After reading negative thread, want to give up nursing dream! - page 5

After reading post after post after POST about how so many of you would not recommend nursing to your kids, I'm about to give up. I decided to go back to nursing school after having my two kids,... Read More

  1. by   withasmilelpn
    Nursing can be very rewarding. I loved being a nurse for years. I recognize that this current stage of my life has been influenced by some outside things out of my control. This site can be very therapeutic, great place to really unload! Some of us are also looking to see if anyone has some solutions and are trying to work toward improving things. Hopefully what us frustrated nurses can do is turn our negative energy into some positive changes for nursing that newbies can benefit from! So hang in there!
  2. by   Cattitude
    Quote from jollyjenny
    it's not about the venting, trust me. i understand people come to allnurses.com to vent about all of the negative aspects of their jobs. but-the thread titled, "would you recommend nursing to your daughter?," is the one that scared me because it was not about venting, but simply about all of the people who hate their jobs enough to not recommend that their loved ones enter the field. 95% of all the posters responded in this manner. too many people hate it. i've also read posts about how nursing school doesn't prepare you for the real world of nursing, and seasoned nurses telling newbies that the only reason they like their job so far is because they're new. also, it makes me angry and nervous to know that just because people have been nurses for a long time gives them an excuse to "eat their young." why do people like this enter the nursing field??? people with bitter attitudes should not be nurses!!! what is wrong with people? sorry, but i'm very irritated. oh, and i have shadowed 2 nurses and have already gotten a glimpse of what goes on, and this was at 2 different hospitals. one of the nurses is a friend of mine, and just like so many posters on this website, she loved her job at first and now regrets becoming a nurse. it's too bad, because she's a wonderful, caring, compassionate person who genuinely wants to help people. she's looking into something else now. when people say they think about leaving nursing to go work at starbuck's or wal-mart, there's something very wrong.
    ok, many points have already been covered. first, i do remember a thread not too long ago in which most of us said that being that we have to work, we're ok with what we are doing.
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    [color=#483d8b]of course that means we'd really rather not be working at all but you get the point. i'm one of the "venters" i feel very safe doing it here and also it is hard for me to do it anywhere else as i am alone most of my day. well except for my pts.

    as far as nurses being bitter and eating their young, it is wrong and there is no excuse for it.
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    [color=#483d8b]shadowing a nurse was a great idea. i'm sorry you did not find it positive. i was a unit clerk while in nursing school and saw every day what nurses went through and it never ever turned me off. even when i saw them exhausted and frustrated i still wanted the dream for myself.
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    [color=#483d8b]bottom line is that only you know what is best for you. nursing requires a strong backbone and thick skin. you will come up against many tough situations , worse than some negative posts on a message board. it's good that you are thinking hard about this. good luck in your decision.
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  3. by   chris2227
    Keep your head up...........

    I'm not a nurse yet.... And I'm looking forward to one day being a nurse, you cannot let what other people say determin your future. You have to decide what's right for you.So don't giveup on your dreams because of other people experiences.
  4. by   nicunana
    If you REALLY want to have children, you won't be put off by all the horror stories about birth & motherhood you've heard or all the little monsters you've ever run across. Anyone who's EVER been a parent has complained about it at one time or another, but still, we continue to have 2nd, 3rd or even more children! That's because, on our worst days, we still wouldn't have made any other choice.
    Nursing is pretty much the same way. If you REALLY want to do it, you won't be put off by other people's horror stories, you'll do what's right for YOU. Some people aren't meant to be nurses, just like some people aren't meant to be parents. There's just no one size fits all in life. Listen to your heart. Good Luck!
  5. by   ZASHAGALKA
    Quote from nicunana
    If you REALLY want to have children, you won't be put off by all the horror stories about birth & motherhood you've heard or all the little monsters you've ever run across. Anyone who's EVER been a parent has complained about it at one time or another, but still, we continue to have 2nd, 3rd or even more children! That's because, on our worst days, we still wouldn't have made any other choice.
    Nursing is pretty much the same way. If you REALLY want to do it, you won't be put off by other people's horror stories, you'll do what's right for YOU. Some people aren't meant to be nurses, just like some people aren't meant to be parents. There's just no one size fits all in life. Listen to your heart. Good Luck!
    Great analogy.

    ~faith,
    Timothy.
  6. by   jollyjenny
    I appreciate the advice and kind words that everyone has given me. All of you that said I shouldn't let what other people say determine my future, you're absolutely right. I love this website, and have been visiting for years. I have found it very informative and helpful. I really do understand that people come here to vent, and that this is only a bulletin board and everyone has bad days, etc. I guess the reason I've been taking things to heart lately is because I know that all of you who vent are real nurses and you are discussing the reality of your jobs. I know we don't know eachother personally, but I pay attention to every thread I read so that I can be better informed. I've just gotten discouraged lately and all of you are right when you say that I should let the venting determine my future. The venting doesn't represent how everyone feels--I know. I know there is stress in every job, and I don't have a "fantasy" of what nursing should be like and don't feel like any of you have squashed my dreams. I am sorry it sounded like I was blaming anyone for my frustration. I am still going to pursue nursing, and I will find my niche. I have always wanted to work in the NICU, so that will be my goal. By the way-not 95%-50%. GEEEZZZ!

    Thanks,
    Jen
  7. by   jollyjenny
    I mean, not even 50%. You'll never see another post where I mention percentages again.

  8. by   ZASHAGALKA
    Quote from jollyjenny
    By the way-not 95%-50%. GEEEZZZ!
    Look, I can empathize with you and I'm not trying to give you grief, but rather, a different look at a different perspective of nursing. I'm trying to point out that the aggregate of experiences on this site leads to different perspectives, and that should not necessarily nor does it accurately reflect your present or future perspectives of nursing. Nor should you let it.

    I understand the irony of the comment above. However, I also pointed out that many of the negative responses also included reservations that many of the negative posters, while they wouldn't RECOMMEND nursing for their children, wouldn't actively discourage it, either.

    I think that thread has more to do with our aggregate aspirations for our children than it does with some comprehensive analysis of nursing. And, I think that thread should be placed into that context.

    Good luck to you.

    ~faith,
    Timothy.
  9. by   Simple Life
    i started reading this forum when i decided to take nursing as a second career. the reason i decide for nursing is i just can not sit in cubicle and live corporate life. i enjoy being in touch with people, talking with them and helping them. and of course job variety. then few questions came in this forum which made me think again and finally this question and now i am more than sure that i am starting my nursing careee with taking lpn classes as soon as i can...

    wow..i am enjoying this forum a lot...lot's of information

    thanks for asking this question
  10. by   TazziRN
    Quote from nicunana
    If you REALLY want to have children, you won't be put off by all the horror stories about birth & motherhood you've heard or all the little monsters you've ever run across. Anyone who's EVER been a parent has complained about it at one time or another, but still, we continue to have 2nd, 3rd or even more children! That's because, on our worst days, we still wouldn't have made any other choice.
    Nursing is pretty much the same way. If you REALLY want to do it, you won't be put off by other people's horror stories, you'll do what's right for YOU. Some people aren't meant to be nurses, just like some people aren't meant to be parents. There's just no one size fits all in life. Listen to your heart. Good Luck!


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