Cold Hearted Nurse's - page 2

Please excuse the tone of this post but I need to vent before I deck a nurse!!!! In the last five days, I have lost three very dear patients. Oh course, at the end of each shift we give a status... Read More

  1. by   Sleepyeyes
    Duckie, God Bless you! I'd want you at my side if it was my time. :kiss :angel2:
  2. by   night owl
    (((Duckie))) :angel2:
    You are an angel from heaven & have more compassion than anyone else I've ever known. Keep the faith kiddoe. Those b!tches will have their day and then they'll wish they gave more compassion b/c I honestly feel that what goes around comes around. :kiss
  3. by   hoolahan
    Originally posted by NurseAngie
    Duckie ---->>>:angel2:

    Couldn't agree more!!!

    PS, what happened to the wicked witch? Did the sup talk with her? Sounds like she is not right for Hospice work! You are a bigger person than me to restrain yourself that way. I would have personally opened up a can on whoop a$$ on her!

    I am glad there are people like you! :kiss
  4. by   DIPLOMATICRN4HIRE
    Ducky,
    You are a wonderful nurse with a place in heaven seated in the best spot to the right of the Lord Im sure...
    Im am so thankful that your patients have you , a nurse with heart and compassion and one who gets personally envolved with the patient as well as the family.
    The nurse that is so heartless and abrupt to the situation really needs to reconsider her placement in that care facility, if thats her attitude then she really is located in the wrong area of care. Those halls need angels that think of others not themselves, and personaly I dont see that coming from her...
    I do however see you and your heart floating the halls and giving relief in situations that need a hand and a shoulder to hold when the time is near..
    Much love and heart is poured into your job and I am so thankful that you do the job that you do , Its nurses like you that made me who and what I am... My mother was a hospice patient and I not once saw her nurses feet touch the ground and the care and love she recieved convienced me that Nursing was my destiny... THANK YOU FOR WHAT YOU DO
    with love
    Zoe
  5. by   duckie
    Thank you all for your kind words. I'll try my best to remain professional and not shove her into a very small drawer the next time I see her! Seriously, I do have a speech in my mind I will give her, that I hope will make her feel about 6 inches high. Her problem is that she is bitter and burned out but she's not been a nurse much longer than me so sorry, that's not a good enough excuse. She gave no consideration to the fact that I have worked 10 hour days all week without a break, but she sure takes her breaks. I was told that one night a man died and she was paged. She told the CNA, "Well he's going to have to wait, I'm smoking a cigarette". What it comes down to is that I am only responsible for my actions and she will answer to God for hers!!!
  6. by   shay
    She told the CNA, "Well he's going to have to wait, I'm smoking a cigarette".
    Can I please come kick her butt now?? Please? Please??

    AAAAAAAARRRRRRRGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHH!!! I cannot STAND nurses with no sense of urgency!!! I mean, okay, the guy was dead and not going anywhere. But she could have at least not been a total (insert explicative of choice here) about it and said something like "thanks, I'll be there in just a minute...'

    Ugh. I hate hate hate hate HATE nurses like that!!!!!!!
  7. by   A_Nightingale55
    Duckie, Our profession needs more nurses like you!! May God Bless you..Never lose your caring & compassionate nature. And as for those other nurses that have lost it, or never had it to begin with, they need to find another profession. We don't need them caring for patients, maybe you or I someday, or a family member. Linda
  8. by   Teshiee
    You are truly what "Nursing is all about. It is not just passing pills and fluffing pillows. You are so caring and loving I wish there were more nurses like you in this profession. God has a nice place for you! You are the best. Keep up the good work. I know there will be uncaring bytches in this profession she has obviously vaginatrophy don't let her ignorance get you down she is having her own private hell. God bless you.
  9. by   Scavenger'sWife
    Duckie,
    You are one awesome nurse! :kiss
    I hope that whenI am at the end of my days on earth, I have a nurse like you to whisper in my ear.
    I used to work for Hospice, and still love that type of nursing. I will do it again someday. The entire nursing profession needs nurses like {{{YOU}}}, Duckie!
    And, BTW, when you DO kick that B****'s A$$, wouldya take pictures please, and post 'em??? Just to gratify my desire to help you in the job!:roll
  10. by   sleepqd
    I can understand why you are so upset with this other person. While you are praying for your patients, try praying for her as well. Maybe she feels totally inadequate working with the dying. Maybe it scares her, looking at her own mortality. Maybe she's on the edge of burn-out.

    Of course, she may just be a benighted offspring of a diseased sea-witch. In which case, you would be doing all a favor if you dropped her out a window to see if she will bounce.
  11. by   duckie
    This nurse has worked night shift at this facility for many years. I am told she is rude to the residents(I haven't witnessed this nor would I tolerate it!) she's hateful with the staff. She will not do what she doesn't want to do, plain and simple. Don't ask me why she is still there for in my opinion, she should have been terminated many years ago. I will be giving her shift change report and she will interupt me and start going on and on about something that happened three days ago that made her mad. Several times I have simply walked away from her and told her when she was ready to shut up and listen to report I'd be back, other wise I have work to finish. I'm not proud of myself when I speak to her that way but I also put in long hours and would like to go home, not stand and small talk to a person that really could care less about the people we are discussing. She is just a generally nasty and hateful person that wants everything her own way, doesn't respect the rest of the staff or her residents and I really am glad I don't work 3rd shift for I'm certain I would loose my job for writing her up a hundred times a night. In many ways I feel vey sorry for her because you can tell she has very few people that care for her other than family and from what I hear, that isn't even all that great. I love her because I am a Christian but I do not like her and I try very hard to control these emotions, until she pulls stunts like she did the other night. Whjen it comes to residents that are dying, we can NEVER do enough for them and that's a point I won't be wavered from.
  12. by   JeannieM
    Duckie, this was a fantastic post, and I'm really proud to be in the profession with you. I feel very sorry for the nurse you have to work with (and even sorrier for your colleagues and residents, of course!). Clearly she is not in the line of work best suited to her. She may have issues about death and personal suffering that we know nothing of, but a professional tries to leave these things at home. Thank you so much for the work you do! Jeannie
  13. by   micro
    duckie,
    you said it very well and very eloquently.....
    I will add but a few thoughts....as I did a very late nighter....12+ hours....and cannot seem to drop off to sleep..........

    micro's poor and not eloquently expressed thoughts about coldhearted nurses.......
    1) they must be very unhappy people, underneath it all
    -----either for one of two reason....
    a) maybe they only went into nursing for the glamour and the paycheck$$$
    b) or they are so bitter and so tired and..................................
    that they do not care by their actions...........
    and it doesn't matter if it is the other staff or residents or patients....or anybody else......
    selfcentered-centerness to the core........
    c) or maybe not......
    who knows anymore..........

    But micro better end, because up too late, and want to make some kind of sense to my friends here on the threads..........
    what I find the saddest is the nurse that is a new, brand new nurse...........
    and treats others so callously.....staff and especially the patients and their families........
    for these people, I have lil' respect.....because they should be the one bringing the fire to the old one's yet trying to be a nurse out there......
    and as micro is if but only in the middle ground of nursing.......
    micro has seen both sides...........
    and, yes, has more respect for the older nurse in years.........that occasionally sounds callous and cold, because if you look under their shield..........
    there is usually a reason why................
    but a brand new grad.......or new nurse within the first year.....maybe stress, "Lawd's yes", but meanness to others....no.................'
    and please no one young or old, take any of micro's post to offend as micro is far from the perfect nurse and human being, but just in a very thoughtful and almost too thinking mode of late........so this is all the words that micro can relate..............
    but then there again there is no reason for
    if you call yourself a nurse.....that you should be evil to men(i.e. mankind).........
    it is part of what being a nurse is...........
    or maybe it is the rose color glasses I find myself looking through..........

    :stone :stone :stone
    Last edit by micro on Aug 27, '02

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