A patient died today. . . . - page 5
I guess I've come to the conclusion that I'm kind of sad and maybe even a bit depressed. I work nights. It is now 6:20 PM and I haven't even been to bed yet. What have I been doing? Two things,... Read More
Jun 18, '03Wow!!! This post is really wonderful. So many touching stories. Thanks to everyone (especially Ted and RNfrog3) for sharing.
Jun 18, '03Ted I'm thankful you were there for this person. Sometimes that is the only and last thing we can do for them. I have seen many people die and have tried to comfort or pray with them so I know how touched you are for him and how it reminds us of our own mortality. As a Christian I don't believe we die but just go from here to glory. I've seen people leave this earthly body and be so peaceful. You feel the presence in the room when its over and know they are ok. I pray you get some rest and find peace to deal with your own mortality because I believe with all my heart that the spirit man lives forever only the body dies.
Jun 19, '03Thank you for sharing. This is one of the many reasons I love nursing. We give a part of us daily.
Jun 19, '03I am sorry for your loss- but I just wanted to say that that was the most moving thing i have ever read. What a great example of the true compasionate nature of a nurse. If I was dying i would want a nurse to do exactly as you did-- to be there, to actually care. GOD BLESS YOU. Nurses are the best.
Jun 25, '03Ted,
It has been a long time since I have sat and held the hand of one that needed comfort and support through their journey to the other side of life.
I feel for you and my heart bleeds at these words even as tears roll down my cheeks....and the memories flood back.
Okay, so I was one that put the paper work off till the end of the shift, but that was because I was so busy giving myself to my patients......but sometimes it is not easy to leave work at a work....
Sometimes ya just have to sob your heart out into an entire box of tissue.......
Sometimes, it comforts the heart and soul of a patient to know that they are not alone and it is okay to let go.....
And sometimes that patient wants someone to tell the family to go rest, so that they do not have to feel like they must hold on any longer.....somehow; I think, it helps erradicate the guilt of leaving friends and loved ones behind....
Ted, My Friend......I feel for you and am sorry for your loss....
And my heart goes out to you, Ted.....and if we were compadres in the same facility.....We would go and have a beer after a night like that and celebrate the good that we do and the vibrancy of life it's self.
Hugs and Prayers....
Jun 26, '03wow!
you are the reason i want to be a nurse
your compassion moved me
I'm on the road to help just like you did
Jul 1, '03Thanks Ted, I am a noc nurse at a nursing home and have several experiences with a dying person with no family. Just recently was with my 90 yo aunt that had Alzheimer's. I think she knew Mom and I were there for her. And oh the memories I have of her, as she lived right next door with my grandmother while I was growing up. If not for her I wouldn't be a RN. And I'm sure she's up there with the rest of the family I have waiting. Thanks again, Ted, was so nice to know someone else has these feelings.
Jul 1, '03Ahh Teddy, that was beautiful. I know what you mean. I've seen so many people die, I've cared for so many hours from their deaths. You know what, I'll never let myself get jaded about this. I'm not a religious person, but each death to me is such a awe-inspiring thing. So holy and precious. Then there are the ones who really stick with you, that will probably always leave an impression with me. You know this is the part of nursing that really reminds me why I became a nurse, and strange as it may sound, these are the moments that I love my job the most.
Jul 1, '03I'm so glad you're a nurse. You'll never know what it meant to that gentleman to have you there with him, caring for him.
A nurse was with my mom and me when mom was dying, back in January. She hugged me, kept me informed, and when my mom was ready to go, sat there with us until mom died. I was so unravelled that I forgot to hold my moms hand, until the nurse took my hand and placed my moms hand in mine. I'm grateful to her....I held my moms hand. Then she passed away. It was the hardest, most precious moment of my life. And that nurse was there. I won't ever forget her.
I'm still trying to figure out how to say thank you and have it sound the way I want it to.
Please don't be too sad. You've done such a wonderful thing. God Bless you.