal assessment without gloves on. on top of that, you mentioned that in the past he was "massaging" a guys butt after an injection. i can see doing a quick circular rub after an im, but a massage?!? what's wrong with this combined picture?
i also have to wonder if there is more to the story about his past criminal history that hasn't came out yet. the fact that he's not allowed to be around any children certainly raises a red flag to me; perhaps he has a history of some type of child abuse. i don't see the connection between striking a police officer and not being allowed to legally be around children.
i agree with you, it sounds a little off to me too. i don't think your over reacting, given the circumstances. i hope i'm not writing more into things then is really there, it all just sounds real fishy to me. i would ask around discretly, to the co-workers you can trust to not start rumors, and see if anyone else has noticed anything a little off with his conduct.
i would be very careful what you document, but i would certainly document this incident and any similar in the future. he is definately, in my opinion, displaying inappropriate behavior.
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