Are there ever days you HATE being a nurse? - page 3

Just wondering if anyone else gets as frustrated as I do. Case in point: my mother's best friend had a massive stroke a few days back. She would up having an intraventricular bleed (neuro guys,... Read More

  1. by   MA Nurse
    I understand what you're saying. I get very frustrated being a nurse when I am trying to explain something to patients who think they know everything and they know very little.
    I can't stand it when people do research on a drug or claim their doctor friend told them something BAD about a med and they are so ignorant about it, and so very wrong. Sometimes I do want to scream, but instead, I get the Dr. to deal with the patients who "harrass" me about something.
  2. by   Nurseboy1
    Angel

    Very sorry to hear about your mother's friend. Sudden catastrophic change often leads to the heaviest denial, they simply can't process all the information at once.

    To answer your question, yes there are those days I wish I was simply the cashier at the grocery store back in high school, as long as a smiled and moved the line life was good.

    The other night after an intense 3 1/2 hour overall resucitation attempt on a new CA patient, it was a low moment to have to look her young crying children in the eye and try to tell them that mommy died despite our best efforts.

    I simply try to reconcile with myself that I gave 110% in the resucitation effort, and we did do everything humanly possible. Some things are just in God's hands IMHO.
  3. by   elthia
    When I hated being a nurse...

    When I was sitting by my father and the oncologist said stage IV cancer
    When I walked into the ICU and saw my father receiving vancomycin and knew it wasn't just hypercalcemia.
    When I had to explain over and over to family who hadn't seen Dad in years that we were doing everything we could, and surgery would kill him faster.
    When the ICU staff came out to talk to me, and residents I knew for years wouldn't look me in the eye...

    Sorry to sound so depressing. It's just Christmas is really getting to me...last year at this time we didn't even know Dad was sick. It's enough to make me scream sometimes...how can a man with regular healthcare, with 2 RN's for daughters suddenly develop Stage IV cancer and die in 4 months from diagnosis?
  4. by   MzMouse
    Quote from elthia
    When I hated being a nurse...

    When I was sitting by my father and the oncologist said stage IV cancer
    When I walked into the ICU and saw my father receiving vancomycin and knew it wasn't just hypercalcemia.
    When I had to explain over and over to family who hadn't seen Dad in years that we were doing everything we could, and surgery would kill him faster.
    When the ICU staff came out to talk to me, and residents I knew for years wouldn't look me in the eye...

    Sorry to sound so depressing. It's just Christmas is really getting to me...last year at this time we didn't even know Dad was sick. It's enough to make me scream sometimes...how can a man with regular healthcare, with 2 RN's for daughters suddenly develop Stage IV cancer and die in 4 months from diagnosis?
    (((((elthia))))) I am so sorry. No one can completely understand but I sure do empathize. I lost my father 5 years ago today to a sudden illness. My thoughts are with you.
  5. by   AngelfireRN
    Elthia, I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. It stinks to lose someone, especially if you are in the healthcare field and have that constant feeling of, "I should have been able to DO something". So sorry to anyone here who has gone through anything like this.
    Thank you all for the advice and input. I have made it known that I will not be dispensing any more opinions or advice about this case, as I am not privy to the particulars and do not want to misspeak. I am decidedly unpopular now. My Mama tried the "using all of my names" tactic, but, at 27, it does not have the same effect. "Young lady" and finger-shaking does not bother me anymore, either. I suppose this will diminish in time, but at least I know I'm doing what's right. Thanks again.
  6. by   elthia
    Quote from AngelfireRN
    Elthia, I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. It stinks to lose someone, especially if you are in the healthcare field and have that constant feeling of, "I should have been able to DO something". So sorry to anyone here who has gone through anything like this.
    Thank you all for the advice and input. I have made it known that I will not be dispensing any more opinions or advice about this case, as I am not privy to the particulars and do not want to misspeak. I am decidedly unpopular now. My Mama tried the "using all of my names" tactic, but, at 27, it does not have the same effect. "Young lady" and finger-shaking does not bother me anymore, either. I suppose this will diminish in time, but at least I know I'm doing what's right. Thanks again.
    Just let it be known that you are there as a friend of the family, not as a nurse.
  7. by   showbizrn
    ANGELFIRE,

    Tell them calmly,

    "I don't have any answers. ALL you can do is PRAY for her health."

    [FONT="Arial Black"]AND DON'T ANSWER ANY MORE QUESTIONS!
    Blessings to you and your family.

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