A Father's Tears - page 7

by Elvish Guide

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I received his mother, AA, to a room on our floor shortly after midnight one night. She had presented to ER at 15+ weeks gestation with ruptured membranes and intermittent vaginal bleeding; the OB staff suspected chorioamnionitis... Read More


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    As a new OB nurse, I thank you for bringing this to my attention before I encounter it. It was beautifully written.

    I thank you (and that beautiful baby boy) for a lesson well learned.
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    Wow. How touching. I don't know what it is like to lose a child, let alone have a child. This can teach a lot of how people act in situations. Although the father was described as "macho" he is still a human being with human emotions. I know people that have lost children and I reach out to all people who have lost children, or any loved ones!! I will take this story to heart because when I get my RN license I don't want to forget that patients have emotions and aren't just the diseases they have or their hospital ID number!!
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    unquestionably, this is one of the most touching heartfelt article of human emotions that i have ever read. needless to say, as a single father i would be totally devastated if i lose one of my children...thank you for sharing this unforgettable story... aloha~
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    A beautiful, moving story, so well told. When our daughter died my husband was so numb with grief that he could not even shed a tear. In my own grief I felt his pain as he is an emotional person who can cry at sad TV shows, films etc. Others might have found him hard and uncaring but, knowing him as I did, after 10 yrs of marriage, most of which had been spent trying for a baby, I knew his grief was way off the scale for any show of any emotions.
    This happened in 1984. Our baby was 14 months old. She had an ASD, VSD & pulmonary hypertension. She needed a heart & lung transplant but, back then, they were in their infancy so not available for her. They operated to try to close the defects but the pressure from her lungs was too great. I can't say that she died peacefully as she was in the midst of a resuscitation attempt which involved her wound being torn open to allow direct heart massage. I asked them to stop but was told they could not. Had she lived she would have had, at the most, a few years of poor quality of life with severe breathing problems. I'm happy that she was spared that. She was our only child and still is.
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    Quote from pinkmegan
    she was our only child and still is.
    may you both be blessed with healthy children in the near future as i keep you my prayers... aloha~
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    Quote from Pinkmegan
    A beautiful, moving story, so well told. When our daughter died my husband was so numb with grief that he could not even shed a tear. In my own grief I felt his pain as he is an emotional person who can cry at sad TV shows, films etc. Others might have found him hard and uncaring but, knowing him as I did, after 10 yrs of marriage, most of which had been spent trying for a baby, I knew his grief was way off the scale for any show of any emotions.
    This happened in 1984. Our baby was 14 months old. She had an ASD, VSD & pulmonary hypertension. She needed a heart & lung transplant but, back then, they were in their infancy so not available for her. They operated to try to close the defects but the pressure from her lungs was too great. I can't say that she died peacefully as she was in the midst of a resuscitation attempt which involved her wound being torn open to allow direct heart massage. I asked them to stop but was told they could not. Had she lived she would have had, at the most, a few years of poor quality of life with severe breathing problems. I'm happy that she was spared that. She was our only child and still is.
    Pinkmegan, I am so so sorry for the loss of your sweet daughter. Thank you for this heartfelt response, and I pray that you and your husband have found peace.
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    Thank you, that was an amazing story.
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