3 dui's in mi

the sheer arrogance and hypocrisy to the responses in this message are astounding. how many of you can honestly say that, at NO TIME in your life, you havent had more than 2 drinks and driven, even once? Driving intoxicated is not acceptable, nor should it be, but people make mistakes. i can only hope this girl gets help and can move on.

in response to the post of "how bout 1DUI=5 yr loss of license". are you serious? hopefully you never find yourself on the wrong side of the law. we'll see if you like an extreme punishment for a first offense. until you walk in someone else's skin, dont judge.

Woowwwwww...ignorance.

Add me to the list of people who don't do idiotic stuff like that. I'm the permanent DD in my group of friends, the one who orders water while everyone else drinks beer. When I do drink, my husband does not and he drives.

And I agree that 1 DUI should equal a 5 year loss of license, IF NOT PERMANENT. I think 5 years for 3 offenses is too lenient...by that time, it should be permanent. You've proven you can't be trusted.

I just have to say something to this. I would never ever drive drunk at this point in my life. If I do drink I always have someone sober to drive me home. However, the only reason I made a commitment to never drive drunk is because my husband had lost his license for 3 DWIs and with 2 small kids, what kind of family would we be if no one could drive? I just could not risk it. Now my husband has been sober for 15 yrs now and has his license back but I still would never do it because I dont want to hurt anyone. When we were in our teens and early 20s however we partied with the best (or worst) of them and, like many young people did not anticipate any harm coming to anyone because of our actions.
I am such a completely different person now than I was when I was 21. My husband is as well. I am a good upstanding citizen, I never break the law, I have 2 great kids and a husband anyone would be proud of. I hate the idea of anyone giving up on me. Sometimes people make mistakes, that doesn't mean they can never be trusted again. People deserve a second chance, especially young people with a greater capacity for changing bad behavior than someone with a 30yr track record of bad decision making. I dont know how old the person in question is and I am not saying people should not suffer the consequences of their actions but jeez, cut people a break once in a while. You never know what someone has been through or why they do what they do.

I just have to say something to this. I would never ever drive drunk at this point in my life. If I do drink I always have someone sober to drive me home. However, the only reason I made a commitment to never drive drunk is because my husband had lost his license for 3 DWIs and with 2 small kids, what kind of family would we be if no one could drive? I just could not risk it. Now my husband has been sober for 15 yrs now and has his license back but I still would never do it because I dont want to hurt anyone. When we were in our teens and early 20s however we partied with the best (or worst) of them and, like many young people did not anticipate any harm coming to anyone because of our actions.
I am such a completely different person now than I was when I was 21. My husband is as well. I am a good upstanding citizen, I never break the law, I have 2 great kids and a husband anyone would be proud of. I hate the idea of anyone giving up on me. Sometimes people make mistakes, that doesn't mean they can never be trusted again. People deserve a second chance, especially young people with a greater capacity for changing bad behavior than someone with a 30yr track record of bad decision making. I dont know how old the person in question is and I am not saying people should not suffer the consequences of their actions but jeez, cut people a break once in a while. You never know what someone has been through or why they do what they do.

the sheer arrogance and hypocrisy to the responses in this message are astounding. how many of you can honestly say that, at NO TIME in your life, you havent had more than 2 drinks and driven, even once? Driving intoxicated is not acceptable, nor should it be, but people make mistakes. i can only hope this girl gets help and can move on.

in response to the post of "how bout 1DUI=5 yr loss of license". are you serious? hopefully you never find yourself on the wrong side of the law. we'll see if you like an extreme punishment for a first offense. until you walk in someone else's skin, dont judge.

If someone pointed a loaded gun at another person and shot three times, regardless of whether he missed or not, he would go to jail. The same should apply to DUI's.

Your husband got lucky and never killed anyone. As someone who has lost people to drunk drivers, I have *no* tolerance for that. I don't care what's going on in your life, that behavior is unacceptable, and I think if the punishments were harsher, some of the people who do it casually would think twice, including teens. The people I lost were lost to a teenage drunk driver, and I wish he was rotting in jail, but instead he got off with a fine and a temporary license loss. Like somebody said before, driving drunk isn't just a mistake, it's a conscious choice that should be punished harshly.

America is too lenient with punishments some times. We have a higher BAC limit, lower fines, shorter license suspensions and shorter jail time than most other developed countries. Even Canada is harder on their DUI offenders than the US. We need to step up and start doing more than slapping the hands of repeat offenders...what they need is a slap in the face.

I'm all for second chances, but those killed or injured by drunk drivers never get that. You husband was REALLY lucky he didn't kill or hurt someone. I'm glad he has his life together and has changed his ways. But it seemed it took taking away his license for him to decide what he was doing was wrong. That's what I don't understand - until it impacted him personally, he didn't learn. Why doesn't the fear of hurting others deter people? I not trying to pick on you, I honesty would like to know, because I have never understood the mentalilty of thinking it is ok?? And please don't give me the youth answer, because since I was 16, I KNEW that driving intoxicated was wrong and could hurt someone.

I do give him credit though...there are some that never seem to learn. Believe me I am truly glad that both of you are sober drivers now.

It often takes a monumental event to get an addict into recovery. This is what did it for him. He went straight into a court ordered month long tx program as well as a short stint in the county jail and community service etc. Also, awareness of the dangers of DD is a relatively new development. At the time we were drinking it was just starting to be publicized as a real threat to safety. He was 23 when he got the 3rd one and had grown up with a father that was drunk more often than not.
I dont know why the 1st one didn't slap him into reality but it didn't. We are both so different now and we cant believe half the stuff we did when we were younger.