"I Will...Remain Alive" - A Story of Organ Donation - page 2

National Donor Day - February 14 Let's remember the people who gave the gift of life to others. “Our son, Adam, was declared brain dead on January 20, 1998. He had been riding back to college... Read More

  1. by   jeastridge
    Quote from dbabz
    I've posted about this subject before. I'm currently a nursing student and I lost my precious little 5-year-old son in 2010 in a drowning accident. We donated his organs and were comforted greatly by the opportunity to glean a bit of good out of a nightmare. The staff of the organ donation organization had everything to do with this. Even through my grief, I was able to recognize what extraordinary people they were. That's the point of this post. While I would imagine training is important and necessary, I'm not sure that anyone could do it. I truly believe there was just something about these people that made it work. I don't know what that thing was--empathy? compassion? But those are attributes many people have. The word that comes to mind is "holy"--and I'm not religious. Maybe it's just the idea that anyone who would make this their life's work would have to be cut from a special cloth. I hope this was helpful--just my two cents.
    Yes, very helpful. The fact that you are able to write this post to help others, says something wonderful about you. Thank you and may you continue to move forward in healing as you train to help others. Joy
  2. by   jeastridge
    Quote from brownbook
    The topic of being an organ donor came up in the nurses break room. I stupidly thought it would be a no brainer in that everyone would be a donor. I was so shocked to hear two nurses say they wouldn't do it. One had some crazy story about a friend seeing a loved one who was a donor something about they had chopped off the loved ones leg? I couldn't respond to that! I was so shocked I can't remember what the other nurse said.


    I had thought these were two intelligent rational co-workers.
    Interesting. It's hard to know what kind of experience this nurse might have been referring to. What is true is that education helps. But how to share a different perspective? Sometimes just asking a well placed question can make people wonder if they have it right. For example, "I wonder if other people have beautiful experiences with the donation process?" Joy.....
  3. by   djh123
    Thanks for this article.

    We all know how important organ donation is. The daughter of a cousin got a kidney transplant about a year ago, and she's only 15! I don't remember what unusual condition she has - when I heard what it was, it was when she was little and that was before I was a nurse. Regardless, I was so glad when I heard they'd found a match. My cousin and his oldest son were both being considered, but evidently they found a great match with someone else.
  4. by   Psychtrish39
    I lost my son Charlie to suicide in 2013 he was an organ donor and through him receiving his heart a construction worker in New York lives . A farmer in Nebraska has one kidney and a man in Ohio has another . He gave his stem cells and corneas and skin and bone tissues and through that process and with the help of the transplant organization we have received letters from the recepients and all together he helped we know of 9 people and numerous others .
    Charlie had depression and it killed him but he lives on in others and that helps some of my grief about losing him. He always thought of others and this was his final gift to the world.
    Last edit by Psychtrish39 on Feb 16 : Reason: clarity
  5. by   jeastridge
    Quote from Psychtrish39
    I lost my son Charlie to suicide in 2013 he was an organ donor and through him receiving his heart a construction worker in New York lives . A farmer in Nebraska has one kidney and a man in Ohio has another . He gave his stem cells and corneas and skin and bone tissues and through that process and with the help of the transplant organization we have received letters from the recepients and all together he helped we know of 9 people and numerous others .
    Charlie had depression and it killed him but he lives on in others and that helps some of my grief about losing him. He always thought of others and this was his final gift to the world.
    I am so sorry for you loss. Thank you for sharing your story. Charlie's life continues to be a blessing. Joy
  6. by   NurseKatie08
    I am a transplant nurse, and honestly, it is just about the most rewarding job I could imagine. My hospital did nearly 100 liver transplants last year & it is so amazing to see people go from being on death's door to living productive lives and celebrating their "second birthdays!"
  7. by   Ruas61
    Quote from brownbook
    The topic of being an organ donor came up in the nurses break room. I stupidly thought it would be a no brainer in that everyone would be a donor. I was so shocked to hear two nurses say they wouldn't do it. One had some crazy story about a friend seeing a loved one who was a donor something about they had chopped off the loved ones leg? I couldn't respond to that! I was so shocked I can't remember what the other nurse said.

    I had thought these were two intelligent rational co-workers.
    I am all for organ donation with the choice being done by the person by prior consent or family decision.

    I am all for people opting out for non-donation.

    I don't think anyone has the right to pass judgement on someone's choice to be a donor or not.

    I am intelligent and rational and do not want to be a donor.

    My reasons are my reasons and it doesn't make me stupid or irrational.
  8. by   jeastridge
    Quote from Ruas61
    I am all for organ donation with the choice being done by the person by prior consent or family decision.

    I am all for people opting out for non-donation.

    I don't think anyone has the right to pass judgement on someone's choice to be a donor or not.

    I am intelligent and rational and do not want to be a donor.

    My reasons are my reasons and it doesn't make me stupid or irrational.
    You make a good point here: this is a very personal choice. Organ donation is not something everyone can do or wants to do. As nurses our work is to be helpful and supportive of both decisions, without letting our feelings and biases interfere. Thank you for sharing your perspective on this sensitive topic. Joy
  9. by   Amethya
    Quote from Ruas61
    I am all for organ donation with the choice being done by the person by prior consent or family decision.

    I am all for people opting out for non-donation.

    I don't think anyone has the right to pass judgement on someone's choice to be a donor or not.

    I am intelligent and rational and do not want to be a donor.

    My reasons are my reasons and it doesn't make me stupid or irrational.
    I think what the poster means that some people are possibly not educated on that subject because of several horror stories that pop around that subject and don't understand why people do it.

    Here's an example, My mother is an educated woman but not on medicine. When I was getting my license for the first time and the option popped up if I wanted to be an organ donor, I was all for it because why not give someone a second try in life, when mine has extinguished from this crazy world? But my mother was telling me no, because then when my name pops up in that database, people will try to get me killed so they can harvest my organs.

    That was when I was 18, I'm now 25 (26 this Wednesday) and I'm a registered organ donor because I choose that, and because I'm educated enough in that subject that I can decide yes or no, but some people are not like that and just take words by mouth on things like that.

    You're reasons do not make you stupid or irrational, but more rational because you are educated in that subject or in medicine. I'm sure she wasn't trying to insult you in anyway, it's just some people don't understand about organ donation and such topics.
  10. by   brownbook
    Quote from Ruas61

    I am all for people opting out for non-donation.

    I don't think anyone has the right to pass judgement on someone's choice to be a donor or not.

    I am intelligent and rational and do not want to be a donor.

    My reasons are my reasons and it doesn't make me stupid or irrational.
    i agree completely. It was a poor choice of words to imply someone who doesn't want to donate is stupid or irrational and I thank you for pointing that out to me. Amethya said it better than I.

    To not donate is a personal choice I completely support. But I hope it is based on religion, or facts, not horror stories of what happens to the donors body.
  11. by   Amethya
    Quote from brownbook
    i agree completely. It was a poor choice of words to imply someone who doesn't want to donate is stupid or irrational and I thank you for pointing that out to me. Amethya said it better than I.

    To not donate is a personal choice I completely support. But I hope it is based on religion, or facts, not horror stories of what happens to the donors body.
    Thank you and I agree. There's not many facts of this in doctor's offices and such, so not many people know the real truth of organ donation. I think there should be more information floating around because you'll never know when someone might truly need it.

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