Can't take anymore - page 4

I am in the last few months of school before I become an RN. Last night I found myself balling for no apparant reason and noticed it's a pattern lately. I do not know if it is burnout or what. I am... Read More

  1. by   northwest20
    hang in there
    Last edit by northwest20 on Oct 6, '04
  2. by   Dr. Scully
    dear ferfer,
    whining sure ain't going to make it any easier to complete your schooling!! good grief! why did you want to be a nurse in the first place? if it is for the right reasons.....then just "bite the bullet" and keep on "truckin"...!! sure we all had to take a lot of s--t from the instructors and others. it is part of the "game" girl. i raised my little son who was only about 2 yrs old during my j3 year diploma school, it was tough, but, i knew i had to make a better life for him and me. if your fiance cannot do without you now....how is he going to deal with your 12 hour shifts or whatever your job may be? nursing school sure ain't what it used to be...now, the new grads come fresh on the floor and have to be "taught" most of the "hands on" nursing by the staff nurses. nursing school gives you the basics anymore, and that is wrong. we had clinicals every am at 0630 to 10:30, and then went to college, and then went to our nursing classes in the afternoons. at least we were ready to go on the floor as nurses ready to work. all of the other responses for you have been to "hang in there". i think you need to do a reality check now, before you get into a career you hate. undefinedundefined
  3. by   ferfer
    Dr. Scully:angryfire ,

    I think that perhaps you do not know how to read a post properly as you have misinterpreted things greatly. Secondly, sounds as though you are projecting your anger about something onto me.:angryfire Get a grip! I love nursing, have always loved nursing, and always will. I have "stood up" to all challenges and overcome a lot of bullsh** to get through it. I am one of the toughest people I know. I don't need a reality check, I know what is in store for me. What I am expressing is that we need to take care of ourselves too. And if it is such a sin to come on here to share a bad day with people that can understand, than sue me. It does not mean that I am 'weak' or that I do not understand the realities of nursing. I had a bad day, as I am sure we all do. I think that you have some hostility that you need to address in your life. Please, do not take time out of your day to tell me to "bite the bullet" because I have and always will. I had assumed this was a place that I could share my feelings and am slightly offended at your harsh comments.

    Sounds like you need to leave the profession and go into something else.
  4. by   orrnlori
    ferfer - You have just been zinged by the typical "eating their young" nursing syndrome you see mentioned often here. There are variations of this, such as the old "there hasn't been a decent nurse turned out since I graduated" type-nurse. I believe that is what we have here. Ignore it, you will see this and other versions many times in the years ahead. Rather, feel sorry for this type of person, their view of the world is so narrow and they do much to destroy the fellowship of nurses. Don't feed into it by getting upset. That is their purpose, to upset you to make themselves feel bigger and better.
  5. by   dlmickley
    This is exactly how I felt !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I just graduated in December and got my License in January YOU CAN DO IT !!!!!!!!!!! it won't last forever and the CARRER that youachieve will allow you to provide a better life for your little one. Through most of my school I was gone 7 days a week between school, work and clinicals I know your exhaustion and burnout, I also had the same experience with my teachers !!!! you sre almost done !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! take a day at a time, one step at a time. cry when you need to and then continue on !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! GOOD LUCK .......Here's to the future RN ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhh and by the way I passed my boards on the first try with 75 questions, and if I can do it so can YOU !!!!!!!!!!!!!
  6. by   leslie :-D
    Quote from dr. scully
    dear ferfer,
    whining sure ain't going to make it any easier to complete your schooling!! good grief! why did you want to be a nurse in the first place? if it is for the right reasons.....then just "bite the bullet" and keep on "truckin"...!! sure we all had to take a lot of s--t from the instructors and others. it is part of the "game" girl. i raised my little son who was only about 2 yrs old during my j3 year diploma school, it was tough, but, i knew i had to make a better life for him and me. if your fiance cannot do without you now....how is he going to deal with your 12 hour shifts or whatever your job may be? nursing school sure ain't what it used to be...now, the new grads come fresh on the floor and have to be "taught" most of the "hands on" nursing by the staff nurses. nursing school gives you the basics anymore, and that is wrong. we had clinicals every am at 0630 to 10:30, and then went to college, and then went to our nursing classes in the afternoons. at least we were ready to go on the floor as nurses ready to work. all of the other responses for you have been to "hang in there". i think you need to do a reality check now, before you get into a career you hate. undefinedundefined
    guys, read this poster's profile before we all go for the jugular. and nurse scully, perhaps you should refrain from such abrasive feedback until you're feeling better.
  7. by   Tweety
    Quote from dr. scully
    dear ferfer,
    whining sure ain't going to make it any easier to complete your schooling!! good grief! why did you want to be a nurse in the first place? if it is for the right reasons.....then just "bite the bullet" and keep on "truckin"...!! sure we all had to take a lot of s--t from the instructors and others. it is part of the "game" girl. i raised my little son who was only about 2 yrs old during my j3 year diploma school, it was tough, but, i knew i had to make a better life for him and me. if your fiance cannot do without you now....how is he going to deal with your 12 hour shifts or whatever your job may be? nursing school sure ain't what it used to be...now, the new grads come fresh on the floor and have to be "taught" most of the "hands on" nursing by the staff nurses. nursing school gives you the basics anymore, and that is wrong. we had clinicals every am at 0630 to 10:30, and then went to college, and then went to our nursing classes in the afternoons. at least we were ready to go on the floor as nurses ready to work. all of the other responses for you have been to "hang in there". i think you need to do a reality check now, before you get into a career you hate. undefinedundefined

    your profile reads "i am now on ss disability due to major depression and anxiety d/o with agoraphobia. " how about if someone disrespected you and told you to get a grip and face reality, that you can't even handle life or even have a job". that wouldn't be very nice now would it.

    venting, complaining, and sometimes whining to those who understand is very important.

    take care of yourself.
  8. by   susan18
    Quote from ferfer
    i am in the last few months of school before i become an rn. last night i found myself balling for no apparant reason and noticed it's a pattern lately. i do not know if it is burnout or what. i am almost there and yet i feel as though i have already exhausted all my energy and there is nothing much left to give to finish. i am soooooo tired of being tired, of feeling so utterly exhausted that i am now a raving caffeine addict (cardiac arrythmias and all to go with it). i am so tired of never seeing my daughter and my fiancee, and trying to explain to this 3 year old why i am not there for her- breaks my heart! i am so tired of being put-down by instructors that seem to thrive off of degrading people and slowly wittling away their only shreds of self-concept. that, along with the bs instructors that you have to kiss a** just to pass. i feel like this has just become too much. i have no life outside of nursing and my god, i just want this to be over already. thank you for letting me vent as nobody understands the way someone that has been through it could!
    reply to ferfer- boy, do i remember these feelings! i was an lpn and a single mom, trying to work 3 12 hr night shifts per wk and get my bsn as a "generic" student, not rn completion. i felt like i lived, slept, breathed nursing. there were only tiny periods to come up for air, like wed. night church no matter what, so i could connect with non-nurses(!) and sun. am church when i would fall asleep as soon as the pastor started his sermon, me having been up all night! my first child was 11 when i got my bsn, and those last 2 years on her were hard. we never had the time we needed, it seemed. she is 31 today and is a chemical engineer and paramedic. i did it to protect my job in the early 80's when lpns were being phased out of hospitals back to nursing homes, etc. take a deep breath, look up, and count your blessings, because in a short time, you will be tossing your tassle as a graduate, and then you never have to go back again to school unless you choose to! i said i would never go back, and i decided this week to start an msn in 2 years when my son is done with high school! i found that power napping helped me... i used to fall asleep across desks, couches, etc. and my friends or family would wake me up for lectures, etc. i also didn't run all over with my child during the busy school times; i just geared down as much as possible. listen to music you like when you can, eat chocolate( raises that old serotonin!) and do whatever you know works to de-stress you. i took many baths to candlelight with a glass of wine nearby! words are powerful things, too, so if you are going around bad-mouthing your life or your situation, words can have a very self-fulfilling prophecy. speak the best about yourself, these last weeks, your future. be good to yourself. you will make a wonderful nurse, and someday you may encourage another new practitioner like i hope i am you. let us know how graduation and boards are!!! susan18
    Last edit by susan18 on Mar 6, '04 : Reason: add text
  9. by   Dr. Scully
    Well, well...thanx for the "feedback"! I think I need to respond to a few of the ones here, as everyone "should have a chance to whine and express having a bad day"....!! Ferfer; I read your post, thank you, and you did not say you "loved nursing" more than anything. Maybe, if I would have read that part; I would not have been so "harsh and abrasive" (3rd shift guy). We all need good feedback and I was NOT taking anything out on you from my situation. I always was the nurse who never treated new grads like "s--t" and was the one who had the patience to train them and give them confidence. I sure do not appreciate the comment from ornnlori who typecast me as one nurse who practiced "eating their young syndrome". I know that so many of you "OR nurses" think you are sso much better than the hard working staff nurses. Yea, you are right up there w/ the docs right? We take care of the patients from the moment you "drop" them off on our floors; and give them the care to get well. I was just stating a fact about the new nursing schools way of "training" the baby RNs. It has become common practice for new grads to be thrown to the staff nurses (not all kind, either) to finish their "clinical skills". Thanks to Earle 58 for letting others know my profile. I am not ashamed of my illness. It has nothing to do w/ my years of nursing. I always put my feelings aside; and put on a "happy face" for my fellow nurses and patients. I guess I will "bite the bullett" and say that I am sorry that you took my post so badly. From reading your post, ferfer; I only thought that you were trying to decide if nursing was worth the effort w/ your family. So many nurses go into the profession, only to find out that it is hard and get "burnout" all too fast. I said to "keep on truckin'" to tell you to go for it; if you want it bad enough. I know that I would have not done anything differently in my career, and am proud to know that I hung on till things got bad w/ other situations in my life. So, anyway, ferfer, please accept my apologies for my post. Maybe ornnlori and 3rd shift guy should apologize to me. I truly hope you hang in and complete your schooling. I hope that you find a "kind" and "understanding staff nurse to help you further in your career.
  10. by   gwenith
    Please Remember to debate issues not people!!!
  11. by   Dr. Scully
    Quote from gwenith
    Please Remember to debate issues not people!!!
    Point taken, gwenith!! I do think others need to read this also. Thank you.
  12. by   Tweety
    Dr. Scully, I should have allowed you to have your say.

    For me to presume because you suffer your issues that you would be understanding of someone with issues of burnout and stress in nursing was totally wrong on my part. To presume I know anything about how you "should" feel, or project how I would feel, was totally wrong.

    There are times when we need a kick in the butt. There are other times when we need to be listened to. Sometimes to help someone get off their butt and get a grip we have to hold out a hand.


    Judging from the number of people that responded how they could totally relate to the original poster, I don't feel the op was whining.

    If I'm in violation of any TOS, I presume I will be notified and deleted.
  13. by   Dr. Scully
    Tweety, I assume that was an apology. I am sorry that I even posted a reply to ferfer. I am not a mean and hateful person. I guess I thought that if she was unhappy, she should re-evaluate her situation. I have apologized to her, and wish her well. I do know the necessity of nurses "taking care of each other" all too well. It seems w/ all of the "politics" that we face in our careers and job situations; it is harder to do our "jobs" fully. I have dealt w/ so many of my fellow co-workers that need to "lend a hand" to others. Drowning in our careers and suffering "burn out" could be prevented. I apologize to you also, Tweety. I am sure sorry that I ruffled so many "feathers" out there.

close