Quote from sparketteinok
Vent and request for advice:
There is so much fighting, bickering, backstabbing, rudeness, hatefulness and just plain meanness at my hospital on my tele-medsurg floor that I just can't stand it anymore. This is my first job out of lpn school, and I am in school for my bsn. I've been there 1 year 8 months. I am thinking of going occ part time for hospital and full time for a hospice.
I love hospital nursing, LOVE IT!! But the nurses I work with are so much like 6th grade. I don't want to leave the hospital, but I'm afraid if I don't, I'll have a nervous breakdown and not be able to finish school.
So, have any of you left the hospital because of this? (going to another hospital is not an option, the next closest is a two hour drive away) And if so, will I really lose my skills andknowledge? Even if I still work part time there? And what about hospice? I deal with palliative pts all the time, and I really love it. I just don't want to leave the hospital because I need the experience. But I don't know how much more I can take.
Any wise words would be greatly appreciated.
I drive two hours every week to work in a hospital with it sounds like the same situation. Depending on the days of the week I have a different crew or seem to rotate with several crews different week. All crews have challenges that go with it. Not the work that needs to be completed that's always a challenge in itself, but that's a good challenge for me to keep pt and their families comfortable, skills, prioritize, and have a somewhat smooth shift. The politics & co-workers
are always the biggest challenge for me.
It's absolutely terrible and I'm a positive team player that is always trying to help if
someone asks. I will ask others if they need help if I see they may be having a challenge. Some will talk and stab you in the back for helping them, or they won't ask but you are suppose to know at any givin time whether your busy or not do something for them. There is always a fine line. Your wrong if you do and your poop if you don't it just seems to be which way the wind blows.
Some will try to sabatoge your every move and somehow manage to make you look like your the bad one. You sit down to chart and it never fails they will come over and start talking whether you respond to them or not. But when there may be a few down moments and you try to start a conversation they show little or no interest but I'm suppose to stop look them in the eye and respond back.
You here statements she not approachable, shes not a team player, I will never understand that one. I guess to make them look good and me bad??? Life is too short!!! Another one I really despise if your the newbi (new hire or last one they hire even if its been a year and half)you get all the difficult patients, discharges, admits you name it they will pile it on. This is the co-workers and charge nurses not the management. If the newbi quits it goes to the next newbi up the ladder until they hire a new one to replace the one that quit. Or they don't hire someone because of the cut backs. The others (core group protect each other from this happening) They get out on time while you are there one to two hours later. Then they make comments I heard you were here quite late last shift what happened to you. Or I always get out on time. Another co-workers that punch out late causes us from getting a raise every year. An example, we are all suppose to clock out for breaks, they will clock in and out even if they don't take a break. Then when they are sitting around they will be the first to be complaining we don't even have time to take breaks but to management it looks like they are so the whole team is never going to get the CNA or RN ratio to pt straightened out we all desperately need because of all the cut backs. They will be the ones who gossip at the station verses spending time with their patient giving TLC or basic nursing care. They are also the one who will ignore the IV's beeping, call lights going off, vents beeping off, stating the aid will get it as they (CNA') can't keep their heads above water. Then the pts became incontinent and lye in their own stool or urine because someone didn't get there fast enough and then be upset that the aid calls them to have them help clean up the pt.. They are also the ones who will ***** about everything under the sun about what is wrong with the facility and their managers and then turn around and kiss the managers butt when they are around. The sad thing is most people want a paycheck and not care about the pt just as long as they could get their paycheck. I've even heard nurses complain about how crabby, mean, moody, (you name it) their pt's are. What do they expect, they are in a hospital because they are sick, injured, dying... you get the picture. What's that all about??? I know when I was in the hospital several different times as a pt I wasn't myself for obvious reasons. I wasn't laughing at there jokes maybe because it hurt to laugh, didn't want to have a conversation because I was to tired from the meds I was on...scared because I didn't know my diagnoses, worried about who was going to pay for this bill even though insurance is available it still cost money. What happened to compassion, consideration, respect, help each other through good & bad times, have a little fun at work not be so serious all the time, common sense ect...this seems to be a different generation...
now its who's better than the other one, back stabbing, gossip, hatred, ridiculing, questioning your every move even when report is handed off like you were just born yesterday (they are not my manager) but some think they are! My manger has everything good to say in all the evaluations so I know I'm a good nurse. I'm I perfect? No one I ever met is so why would I be?! I also love my Job!!! Absolutely LOVE IT!
I did alot of venting I normally don't say to anyone accept my family and closest friends that I don't work with. I do have good friends where I work also but they can be wishy washi depending on who or what they are talking about. Work and personal life just don't mix in my world, I tried a few time and it's not worth it!! I watch fellow co-workers go through similar situations at different time and all you can do is be there if they choose you to vent with. I also learned to say very little when this happens but be supportive if I can be. I had worked in a different facility for 2 1/2 years once where I too thought I was going to have a nervous breakdown and became very depressed and didn't realize how bad it was until I put my resignation in and hunted for a new job. Once I was OUT FOR SEVERAL MONTH AND ACQUAINTED WITH MY NEW JOB A tON OF BRICKS WERE LIFTED OFF MY SHOULDERS!!! I WILL NEVER LET THINGS GET THAT BAD AGAIN... LIFE IS WAY TO SHORT!!!
Yes, I did vent quite a bit but where I work now really is my love and passion for nursing! Politics and co-workers are a challenge and always will be you just have to try and balance, communicate communicate, and deal with it with hopefully managers input, and if it can't be fixed GET OUT!
I'VE LEARNED THIS ONE THE HARD WAY! I WAS DEMORALIZED, QUESTIONING MYSELF WHETHER I WAS A GOOD NURSE, (maybe I should just quit and go back to school for something else) even though it was my passion to be a nurse all my life. I was actually doubting my every move. I had No confidence left when I left that place! Now I'm very happy where I'm at and love the care I can give to the pt's. I know because of the demand physically and mentally at my age I won't be able to keep up on this floor. I do hope to work in hospice or geriactric floor when that time comes. I love working with the elderly. They are so very considerate, wise, appreciative and love to share stories. I sometime wish I had the time to write the stories we all hear in our nursing career. Everyone's lives are so interesting in their own unique way. Sometime it may be more challenging but friendship & trust can happen at any age!
Good luck with your dilema, when the time is write if you can't fix it move forward!! You will know in your gut when you had enough!
Try not to judge, or change who you are working with but learn how they operate and figure out what you need to do for yourself not them. Does that mean don't help, be a jerk, No I would never be able to act or pretend to act like them it's not my personality. I've tried to retaliate at times to set someone in there spot it works sometimes, but I will never feel comfortable, it's not me. It was something I had to do to earn their respect if it was possible. Every person you work with comes with their special qualities and bad qualities it takes may different personalities to make a shift or group to work together. I don't care for the managerial aspect of nursing, I love taking care of pt's.
clown: I thank God someone out there loves management because it's not my ticket! I don't like the social services of nursing, Thank goodness someone else is there to send the pt or families to them. All that paper work!!! Yuk!! It may be their love and thank goodness but it's not mine! Take care!!
Good Luck! twinklebelle...sorry so so long