A doctor asking you to give him a cup of coffee!! - page 5

Hi Everyone: I have a silly question to ask.... We have a doc who is handicap and walks with crutches. I dont have a clue what happened to him. He is always rude and mean with his patients and... Read More

  1. by   showbizrn
    [FONT="System"]PHYSICALLY: HANDICAPPED

    BEHAVIORALLY: RUDE

    HMMMMMMM---NOPE. NO COFFEE.

    THAT'S MY ATTITUDE!
  2. by   GadgetRN71
    Quote from Suesquatch
    I'd have figured that Greg House showed up on my floor and handed him the coffee and a bottle of Vicodin.
    I thought the same thing, LOL. I think with this particular doc, I would not have gotten the coffee, because he's rude typically, from what the OP said. I've worked with docs that will buy us pizza when their cases run over, or who will write you a prescription for medication if you need it or who are just decent polite people. For the docs with manners, I might not begrudge them a cup of coffee, because I know they have my back if I or a family member needs them.
  3. by   nghtfltguy
    Quote from Dalzac
    If he had said "Could you please get me a cup of coffee?" I would have gotten it for him. But then he would have to say "Thank you " other wise I would have said no. Please and thank you are the magic words. My Granny told me that 50 yrs ago. It is still very true for today.
    exactly!!!

    well... imma male nurse.. so it is a bit different...
    for some reason.. doctors treat me different than female nurses...
    it pisses me off.....even the female doctors....
    even the ones that don't know im going to med school...
    the OR is the worst!!!
    when i float there and scrub in...
    im not a freakin surgeon!!
    why treat the female nurses like they are slaves and treat me like im a nobel prize winning surgeon???
    makes no sense!!!
    i went to nursing school w/ them..... we are the same!.. well for the most part.....
    they are terrified to call the doc to get new orders..
    i will call the doc on his cell in the middle of the night and make fun of him cause its the carreer he chose.....i don't have to ask for orders...
    i just say.. hey.... im starting *so and so* on this.. imma write it up ok?
    i usually get a .. sure.. whatever...
    or.. why
    then i gotta explain why im putting someone on vancomycin because of c diff.... blah.. blahhhhh
    it urks me that i can do that kind of stuff.. and there are way more competent nurses than me... that are female. that are intimidated by male doctors....
    i feel for you all.. i truly do....
    but...
    there are many of my female pts that wont let me deal w/ them cause imma guy...

    oh well....
  4. by   Alois Wolf
    Same. If I was asked politely, I would get coffee for anyone if I wasn't busy with something else. But I'm no ones door-mat, if you want your coffee that badly, better just get it yourself. It's an unfortunate thing that he's disabled, but that is no excuse to expect people to bow down to your every wish... and it's definately no reason to be nasty. There will always be someone out there that has it worse off than you.
  5. by   zuzi
    Depend how he will ask me for a coffe? The sound make the music!

    If he is rude or agressive or pushing manner, NO! If he is just normal with me probably I will!
  6. by   RNtoJD
    This happened to me once. A (female, btw) ER doc asked if there was coffee in the back. One of the nurses said yes. She said "I will take mine with cream and sugar." She was ignored. She tried the same thing with me "I will take mine with cream and sugar." I simply said, "Really? Well all the fixins are in the back along with the coffee. Better hurry while there is still some left."

    I later found out that this doc was driving 4 hours each way to work marathon shifts. Subsequently, I made a point to offer her a cup when I went back there. Not to be nice, but so she would know that when it is MY intent to do something not in my job description for her I will offer to do so. Worked like a charm.

    On the other hand, in a subsequent job in MRI, I frequently worked with a core group of anesthesiologists (pediatric/claustrophobic patients needed sedation). They could not leave the monitor while a patient was under sedation/anesthesia. I had no hesitation about offering and even making a cup for them. Most were great to work with and one even brought me a bowl of chicken soup when I was sick as a dog at work (he was a sweetheart). Bottom line: we took care of each other and it made the job very enjoyable, but NO ONE made demands.
  7. by   herecomestrouble
    Quote from Shantas
    Yes he does use both hands to use the crutches.....but I still dont feel comfortable because of his behavior, attitude and past history....none of the other docs ever made any request to me like that.

    I'm willing to bet none of the other docs have to use both hands to walk using crutches.I would have made a comment to the effect that he could say please and thank you though
  8. by   TiredMD
    Quote from nghtfltguy
    the OR is the worst!!!
    when i float there and scrub in...
    im not a freakin surgeon!!
    why treat the female nurses like they are slaves and treat me like im a nobel prize winning surgeon???
    makes no sense!!!
    Professions protect their own. If you're in med school, it's not suprising that you are treated better than the nurses, since you are now "in the club". It's the same as how nurses treat CNAs who are in nursing school vs those who aren't, and how my treatment as a CNA immediately went in the toilet when the nurses found out I got into med school . . .

    Of course, all that niceness disappears once you start your third year.
  9. by   ebear
    Man, if that ain't the truth! Third year med students have a definite personality change!
    ebear
  10. by   Kayartea
    Quote from Shantas
    Hi Everyone:
    I have a silly question to ask....
    We have a doc who is handicap and walks with crutches. I dont have a clue what happened to him. He is always rude and mean with his patients and nursing staff....anyhow yesterday I was working and I was taking care of one of his patients. He asked me if we made any coffee and I told him, we may have some old coffee. Then I got busy with my patients and when I came back to the nurses station he asked me where was his coffee??
    I did not know how to respond....I did not feel comfortable with giving him coffee because he has this "thing" about taking nurses out!! He thinks all female nurses are after him...!! Then again I felt bad becuase he is a handicap and perhaps I should have helped him....what would you have done in my situation??
    Thanks
    Normally I would say just get the guy a cup of coffee, but since he makes a point of being rude to nurses, in this case I would have just said, "I don't know, you need to check with your waitress."
  11. by   flashpoint
    I would have probably just gotten him the coffee and left it at that. We have a grouchy, sarcastic, arrogant doctor that comes to our nursing home once a week...I always have a cup of coffee and some cookies waiting for him. He always brings me drug rep pens and post-its and whatever else drug rep stuff he gets...and he gives it to me specifically just because I get him coffee and cookies.
  12. by   lpnflorida
    I would have brought the coffee to him. It is not beneath me to do that.

    Whether they were rude or not previously would not have been my concern. I tend to have the philosophy each day is a new day. Nor the fact that he had crutches have been why I would bring him coffee.

    I would bring coffee to anyone who asked no matter who they are and as long as I am not in a crisis situation. It has little to do with being a waitress, it is simply one human being to another.
  13. by   Batman24
    I would either tell them where the coffee was or get him a cup of it. He wasn't demanding one or being rude when asking. And if he's on crutches I would prob would have gotten it just to help him out a bit as crutches stink. lol

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