Coworker complained about her husband half the night. - page 3

Last night I worked with a nurse who has worked at my hospital for 3 months. She moved to our state for her husband to complete an educational program. She has 3 kids. I have not worked with her very... Read More

  1. by   wildmountainchild
    I'd go the direct route. I hate it when people feel strongly about something but don't ever let the object of thier frustration in on the matter. I try to live my life according to the mantra "If it was me, would I want to know?"

    In this case, YES!! I don't want to be annoying. Especially to co-workers or classmates, and particularly concerning issues that I could easily modify given the opportunity.

    I might make it into a bit of a joke and say something along the lines of "All your crap-talking about your hubby is driving me nuts...next time you say anything about him I'm going to thwack you in the forhead w/ this giant rubber band."

    And then any time she started to talk about him I would snap the rubber band on my wrist. Funny and effective. It keeps it light but gets your opinion heard. Obviously there would be no actually thwapping of the forehead involved. Non-serious threats of forehead thwapping only, you don't want to put anyones eye out.

    But seriously, if it was you wouldn't you want someone to say "Enough already!" Everyone needs the opportunity for self-improvement but you can't improve w/o constructive criticism. Think about it, those times in life you've learned the most have been when you've learned from mistakes. And you can't learn from them if you don't know about them.
  2. by   GardenDove
    OK, I've gotten alot of good advise. If it happens again I'm going to be more direct. I guess I feel sorry for her, but I'll just be assertive if she brings it up. Something like "I'm so sorry you're unhappy, let's talk about something more uplifting, okay?" How does that sound?
  3. by   SmilingBluEyes
    smile, tell her you are sorry for her and walk away.

    next time she complains, say nothing, just walk away.


    she will get the hint.
  4. by   JBudd
    Quote from GardenDove
    OK, I've gotten alot of good advise. If it happens again I'm going to be more direct. I guess I feel sorry for her, but I'll just be assertive if she brings it up. Something like "I'm so sorry you're unhappy, let's talk about something more uplifting, okay?" How does that sound?
    Sounds good, but be prepared to repeat yourself a few times!
    I have some CEN prep tapes, maybe you could get something along those lines and insist on listening to them in the car "to get ready" for the class. Von Frolio's taped CEN course is hilarious.
  5. by   Simplepleasures
    Why dont you just tell her the truth, you dont give a rats butt. Mean as all get out but true.
  6. by   doingourbest
    Gosh! who has time to chat? I would be telling her "Sorry, but I need to focus on my work."
  7. by   CRNI-ICU20
    you could offer to listen to her complaints just as soon as she fills out the form....you know...the one that says "new patient" at the top?? Then let her know your fees are $50 per hour and escalate after the initial first hour....tick tick tick.....ahem. crni
  8. by   GeminiTwinRN
    Any updates on this situation GardenDove? It's past your Education days you listed, and you've had about 6 more months (presumably) working with this nurse. Has she backed off at all, or are you having to avoid her at all costs?

    Looking forward to an update! Hope things are going along smoothly for you (and her).

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