Are you my waitress today? - page 3

:madface: I work in an oncology clinic and this was the question ask to me. How would you have responded? :nono: My response was "I did not go to school for 10 years to be called a waitress. I am... Read More

  1. by   OB_or_NICU_hopeful
    I guess this is part of me not being a nurse and not having any experience in this field, but I could imagine some sweet little old man saying this and not meaning ANYTHING by it. Waitresses help people, maybe he just meant "are you helping me today?"
  2. by   Kim O'Therapy
    Quote from ArmyMSN
    The funny thing is that we nurses are part waiters/waitresses (especially with primary care nursing and not having CNAs to assist). In one minute I can be serving a patient a tray of food, assisting them with their meals, getting coffee, etc - then a second later I can be attaching a defribillator to them, doing CPR, and pushing Vasopressin.


    What a career.
    Amen to that!
  3. by   Kim O'Therapy
    .....and another humorous response.

    Waitress? I wish! My sister's a waitress and with tips she makes alot more than I do! LOL
  4. by   SmilingBluEyes
    I actually know a couple people who left nursing to become wait staff at places like The Outback. GREAT TIPS and very LITTLE liability or liklihood of being sued for making an error in their work performance.
  5. by   SmilingBluEyes
    Quote from mjlrn97
    I would avoid "shooting from the lip", and use such an occasion to educate the patient (and by extension, the general public) as to what nurses do, what it takes to become a nurse, and so on.

    As tempting as it is to deliver a smart-alecky comeback, it demonstrates a certain lack of class, and does nothing to enhance the professional image most of us want to project. IMHO, the best way to change public perceptions is to lead by example, and behave the way we would like to be seen.
    EXCELLENT!!!!! Right on target.

    No need to automatically take insult either. A sense of humor is helpful in most of these situations. The ones who care to be educated, can be. The ones who mean insult, are not likely to change anyhow. I would let it roll off my back like water off a duck. No point in getting that worked up.
  6. by   nurse4theplanet
    Pt: Are you my waitress today?

    Nurse: Yeah, and I spit in the food.
  7. by   TxChic82
    Quote from asoldierswife05
    Pt: Are you my waitress today?

    Nurse: Yeah, and I spit in the food.
    Wow that was hilarious.

    Im a pre-nursing student and I have no idea how I would respond. Im sure humor or something tactfull would be apporpriate but what I would WANT to say is "No, unfortunately I aquired thousands of dollars of debt and worked extremely hard to put myself through years school while raising my daughter on my own so that I wouldnt have to be a waitress. However, if you would rather trust a waitress with your medical care Id be happy to get one for you."
  8. by   RNsRWe
    Maybe I think oddly, but if someone asked if I was his waitress today, my first reaction would be to assess his mental status!! LOL...I would seriously, honestly and immediately say "did you say waitress? Do you know where you are today, sir? What day is it?"

    LOL!

    I did have a patient not long ago who, while I was doing a push, announced I was "holding him up" because he "had an appointment in New York and was running late". Ummm....he hadn't had an appointment with ANYONE in YEARS, and not one that HE had to get to himself, rest assured. So....CNA who was with me at the time looked at me, I looked at her, and I of course began asking questions to see if the dude was going down (and remember my IVP). He announces he's going to get there by flying, and he wasn't talking planes, either. Turns out he thinks he's a total riot, and that was his sense of humor. Not funny, but what the hey, he's amusing himself at least. I told him if he pulled that kind of humor again, I'd start testing him for stroke! It was his turn to laugh <grin>.
  9. by   Nurse`Chief~Chickie
    Quote from RunningWithScissors
    Yeah, let people try to pull the crap they do with a stewardess that they do to us nurses on a daily basis.

    They'd be in jail quicker than you can say 'thank you sir may I have another?"


    :yeahthat:

    Why is it that we do sooooo much and get so little respect?

    A friend of mine frequents a local restaraunt and is friendly with certain waiters that they usually get. She and her husband, (both RNs) don't mention their proffessions, but one day, a newer waitress asked what they did. Instead of the usual, we work at a hospital, she says I'm a nurse. To this the woman laughs and says well you're just glorified waitresses! :flamesonb She didn't get a very good tip for that one!
  10. by   santhony44
    Quote from Nurse`Chief~Chickie

    A friend of mine frequents a local restaraunt and is friendly with certain waiters that they usually get. She and her husband, (both RNs) don't mention their proffessions, but one day, a newer waitress asked what they did. Instead of the usual, we work at a hospital, she says I'm a nurse. To this the woman laughs and says well you're just glorified waitresses! :flamesonb She didn't get a very good tip for that one!
    I probably would've left just enough tip that she'd know for sure I hadn't just forgotten.

    I have a lot more tolerance for that sort of attitude from older people. Their ideas and opinions were formed in a different time.

    My late mother-in-law attended nursing school back in the 1930's or 40's. (Never finished). She could never quite get her mind around the concept of a nurse practitioner. She simply could not fathom a nurse being able to write a prescription without directions from the doctor, despite her daughter and granddaughter both also trying to explain it (they both had NP providers). It was just too far outside her experience of nursing.

    And I have to say, while there are people who think nurses are waitresses or maids, I've also run into a number over the years who do respect and admire nurses and what we do. It just seems to take about a dozen of those to offset one of the others!
  11. by   heartbeat2
    To me, I see a difference in the way the public perceives nursing since they have become customers instead of patients. May account for the number of years passed and the increase demand on what nurses do.

    To be fair, what most have seen nurses do is from TV shows. Not sure how much people get from even the higher tech shows, and always a dr around like in ER. (some of those shows are so way over the top we know they aren't true)

    Also, from the patients point of view, We are both (waitress and nurse) in the field of service.

    My response would depend upon how the patient said what he did: smarty or ignorant.
  12. by   ABQLNDRN
    [quote=RNsRWe]Maybe I think oddly, but if someone asked if I was his waitress today, my first reaction would be to assess his mental status!! LOL...I would seriously, honestly and immediately say "did you say waitress? Do you know where you are today, sir? What day is it?"

    LOL!

    I was reading through this post seeing if anyone else was going to say that. That's exactly what I would've done. Then, if the patient was AAOx3, I would've probed further into the nature of the comment. I probably would've laughed it off. I might even have said, (while laughing) "Depends. Are you going to tip me?"
  13. by   Maverick80
    I'm a nursing student and a Tech at a local ED and i was reading through the rules of the ER and i came across this and it reminded me of this thread so here it is....

    Physicians and nurses are not waiters. We are not customer service representatives. This is not McDonalds, and you very well may NOT have it your way. Our job is to save your life, or at least make you feel better. If you want a pillow, two blankets, the lights dimmed, and the TV on channel 14, go to the Ramada.

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