After reading negative thread, want to give up nursing dream! - page 4

After reading post after post after POST about how so many of you would not recommend nursing to your kids, I'm about to give up. I decided to go back to nursing school after having my two kids,... Read More

  1. by   jemommyRN
    I really think that you should stick it out. The good thing about nursing is that there are SO MANY different options with nursing. you don't have to work in an area (or hospital) where it is understaffed or overcrowded. You can be a DON, teach, LNC, CRNA, etc. You can travel, and look at all of the different specialties you can go into. Please don't limit yourself to others personal experiences. One of the reasons that solidified my nursing decision was the fact that I had to leave Louisiana and start anew in a different state during Hurricane Katrina. If I had been a nurse, I could have gotten a job within days to support my family through that rough patch. But, instead, it was very hard for me to find work with the degree that I already have. I'm saying that to say this.....everyone has their own reasons for going into the field, make yours specific to you and take others' experiences for what it is "just their experiences".
  2. by   Tweety
    Repeat after me: It's only a Bulletin Board.

    It is definitely slanted to the negative for sure, but that's because we come here to vent.

    However, nursing is not for the faint of heart, it's a tough demanding, aggravating, stressful career choice.

    Good luck.
    Last edit by Tweety on Mar 22, '07
  3. by   EMSnut45
    Jollyjenny-

    Like so many before me have said, this website is a way for the nursing community to anonymously vent. We all have bad days, and we all have days that put us on cloud 9. Here, we can sympathize with eachother and offer coping mechanisms, which in turn allow us to get out of bed and do it all over again with a happy face!! The fire department has a website similar to this, and is WAY more negative. You would think that every last fire fighter and EMS worker dread every second that they spend at work... but we all know that is a misrepresentation. It's human nature to complain!!!

    If you're not sure that nursing is for you, look into volunteering or finding a job that you don't need any experience for. In Maryland, you don't need any training (other than CPR) to work as a caregiver in Assisted Living. I got my start that way, and moved up to CNA and PCT because I found that I liked it. All of the hospitals near me have volunteer positions- you help restock, get patients and visitors comfort items, transport patients, answer phones, etc... Some doctors offices will let you volunteer to "check patients in"- you take their weight, vital signs, show them to the exam room, and so on...

    Nursing is what you make of it. There are many jobs that require an "RN" after your name, but don't involve patient contact. Good luck!!
  4. by   lovejana22

    i must admit that when i first found this site and started reading i too was a bit frightened. but after reading a lot more i thought you know this is a good way to learn. i have learned how to take crabby teachers, crabby co-workers etc. i take this thread as a way for people to vent and talk about things they just need to get off of their chest that no one else will understand. i am so glad i found this site and even more so that i am going to be a nurse. :spin:
  5. by   ZASHAGALKA
    Just an unofficial count, as this thread seems to be referencing the "95% negative attitude" on the - would you recommend your daughter to nursing - thread:

    http://allnurses.com/forums/f8/would...er-213148.html

    I looked at everyone of the 93 posts so far on that thread. 42 of them (less than 50%) stated they would NOT recommend nursing to their children (although about half of that total stated they would support the decision.)

    Many of the posters, also not a majority, but many of them stated that they WOULD recommend nursing to their kids, or they had, in fact, already recommended it to their children.

    ON balance, that thread is certainly not "95% negative". It's not even 50% negative.

    ~faith,
    Timothy.
  6. by   ZASHAGALKA
    Quote from jollyjenny
    I never said I wanted an apology. Please don't put words in my mouth.
    But you are saying that you are contemplating giving up nursing as a goal because the opinions expressed on this site, specifically that thread, do not uniformly reflect your idealized concept of nursing.

    Either you think that WE are being too negative or, you are reconsidering that maybe YOU are being too idealistic.

    I disagree with the first assertion (not saying that is your intent in creating this thread, but it DOES seem like you are placing some blame on us for your decisions because we are being 'too negative'.) The views expressed on this site represent a wide swath of nursing, with members that have walked in many different shoes along various lengths of the many pathways of nursing. Your feelings about nursing, should you decide to continue, will be based on the shoes you wear and the miles you walk. You will find that your opinions regarding nursing (just like each of us, individually) will also vary and change depending upon both the type of nursing you choose, and your length of service. The difference is the difference in perspective that does indeed change over time and experience.

    You are right in that many of us here no longer share YOUR perspective of nursing. It is also true however, that you do not share ours - and cannot fully share our perspective WITHOUT that time and experience.

    I think it's too cut and dried to suggest or feel that our perspectives are now all colored black. The world is grey. There are things that most of us LOVE about nursing, or we would have long ago became another statistic that walked away from the job. There are also things that we HATE about the current state of nursing. Because we have a commonality of experiences, many of us can vent about our dislikes regarding nursing without discrediting to each other the true extent of our greater passion for the job.

    Regarding any consideration that you might be a tad less optimistic about the ideal of nursing vs. the reality as a result of reading that thread: To the extent you get THAT impression from this site or that particular thread, that is a good thing. Better to go into nursing eyes wide open then to be posting in 3 yrs that you were totally unprepared for the reality of nursing. Better yet, if you DO decide to give up on nursing as a result, then you have made an informed decision.

    As a result, either way, that thread or this site by extension, has been of considerable service to you. Personally, this site is such a service to ME, that I feel honor bound to pay the piper his dues. By that, I mean, Thanks, Brian, and the premium dues are well worth the service provided. This site is a true bargain. And it would be, at twice the price (but don't get any ideas).

    For those of you who aren't paying premium dues, this site is practically a steal.

    ~faith,
    Timothy.
    Last edit by ZASHAGALKA on Mar 21, '07
  7. by   PANurseRN1
    Quote from jollyjenny
    I never said I wanted an apology. Please don't put words in my mouth.
    Would you kindly stop wagging your finger at us? It's considered rude in any circles.

    I agree with Timothy; if you are so bothered and bewildered by venting, then maybe you should look for another profession. But please, do not admonish those of us who need an outlet to air frustrations. We need no lectures about nursing from people who are not yet nurses.
  8. by   luanne123
    Don't give up. We all need to vent from time to time. I love nursing. I became an RN at age 32 with my Associates degree. At age 38 I finished my BSN. In 1 1/2 months I will finsh my MSN / Adult Nurse Practitioner. My daughter is in Nursing school and I support and encourage her. It is a great career. According to Martha Rogers "nursing is a learned profession, both a science and an art", this is so true.
    Luanne
  9. by   SmilingBluEyes
    Hearing negativity did not stop me. I had cousins and a mother telling me "DO NOT DO THIS" and that I was "crazy". The cousins were both long-term nurses of 20-30 years' duration. Still, despite that, After 10 years in the military I decided to get out (giving up being 1/2 way to retirement no less) to go to nursing school. NO REGRETS. Still love it; still want to do it. YES bad days happen. And venting is what we do to cope and deal. That is what you see here. Don't let anyone steal your dreams. WE NEED YOU IN NURSING. Keep looking up and reach for that dream. Good luck.
  10. by   NewRNZoe
    Don't give up! You'll find people who are happy or unhappy in every profession. I've only been a nurse for 9 months, but I love nursing and I feel so fortunate to be able to do what I do every day. For me it is a true calling.

    Here's what I love about being a nurse:

    -Being able to help people who need it.
    -Being valued and trusted by patients and their physicians.
    -Being a small part of saving a human life!
    -Meeting all sorts of people from so many different walks of life.
    -Constantly learning and stretching your knowledge through experience, exposure, and training.
    -Facing and conquering challenges.
    -Making a difference just by being kind to people (let alone by also being knowledgeable, honest, and hardworking)!
    -Job security
    -Endless possibilities
    -Overtime (not mandatory where I work, but always available if you want it or need it)
    -Flexible hours (three 12 hour days is full time - pick your days!, or work 5 eights if you like..more options I'm sure).
    -Good insurance.
    -Being a community- neighborhood or family resource

    -I work in a hospital and when the doctors leave a room, the patients often ask me a ton of questions. This tells me a lot (and should tell you how much we're valued)-first, the patient knows that I'm knowledgeable, that I can communicate in a way that they'll be able to understand, that I can and will spend more time with them, that I am willing to listen to their concerns, that I am there for them.

    -I've had doctors ask a patient if they have any more concerns, issues, or questions. The patient says "no" then the doctor leaves, and the patient then divulges really private or intimate information to their nurses - for example, that they are impotent or that they didn't want to complain about this chest tightness that has been lingering for days. What does this say about nurses? That we are trusted and that a patient will tell us things that they won't tell anyone else. Why? Because they know we have enough knowledge to advise them, they know we won't judge them and that we have the integrity to be trusted with their private issues. They know all of this just because we have the title "NURSE".

    So much of nursing has to do with your attitude. For example, if being close to someone as they die seems to be a burden or a hardship for you --hmmm...find an area of nursing that doesn't call for much of that. On the other hand, I find that being close to someone near the end of their life is a priviledge. How do you see it? Just know and be honest with yourself.

    Nursing is definitely a service-related field. Do you love to serve?

    I would, without hesitation, encourage my children if they wanted to become a nurse. I would also be secretly be very proud and I'd feel that I must have raised pretty decent, compassionate, caring, hardworking children!!! What a gift nursing is!
  11. by   Terp/RN
    I really can't add anything other than what's already been said. However, I will state this. People tend to forget that the beauty of a career in Nursing is that there is such a variety of job opportunities. Nursing is not just floor nursing. If you don't enjoy floor nursing and find it to stressful, try something in the OR, ER, schools, insurance companies, or take the administrative route (There is a VP where I currently work....nice as can be, but will tell you she knows nothing about floor nursing. She had a degree in business, then pursued nursing and has worked only in administration since finishing nursing school). I think the Post Office evens hires occupational nurses. You can even work as a CRNA, the list just goes on and on. I would just say, don't give up, instead focus your energy on finishing this career path, then look into finding that one nursing job that fits your goals and dreams. I can't promise that what ever you choose won't be without stress. I'll take nursing to a desk job (sitting in a cubicle for 8 hours/day) any day.

    I hope this helps.
  12. by   fultzymom
    If nursing is what you feel you are supposed to do, then don't let anything stop you. Nursing is just like any other job. There are going to be days when you feel like you can not remember why you even wanted to become a nurse. Then there are the days that you remember exactly why you are a nurse et why it means so much to you. I have been a nurse for almost five years et yes I grumble about my job. Do I regret becoming a nurse? Never! When it comes right down to it, I love it no matter how frustrated I get.

    Leslie
  13. by   emmycRN
    Quote from jollyjenny
    It's not about the venting, trust me. I understand people come to allnurses.com to vent about all of the negative aspects of their jobs. BUT-the thread titled, "Would you recommend nursing to your daughter?," is the one that scared me because it was NOT about venting, but simply about all of the people who hate their jobs enough to not recommend that their loved ones enter the field. 95% of all the posters responded in this manner. Too many people hate it. I've also read posts about how nursing school doesn't prepare you for the real world of nursing, and seasoned nurses telling newbies that the only reason they like their job so far is because they're new. Also, it makes me angry and nervous to know that just because people have been nurses for a long time gives them an excuse to "eat their young." Why do people like this enter the nursing field??? People with bitter attitudes should not be nurses!!! What is wrong with people? Sorry, but I'm very irritated. Oh, and I have shadowed 2 nurses and have already gotten a glimpse of what goes on, and this was at 2 different hospitals. One of the nurses is a friend of mine, and just like so many posters on this website, she loved her job at first and now regrets becoming a nurse. It's too bad, because she's a wonderful, caring, compassionate person who genuinely wants to help people. She's looking into something else now. When people say they think about leaving nursing to go work at Starbuck's or Wal-Mart, there's something very wrong.
    Most people want their kids to have a MUCH better life than they did. Even if they were completely happy with their lives. I think that's one reason people said they wouldn't encourage their sons and daughters to go into nursing. I bet a mom or dad who never went to college would be thrilled to learn that their kids were pursuing a degree in nursing. Me? I'm convinced my daughter will either be a ballerina or a concert pianist. HA HA!

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