[TazziRN]

I won't go into detail because it would make for long and boring reading for you, but suffice to say my daughter's name is Mud right now. She has irritated me to no end over the last year and has even made me angry, but yesterday (for only the second time I can remember) I jumped right over "angry" and took a flying leap into absolute FURY!!! I have not talked to her since last night; I even hid out in our bedroom most of the evening because I knew I might say something I shouldn't. She has a friend visiting overnight, which is the ONLY reason I didn't rip her head off when she came home last night.



*deep breaths*

I can remain calm.........I can do this..............I can be calm...........

[HM2Viking]

I am glad that you are taking a timeout.....Daughters are the most difficult to raise (As a man surrounded by females :>>>)

[sharrie]

I think that it is only our children who know exactly which buttons to push to get us from the level of just cross to bloody furious.


Keep on with the deep breaths

[Joe NightingMale]

Sorry to hear that Tazzi, but as others have noted above this does indeed happen. I suspect that all you can do it wait until things calm down and then move on from there. Hopefully this will prove a learning experience...

[dianah]

Hugs, Tazzi.

Been there, done that.

I remember (once or twice ) screaming at my kids, I was so upset (I DID use my words, just with GREAT FORCE and FURY).
They were quiet for about 3 min, then asked, "Are you OK now, Mom?" (just waited for the storm to pass)

Well, then I was able to more calmly outline my position and mete out decrees and consequences.

Hang in there.
Hopefully she's in knots inside, waiting for the confrontation (after her friend leaves).

[TazziRN]

She wants to go out New Year's Eve. If I have anything to say about it her sorry little butt will be sitting at home with the rest of us that night. Her boyfriend was supposed to come over last night. I was so ****** off that when she got home the first thing I said was "Call S---- and tell him he's not coming tonight."

[dianah]

Your siggy line says it all.
Bless you.

[earle58]

you have greater restraint than me.

like di, i have used my words, every now and then.

actually, the particular incident i am recalling, i didn't use my words.
i used a hammer.
dd was 17, did something totally unacceptable, then had the audacity to snicker at me, as she dashed passed me upstairs to her room, and locking the door.
banging on a solid wood door, wasn't helpful.
and it hurt my hands.
i ran downstairs to grab a hammer and slowly made my way upstairs to tiff's room.
tiff, noticing the silence, kept on saying, "mom?", "mom, are you there?", "mom, ANSWER ME".
and i warned her to stand back, as i swung that danged hammer, and clawed that stupid door opened.
tiffany's screaming for dad.
dad's standing there behind me, with a petrified look on his face.
(i might have even been frothing at the mouth).

when i got the door opened, i let out this "aaaaaaaaarrrrrrggggggggghhhhhh" with arms outstretched, and literally pounced on top of tiffany.
she fell back on her bed, as i jumped on top of her.

after that, i didn't know what to do...
i was tired and my adrenaline had stopped dead in its tracks.
trying to keep up the facade, i whispered to tiffany, "you are soooooo dead".
and i walked out, taking my hammer w/me.

the rest is history.
we all have our moments in time.
that was one of mine.

you did well, tazz.
a heck of a lot better than me.

i understand....
oh boy, do i.

hugs.....
and a hammer, anyone?

leslie

[TazziRN]

Dang, Les.......I like your methods! I wouldn't bang her door to pieces, but I like the jumping on top of her part, especially the "you are so dead" piece.......I wish I'd been a fly on the wall!

[Spidey's mom]

Umm . . Tazzi . . are we living parallel lives?

Had a similar confrontation with my 18 year old daughter . . fortunately for her she stayed at a friend's house.

In church this morning we did communion and I watched the other families with their children take communion and I started crying.

It really hurts when our kids do stupid things.

steph