Cold Hearted Nurse's - page 3

Please excuse the tone of this post but I need to vent before I deck a nurse!!!! In the last five days, I have lost three very dear patients. Oh course, at the end of each shift we give a status... Read More

  1. by   Katch22
    I realize stress affects people in different ways. But one has to stand back and look at how burned out they are and think before they speak in such a manner. There are some things in our job which we must joke about or we will go crazy. Death is not necessarily one of those things!
  2. by   micro
    Originally posted by Katch22
    I realize stress affects people in different ways. But one has to stand back and look at how burned out they are and think before they speak in such a manner. There are some things in our job which we must joke about or we will go crazy. Death is not necessarily one of those things!

    katch22

    well said, and I agree.....
    actually last noc(at this point), I think i heard just one too many comments about death and passing without any respect for the human being behind it, let alone their family.....
    maybe this "wonderful nurse" has never had to come to terms with their own mortality.........?????

    katch22, haven't seen much of your posts,,,,,


    keep posting.......

    micro is an oldtimer and needs new breath.................

    thx for your posting and your thoughts...........

    luv,
    micor:zzzzz
  3. by   mario_ragucci
    Duckie, that was a hardcore story for me. I don't know how I would have played those events. I run accross this behavior from certain nurses all the time.
    Most people are gonna chime about heaven and other beyond places of arrival. It's okay, but there is no happy face when death comes.
  4. by   duckie
    The nurse in question was in a near fatal accident about two months ago with her ten year old grand-daughter. We all had hoped that since God spared both of their lives with out much more than scratches after their truck flipped and rolled down a hill, that just maybe she would change just a little for the good. We were all wrong. Yes, I think she is burned out but even a burned out nurse can have compassion for a dying man that is screaming in pain. Come on, there is no excuse here. Her only concern is what will be added to her work load and will she have to stay a minute past her clock out time. If I can stay 1-1 1/2 hours OT to help, what's her problem. Usually my husband sits in the truck and waits for me, the most patient man in the world. Maybe that's why I have a husband and she doesn't, I care about others, she cares only for herself. But I am adding her to my prayer list. I will pray that if God cannot change her, that he will change my feeling about how to deal with her and let my love for him shine through no matter how upset she makes me. I will try to keep on my bestest smile and pray for my tongue to be sanctified!!! One very good thing is that once the Skilled Unit is finished, I will no longer have to deal with her, as she refuses to work it.
  5. by   JonRN
    Hi Duckie....you are a great person and I am proud to be in the same state as you (Indiana). Someday this nurse who hopes nobody dies on her shift will get sick herself, maybe sooner, maybe later. When she does hopefully she will get someone just like her for her own nurse, then the redemption can begin. I have been as burned out as anyone can be during my career, but I can't ever remember taking it out on the patients. The docs? Hell yes!!! Other nurses? Also a yes but not as bad as the docs. This is just sick behavior bordering on the psychotic. She shouldn't be allowed in the same facility as any patient, let alone be assigned to care for them.
  6. by   duckie
    Originally posted by JonRN
    Hi Duckie....you are a great person and I am proud to be in the same state as you (Indiana). Someday this nurse who hopes nobody dies on her shift will get sick herself, maybe sooner, maybe later. When she does hopefully she will get someone just like her for her own nurse, then the redemption can begin. I have been as burned out as anyone can be during my career, but I can't ever remember taking it out on the patients. The docs? Hell yes!!! Other nurses? Also a yes but not as bad as the docs. This is just sick behavior bordering on the psychotic. She shouldn't be allowed in the same facility as any patient, let alone be assigned to care for them.

    I couldn't agree with you more but since I am not the one that makes these decisions, I'm certain her behavior will continue. At lease until she offends a family member of someone in administration, which is not likely as she works 3rds. Oh well, it's up to God. I'll just keep doing the very best I can. The support from all of you really means a lot when I'm down or my Indian/Irish/Dutch mouth is about to get me into trouble. :chuckle
  7. by   ohioln
    Duckie, I'm sooo sorry that nurse treated you the way they did! You are a kind and compassionate nurse. Don't let people like that effect the way you are!! Please do not hit them! If you do, you will be the one in trouble. Call your supervisor whenever it's necessary. Also, if they're not available, call another colleague that's in a station near you to come over and help somehow so that you two don't get into it. I hope I have someone like you at my bedside when I'm about to leave here. I know it's so hard to loose a patient! I've worked in geriatrics for years. Love in Jesus, God bless you.
    Last edit by ohioln on Aug 27, '02

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