[TazziRN]

18-yr-old, immature Girl Child moved out last week, against Hubs' and my advice. She quit the store (benefitted position) and went to work at my HH agency as a caregiver (no bennies). This is a text conversation I had with her today.

GC: How do you work all day and then come home and deal with family nonsense? It's hard.

Me: It's called LIFE.

GC: I'm amazed that you're able to work all day and keep the family and house organized...you're more impressive than God!

Me: You mean I'm finally getting some appreciation?

GC: You're getting more appreciation and a boatload of admiration. Are you sure you're not a superhero?

Me: No, I'm a MOM

GC: Semantics

Me: Don't tell God that.

GC: I'm sure He would agree with me on this one.

I found out today that Sunday Hubs was supposed to find a way to get me to her place for a surprise Mother's Day dinner. Problem is she invited the grandparents too and didn't tell them not to tell me!

[dianah]

Awwwwww. She's learning.

[Grace Oz]

Enjoy the dinner, Tazzi! And ..... HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY to you for sunday!

[nyapa]

Awww, how sweet, Tazzi. Good to see she has her rose coloured glasses off re: living away from Mum. Lovely to see just how much she really does appreciate you. Must have been hard for you when she left. Is she your first child to leave home?

Have a wonderful Mothers Day tomorrow. Just pretend you know nothing...ssshhh...and act all surprised!

[elizabells]

Echoing the above: Awwwwww.

[CHATSDALE]

Originally Posted by elizabells

Echoing the above: Awwwwww.

I make a point of calling my momma every time I find myself thinking "You know, mom was right about XXXXX". Especially if it's something we fought about.

this is true of all grown women except eve

[clemmm78]

My middle one is my only girl - she's 19. She's as sweet as can be to everyone else, but to me, let's just say, she's not.

People keep telling me that it will get better and we'll be the best of friends one day. To tell you the truth, I can't see it.

Just today, she was in my office on my computer and I asked her if she wanted to go to a nearby cafe for a treat. No, she said. I'm not hungry or thirsty. I know if it had been a friend, she'd have been out that door in minutes.

A couple of hours later, she was in the kitchen and I tried to start a conversation, asking her about her evening out before. ONe word answers. That was it. Yet, she can laugh and gab on the phone all night.

What makes it all worse is when she wants to, she's all lovey dovey. She not coming home tonight, she's staying at my sister's after being out late.But she came to assure me that she'd be home bright and early tomorrow morning and gave me a kiss on the cheek. Yeah, when it's convenient to her, she'll think of being nice to me.

Am I frustrated? you bet I am. I don't know what I'm allowed to say to her and what I'm not.

[TazziRN]

Originally Posted by clemmm78

Am I frustrated? you bet I am. I don't know what I'm allowed to say to her and what I'm not.

I went through this with GC for a while, until I realized something: my house, my rules. I can say what I want. If she doesn't like it, tough. When she is grown up and has her own house she can say what she wants. That's kind of how we ended up where we are now.

Today I found out that her new roommates are "not allowed to have a dog because XXX's mom doesn't think she's responsible enough to have one."

Me: "Why does her mom get to say what she has? It's her house!"

Her: "Her mom is paying most of her rent and getting the furniture and everything."

So, in a nutshell, all these 19-22-yr-olds who have been telling my daughter that at 18 she's old enough to be on her own and that we're wrong for "holding her back", are having their rents paid for by their parents.

Yeah.......they're grown up and on their own......uh huh........

[Spidey's mom]

Oh . . that is funny Tazzi (the dog story) . . .

You give me hope . . .prom is tonight . . I'm still waiting for them to come by so I can take a photo.

She got ready at a friend's house so I haven't even seen her.

steph

[dianah]

(wanna see pictures, Steph!! Thx! )

'Prom' reminds me: youngest ds got ready to go to his Jr/Sr banquet (it's a 'banquet' @ SDA schools ): tux, black tie, put on some white (??) shoes, got his bro. to drive him to a costume store to buy a top hat.
Well, I didn't get a chance to see him all dressed up . . .

but dh tells me that in addition to the top hat and tux, he wore







a gas mask.

Kids.