shavsha.....I'm not trying to 'butt-in' here, but I would say......chill alittle.....in a nice way
I have raised 5....2 boys and 3 girls. All of my girls wanted their belly-buttons pierced and I let them. Really no different than their ears, in regards to health issues. You take care of it with soap/h2o....it will be ok. I actually had mine pierced for a couple of years (my jeans kept rubbing and I took it out).
As for the tattoo????? Got them too. No, I'm not some 'biker-looking momma' although I do ride a harley:chuckle All of my 5 have tattoos. Our oldest son (25) works at a tattoo/body piercing salon. I would rather he find another 'profession', but he makes good money and doesn't come here to borrow $$
One of my daughters has a cute little butterfly next to her belly-button.
I'm not saying to allow this, as you have your own convictions, but I do know as a Mom of 5 and a former youth pastor/counselor, the more you 'harp' on this....it could propell your daughter to have these things done without your consent.
Yes, there are laws regarding age, but not all salons comply with that law. Plus, I've heard of 'friends' assisting with these things. From a nursing prospective, I've not seen any health complications with either of these procedures. If you follow the instructions given to you....proper cleansing and caring for them daily, you will NOT have any problems.
This is a 'fad' for our kids today. Remember when you were young and there was something YOU wanted at that age?? Did your parents stop you?? Just something to think about. Do talk with your daughter and talk about the tattoo...it is a perm. piece of artwork on your body. It is also alittle painful.
Don't just 'say NO' and leave it at that. Talk with her. Keep the communication open and that way, you won't have any 'suprises' later on.