"What do you need Christmas off for? You don't have kids!" (rant) - page 11

It's that time of year again, even though the holiday schedule has been out for a year, people are making last minute switches. No big deal except for a co-worker that approached me, after seeing i... Read More

  1. by   mysticalwaters1
    Quote from Fun2Care
    So true... My youngest is 8, if all goes as planned, when I have my first Christmas as an RN, she will be 11.

    ...Old enough to be realize mom isn't there, but old enough to realize the importance of my absence. However, that will not ever change the fact that I would rather be there.

    ...And yet again, I'll say my opinion about the OP's comment, I agree with her (Marie_LPN's) stronghold on her decision. People shouldn't use their children as an excuse to get what they want.


    The nice thing about 3-11 is the christmas morning off! My mom worked as an NA then an LPN and well I was 11 and up when she did it but she worked it out to spend time in the morning for presents and then later when she was done for work. We were upset but it was ok b/c my family still spent time together.
  2. by   Fun2, RN, BSN
    Quote from mysticalwaters1
    I'll hear well i have kids you don't I need that day off for first day of school (when hello your 3-11 full time already you must have figured something out to continue the job)!!!
    OK, now that is too much! Most people only walk elementary children in on the first day of school, and I've never heard of a night time elementary!

    Now, if it was 3-11 AM, didn't that person know months in advance that school would start on a certain day? Schools usually plan the calendar the year before!
  3. by   sjrn85
    I don't have kids and I don't celebrate Christmas, so every year my co-workers assumed I would be working the holidays. I used to help out, but rarely would anyone reciprocate when I needed a day off. So I started to take my holidays just like everyone else. It gave me an opportunity to be with friends who were off that day.

    I think it's rude to impose on co-workers like this thread describes. You made the choice to be a nurse, you made the choice to have kids. You need to work it out. But no one owes you a holiday just because you have kids.

    Even our nastiest co-workers have at least one person out there who loves them, cares about them. Those family members/friends are just as precious as another's kids.
  4. by   Fun2, RN, BSN
    Very true, sjrn85, and welcome to AllNurses.com!

    Quote from sjrn85
    I don't have kids and I don't celebrate Christmas, so every year my co-workers assumed I would be working the holidays. I used to help out, but rarely would anyone reciprocate when I needed a day off. So I started to take my holidays just like everyone else. It gave me an opportunity to be with friends who were off that day.

    I think it's rude to impose on co-workers like this thread describes. You made the choice to be a nurse, you made the choice to have kids. You need to work it out. But no one owes you a holiday just because you have kids.

    Even our nastiest co-workers have at least one person out there who loves them, cares about them. Those family members/friends are just as precious as another's kids.
  5. by   mysticalwaters1
    Quote from Fun2Care
    OK, now that is too much! Most people only walk elementary children in on the first day of school, and I've never heard of a night time elementary!

    Now, if it was 3-11 AM, didn't that person know months in advance that school would start on a certain day? Schools usually plan the calendar the year before!
    oops 3-11pm! Yeah I know I'm like what?! You can see them off. Well it's nice when they come home from school but my point you've been 3-11pm while there at school before. Well this is the same one who asked me if columbus day is considered a holiday at our hospital!
  6. by   JBudd
    Well, I want to give huge thank yous to the all the people at my work who made sure I had ALL the holidays off the year after my husband died in September, so I could be home with my three small ones. :kiss Even when I commented about taking my share, I was told my little ones needed me. :1luvu: Thanks guys!!

    Our work rotates holidays pretty much like the other posters have described. I've done my share of holidays ever since (and before for that matter). I would never use that excuse to try to guilt trip someone into working for me, and I have traded when someone needed it. I've done lots more Friday Thanksgiving dinners than Saturday, which works out well because more people can come over. Cousins and inlaws get MIL on Thursday, I get her on Friday, and she gets to see everyone.

    My SIL gets stuck working at her hospital almost all the holidays, being management and single, not withstanding she is my kids' godmother and the only one who can drive Grandma here from out of town to share the holiday with us. She always gets stuck working 3-11 on the Eve and Christmas Day, so she is short of sleep and time when she comes to celebrate with us.

    The Christmas mornings I missed with mine before, dad explained to them that sick people really needed someone to take care of them, because their moms couldn't. They learned to share "Mom" at an early age.

    I've asked lots of singles to come to Thanksgiving or Christmas dinner, because we like crowds and I always cook way too much, but I'm rarely taken up on it because they are either working or have plans to travel etc. Shame on people who flip guilt trips around!
  7. by   General E. Speaking, RN
    I posted a sign up sheet in September to try and work out 8hr shifts for the holidays (we work 12's). It was informal and the idea was to see if the staff could work it out amoungst ourselves. Well, people started writing snide comments all over it- mainly about night shift people signing up to work days, etc...as it stands we will be doing 12's. I am off for Christmas. Another girl is off for Thanksgiving. So, we decided to do 6 hr shifts for both days. That way, each of us can have family time and both shifts will be covered.
  8. by   Fun2, RN, BSN
    Quote from mysticalwaters1
    oops 3-11pm! Yeah I know I'm like what?! You can see them off. Well it's nice when they come home from school but my point you've been 3-11pm while there at school before. Well this is the same one who asked me if columbus day is considered a holiday at our hospital!
    Did you say "Yes! ...and all the patients get well the day before, and everyone of them get sick again on the day after! ...It's an amazing thing!"


    JBudd, first of all, I am so sorry to hear about your husband. I am glad your coworkers were kind enough to do that for you!

    We too have asked plenty of our single friends to holdays at our house, and other events. I learned that gesture early on from my mother. Most of the time, they have their own life to be envolved in, and would rather not take the offer.
  9. by   DusktilDawn
    Quote from kriso
    I posted a sign up sheet in September to try and work out 8hr shifts for the holidays (we work 12's). It was informal and the idea was to see if the staff could work it out amoungst ourselves. Well, people started writing snide comments all over it- mainly about night shift people signing up to work days, etc...as it stands we will be doing 12's. I am off for Christmas. Another girl is off for Thanksgiving. So, we decided to do 6 hr shifts for both days. That way, each of us can have family time and both shifts will be covered.
    Writing snide comments on a sign-up sheet, very immature, very unnecessary.
  10. by   cjcsoon2bnp
    I am not a nurse yet and heck maybe I may sound like a jerk about this. But I am not working Christmas day or Thanksgiving day. Period. I don't mind working any other holiday or taking other wacky shifts. But those two days each year I would want to spend with my family and I refuse to work them. Christmas Eve, the day after Thanksgiving or the day before, Easter, my birthday or anything else I don't care. I don't think having kids or not having kids should affect who gets days off. I just refuse to work those two specific days. I realize as I write this that I must sound like such a brat.
  11. by   DusktilDawn
    Quote from StikyNoteRightr
    I am not a nurse yet and heck maybe I may sound like a jerk about this. But I am not working Christmas day or Thanksgiving day. Period. I don't mind working any other holiday or taking other wacky shifts. But those two days each year I would want to spend with my family and I refuse to work them. Christmas Eve, the day after Thanksgiving or the day before, Easter, my birthday or anything else I don't care. I don't think having kids or not having kids should affect who gets days off. I just refuse to work those two specific days. I realize as I write this that I must sound like such a brat.
    You're not the only one who wants to spend Thanksgiving and Christmas day with their family. Good luck getting both Thanksgiving and Christmas day off as a nurse. If this is something you are unwilling to compromise on, I also wish you luck in getting co-workers to agree to accommodate you.
  12. by   fergus51
    Quote from StikyNoteRightr
    I am not a nurse yet and heck maybe I may sound like a jerk about this. But I am not working Christmas day or Thanksgiving day. Period. I don't mind working any other holiday or taking other wacky shifts. But those two days each year I would want to spend with my family and I refuse to work them. Christmas Eve, the day after Thanksgiving or the day before, Easter, my birthday or anything else I don't care. I don't think having kids or not having kids should affect who gets days off. I just refuse to work those two specific days. I realize as I write this that I must sound like such a brat.
    Just be aware that will not be tolerated in many hospital jobs.
  13. by   babynurselsa
    StikyNoteRighter, I think you are missing the point. If you go to work as a nurse in a hospital your expectation is completely unrealistic. You will be very lucky in some places just to get one or the other off. As has been mentioned many, many times nursing is 365 24/7. Patients do not conveniently all get better and go home on Thanksgiving Eve and Christmas Eve. Most of your co-workers would equally desire these days off to be with their own families and friends as well.
    So unless you walk out of Nursing School straight into upper managment (CNO) or you opt to work in a physicians office your expectaions are completely unrealistic.

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