I never thought I'd find one, I love my hours I work as a clinical review nurse, and I love my main boss he's great, it's the other people in the office. It's small 3 nurses (1 part time) and 4 schedulers. Problem sets in, when I got the job I didn't realize it was bc the previous nurse up and left in a flurry of expletatives with no notice! I now see clearly why.
When I was hired I already had a vacation set and they were very gracious about honoring that, even though managers changed hands and actually the new one is even better. The problem lies with one of the workoholic nurses (besides our normal days she also does private duty and volunteers with crisis things on weekends) bc she lost her spouse a few years ago, well she makes the office barely tolerable. She's run a total of 3 nurses out. I thought I was stronger than that. I "get" her, I understand bc of her personal life she wants to run herself into the ground hardly sleeping etc...so she doesn't have to think about her loss...I get it, I do but I shouldn't be punished for it.
Anyway she was never crazy about the nurses having time off (schedulers are a different story) she thinks you should be a slave to the profession or you shouldn't be a nurse. However when confronted with this, she puts on a completely different show. She runs extremely hot and cold with me. Actually that's an understatement. She can be unbelievably nice and helpful and then she can be downright degrading and this is in a short time span. I've always had a mantra, I work to live, I don't live to work. Family comes first.
I really thought I would stick it out a year to have stability, but she broke the camels back a few weeks ago, so I sent out applications mostly out of frustration, but I didn't think anything would come of it. Well one did and as ambivilent as I was at first, I think I'd really be happy there. It's for a CRC position. It offers 12 weeks of training as opposed to the lie that I was fed for this current job that I would have much training and I got zero. In fact I'm self taught for pretty much most of it, asking questions here and there.
I think I did a pretty good interview, they want me to shadow and that's where the problem is. They want about a 3 hour block morning or afternoon, I figured I could just say I needed personal time. Any job I've ever had it's perfectly normal that there are things that can only be taken care of during bankers hours. Even certain doctors do not have weekend/evening hours. Well she is in total disbelief of this needing time off during working hours.
The thing that sucks is my main manager (as mentioned she believes she runs the office, it's a mistake they've made as she feels too self important, I kid you not when I say you have to tell her you are going to go pee! Even on the floor I didn't have to tell anyone. She refers to the office as the "floor" and maybe that's a problem. Anyway I was told to go to my manager with days off etc and I do. Most others go through this nurse for whatever reason, my manager said he was supposed to put out an email stating he was the contact person for time off but never did. Now I'm in the hot seat bc my last time for going to this interview resulting in 3 hours of my personal time, he never told the nurse (even though I asked if he wanted me to let her know he said he'd handle it) she blew a gasket.
We supposedly are entitled to taking our PTO with 2 weeks notice. Not a problem from my manager's standpoint as he beleives in work, life balance. She does not. I am trying to be fair so I apologized for not keeping her in the loop and what would be better...when I work early to leave early or to schedule time off when I work the later shift and come in later in the morning. I ask so I don't inconvenience anyone, I already work around the part time nurse and she's off 1 to 2 days a week, but still manages to complain how she can never get any time off!!!! I see how ridiculous that is just typing it, but I think I'm in the twilight zone much of the time.
So she blew up and said I need to schedule things off hours or risk being let go!!! However she has no power to do so. I could just go back to my manager for the time off, but I was hoping confronting her and trying to work with her would make her less frosty with me.
I have no idea what I'm going to do. I'm more convinced now I need to get out of there. We are short staffed supposedly there were always 4 nurses plus this other head nurse if you will. now we have 1.5. The work is steady but really I never feel overwhelmed, I see that they strive on drama for whatever reason.
I'm tempted to tell the other place I can't shadow as it's causing too much chaos, but I'd likely kiss the job goodbye then. Whether I do or don't shadow, if that job doesn't come through then I still have to figure out how to do other interviews. I never thought I'd say I miss my 3 twelves, but if trying to get out of a job, 9 to 5 is not a good time as most interviewers won't schedule after hours. Guess this is another one of those let go and let God moments for me. Just a vent that off the floor isn't always a picnic either.
If you were me, I'd leave. You sound miserable. If you're ever asked about the job by future employers
, tell them it wasn't a good fit. Say you left for whatever you end up in next. If you don't get the job you're shadowing for, work some agency and say that you left because you needed flexibility in your schedule at that point in time.
You said that you live to work, not work to live. I'd say something is wrong with the job if you're tearing up over it on the weekend. Run away, and don't let it destroy you.
Edit: Make your job this weekend to find out how you'll get to work in research. What kind of research do you want to do--nursing research or a research nurse on medical studies? Look at where the type of research nurse you want to be works. What kind of degree do they require? What schools are in your area? Is online a good option for you? If you need to RN-BSN, many state schools have online courses for less than for profits like University of Phoenix.
Last edit by outrunningzombies on Feb 4, '12