"Honestly it happened to a friend". Advice?

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One of my colleagues has been having big time issues with her manager. Borderline harassment, documented all interactions including follow ups.

Today it happened "by accident" She was with a colleague who was helping her with a "training" on new paperwork. The collegue was directed by the semi hostile supervisor to teach the paperwork etc.

While chatting through the boorish paperwork it was disclosed accidently by the colleague that the supervisor stated "you need to watch out for susie nurse" "She will bowl you over with her dominant personality, bosting on her knowlege and taking over".

I told "the friend" this is more then unprofessional and should be documented and reported to her supervisor. I know that there has been other concerns regarding this addressed with not much response.

Is this harassement? Or is it just bad managment. What should she do? :mad:

xtxrn, ASN, RN

4,267 Posts

Stay out of it.

SoCalRN1970

219 Posts

I offered no advice. But curious how would one proceed in a case like this? Call an attorney? Just kidding.

The paperwork was "boorish"? As in rude and clumsy?

SoCalRN1970

219 Posts

LOL more like clumsy.

vanburbian

228 Posts

Specializes in ER.

Wow, I am confused:

you're asking if your work colleague should report to her supervisor something her supervisor told another nurse?

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nursel56

7,078 Posts

Specializes in Peds/outpatient FP,derm,allergy/private duty.

Which one is susie nurse? So your friend's boss told a new employee to watch out for your friend because the boss thinks she runs over people like a steamroller?

caliotter3

38,333 Posts

Agree with the first poster, stay out of it.

nola1202

587 Posts

trust other nurses like me who take everything said about another person with a grain of salt. I often will tell people who say such things that I prefer to make my own judgements about my co-workers, and it takes a little while for me to get to know everyone.

kool-aide, RN

594 Posts

Specializes in Cardiac.

He said, She said, blah, blah, blah….. :uhoh3:

rnspark

21 Posts

Dude, I don't understand this post one bit. Who said what to who?

Specializes in Oncology/Haemetology/HIV.

MYOB

Stay out of it.

Person A and Manager B don't get along. Person C says that Manager B "said something" about Person A.

First, it reads like the plot line of "Real Housewives of Medical County", with a petty catfight about to ensue after the commercial break.

Person A does not know what was actually said, nor how it was said. Person A (in most cases) can be fired at the whim of Manager B. And in most cases, HR is more likely to believe the manager over the employee. And as this is something that was not heard "first hand", it is utterly worthless.

In addition, by reporting it, what does your " friend" accomplish. Well, she gets Person C in hot water, and your "friend" gets a very hostile manager who, if s/he is smart will be more discrete in behavior, which is often more dangerous and underhanded. Your "friend" discredits herself by relating a "C told A that B said this about A", making A look really foolish and catty, to HR.

Does it do any good for your friend? The odds are against it.

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