Accident Scenes: Do You Always Offer Assistance? - page 3

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Ok, so I have read what many have felt their obligation would be on the scene of an accident, but what would you do if you caused the accident, hitting a pedestrian, country road, EMS 10 minutes or more away, obvious head injury,... Read More


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    No, this is not a homework project, but the reality of a parent having lost a 15 year old child and an RN driver that did not so much as take his pulse! The majority here have said they would render whatever assistance they could in the absence of EMS, which in my case was 16 minutes arriving, too late to do anything. They were delayed because the driver couldn't communicate her location, even though it was only 1 mile from her own home.

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    Ok, so I have read what many have felt their obligation would be on the scene of an accident, but what would you do if you caused the accident, hitting a pedestrian, country road, EMS 10 minutes or more away, obvious head injury, face down on roadway. You're an RN in fact studying for MSN, do you have an obligation to render assistance or at least do an evaluation based on your medical knowledge?
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    I am so sorry for your loss. I can't begin to even imagine the pain of it for you and yours. I hope you find some comfort and peace.


    I, nor can anyone here, answer for this person on what they did or didn't do or why.

    I would hope if I had been in an accident that caused injury to a person that I would be able to act in a manner that would at the very least support the victim till advance support arrived. This should happen regardless of skill level. This should happen because it the thing we do as humans.

    Bless you and I hope you have support for yourself and your loved ones.
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    Thank you. All I can say, to anyone that wonders what they should do in such a situation, is to at the very least, be there for the victim. Worse than learning my child was gone, was the realization that he had died face down in the roadway, without anyone ever touching him, not even to offer comfort as one human being to another. Then to find out this person was an RN, and had not done any form of evaluation, just took my disbelief to a whole other level. I couldn't treat an animal that way, much less a child.
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    I can't imagine the horror of what you are going thru. I'm so very sorry. All I can offer is that even as RNs we can panic when we are personally involved in an accident.

    I do pre-hospital care as a volunteer on a fire dept and I've been on the scene of many accidents over the last 13 years where there was a medical person, either nurse, doctor, medical asst, etc., and yes, even these folks panic when involved in something so personal.

    I can only offer that which I'm sure is little to no comfort. Please take care of yourself.
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    Quote from JD'sMom
    Thank you. All I can say, to anyone that wonders what they should do in such a situation, is to at the very least, be there for the victim. Worse than learning my child was gone, was the realization that he had died face down in the roadway, without anyone ever touching him, not even to offer comfort as one human being to another. Then to find out this person was an RN, and had not done any form of evaluation, just took my disbelief to a whole other level. I couldn't treat an animal that way, much less a child.
    The is NOTHING I can say to ease your grief. No one can predict what they would do when place in a horrible position and panic takes over. I am so sorry for your loss.

    I pray that somehow you and your family can find some semblance of peace.
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    Thank you both for your kind words. I don't know if it was pure panic, or something else altogether. Impairment and attentiveness are in question. All of that aside, I am not the kind of person to carry hatred, as I now long for the hereafter, where I can see and hold my beautiful son again, so I am doing my best to hold myself and my family together.

    I appreciate your candor, as I am trying desperately to understand, but knowing that I was on the opposite end of the street, having come home from a meeting three miles away, my child not there, and seeing the lights down the roadway, and I had called him over and over on the phone, and all his friends. Finally the police came down on my end of the street and I rushed to find if he could answer my question of whether or not there was a skateboard or bike involved. He confirmed my worst fears. I remember crying, but not screaming, as my mind was racing 100 mph, trying to think of what I needed to do, to reach my older child, who had driven out looking for him, and get her off the streets before she found out from someone else, and to reach my husband, who was attending a seminar. It was horrible, but I didn't panic. I remember thinking that maybe they had made a mistake...

    I just can't fathom watching someone bleed to death, when you have the knowledge or the skills to do SOMETHING!
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    My simple answer is... if you dont know what you are doing, dont do anything
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    People seem to think that medical professionals are some kind of magic being that can fix everything immediately with a thought. They think we have some kind of connection with the ether that can instantly solve any illness with a benevolent touch of the hand.

    We're not. We have studied extensively to assess what's going on through sight, touch, smell, lab results, radiology scans, etc to use the equipment (Ivs, cardiac monitors, medication, etc) to help a patient over time.

    We don't always HAVE time. Or equipment. Sometimes moving someone is worse than leaving them. Sometimes all we can do is protect someone from traffic and call for help (911).

    This is a very sad story from any point of view. I wish we were magic so we could make it better always.
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    Quote from JD'sMom
    Thank you both for your kind words. I don't know if it was pure panic, or something else altogether. Impairment and attentiveness are in question. All of that aside, I am not the kind of person to carry hatred, as I now long for the hereafter, where I can see and hold my beautiful son again, so I am doing my best to hold myself and my family together.

    I appreciate your candor, as I am trying desperately to understand, but knowing that I was on the opposite end of the street, having come home from a meeting three miles away, my child not there, and seeing the lights down the roadway, and I had called him over and over on the phone, and all his friends. Finally the police came down on my end of the street and I rushed to find if he could answer my question of whether or not there was a skateboard or bike involved. He confirmed my worst fears. I remember crying, but not screaming, as my mind was racing 100 mph, trying to think of what I needed to do, to reach my older child, who had driven out looking for him, and get her off the streets before she found out from someone else, and to reach my husband, who was attending a seminar. It was horrible, but I didn't panic. I remember thinking that maybe they had made a mistake...

    I just can't fathom watching someone bleed to death, when you have the knowledge or the skills to do SOMETHING!
    Trying to find understanding in a situation that cannot be understood will drive you NUTS! Not all nurses are trained in emergency care. Some specialize in the care of the elderly and have no idea what to do. Trying to make sense out of this won't happen because it makes no sense. YOu will drive yourself crazy.

    The have been times in my career that I wondered why one patient lived over the other. That the 98 year old "makes it" yet the baby didn't. That is where faith steps in.......I have faith that I don't make the decisions. That there is someone else who knows more than I and can see the bigger picture and know the bigger purpose.

    I have faith in that and in HIM I trust.

    Life doesn't make sense. Don't look for reason where none can be found....it's like looking for a penny in a round room.....it will drive you nuts!

    I wish I could make this go away for you......but I think trying to figure out the "whys" will not help you heal. I pray that you find that place that even though you don't know why....you can find peace in your heart....your family deserves it. You son would want that.

    I am sending the biggest hugs I can.........
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    Im so sorry for your loss....I hope in time you find some solace.....may your child rest in peace....
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